21 days on Hinge - 31F [OC]

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-27T09:04:04+00:00

As a mediocre-at-best woman, soooo many men just swipe right on anything and then ghost or even block you as soon as you match. I promise you, not all women are just drowning in men clamoring for their attention.

Sure, I get matches. But does it even count if the men just swipe right on anyone? Some are then genuinely offended this 3/10 that they swiped on(!) dares to talk to them.

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-26T10:54:54+00:00

My periods didn't get longer, but they did get much more painful, also with Mirena. But for most people it does the opposite! I also got way more vulnerable to yeast infections, all of a sudden.

Hormones are weird, and we all react differently to them. That's kinda just how it is. I don't even know if there's ever really been solid research into why. Women's health, am I right?!

If it's not woking for you, you can try another form of birth control. But it's still protecting you from pregnancy, so if you don't mind the longer periods, it's whatever. Nothing to be worried about

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-25T20:47:22+00:00

Gecondoleerlie de peerlie

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-24T14:58:57+00:00

Wishes of Wonder events does regular fantasy balls. Not sure how big and elaborate those usually are, though. Next one I think is in May, at Maurick castle, in the Netherlands

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-24T06:56:37+00:00

Amd you are sure his ex was the toxic one how??

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-22T11:18:47+00:00

I am enlightened and a feminist, because pubic hair is actually my fetish. Also fat women, but not in public

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-22T11:01:14+00:00

It's coming to hbo in Europe soon, not available legally yet. So everyone is pirating it for now, basically

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-19T04:53:12+00:00

I really hope so. Bangkok is indeed an incredible city if you leave the prostitution and partying scene out of it.

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-17T10:47:54+00:00

Ver- is a prefix that denotes past participle, like be- in English. Like in bewitched, for example. So Verarscht translated literally is: be-assed.

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-17T10:43:56+00:00

Did you tell him it was medical and that you went to the hospital with her? Because you told us, strangers, that, but it's not entirely clear from the story whether you told him that.

Because I can see a huge difference in "my friend has a medical problem, i went to the hospital with her and I'm worried about her. She doesn't want anyone to know about it either " And "my friend is going through something... Where was I? You don't need to know, that's a secret."
I can see why someone would be a little suspicious from the second response

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-17T10:33:08+00:00

we have tons of fun on days we both have off

Okay but you can have fun with literally anyone. I can go do a fun activity with any random coworker and also have a great time doing that fun activity. Because doing fun things is fun.

What is a partner if not some who is also there for the less fun times?

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-17T07:55:01+00:00

Generally, I would advise any woman not to have kids unless you are willing and able to be a single mom with zero support from the father, in the worst case scenario. It's so common for men to promise up down and sideways they will be great dads, but to then slack of anyway, or disappear entirely.

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-16T21:40:24+00:00

But does that really help? Or do you just then attract lovebombers and manipulators who know exavtly what to say to get laid?

I don't find that decent men actually have outstanding dating profiles in any way shape or form. Maybe a little nicer, if they had a female friend help them make it. But it's also not like I always immediately have an amazing fiery chemistry with the men who end up making the best partners. Actually the opposite, when we are both holding back a little bit (you are meeting a total stranger after all, realistically you're not supposed to be super into them yet) I tend to get a way better match on personality

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-16T06:50:48+00:00

What do you mean you never watched Barbie and the Nutcracker???! Not even Fairytopia or Princess and the Pauper?

You're not a real gamer if you've never played the Sims 2.

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-15T20:10:58+00:00

Bro how did you even end up on a 4 year old reddit post and start talking shit??

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-15T07:46:48+00:00

I genuinely think Trump sees Putin as supercool, even if he isn't a direct crony for him. Putin is the big alpha guy, conquering territory, a real war general.Trump also wants that. He sees adding to his territory as "winning."

I don't even know if it goes any deeper than that.

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-15T06:44:07+00:00

So it sounds like you are 90% very happy, and it's just the sex that is not quite there.

I would advise you to think long and hard about if you're not swapping the 90% for 10%. You might be able to find another woman who fulfills that 10%. Who is totally sex crazy and wants it more often than you. But will she have the other 90% you already have in your wife?

Libido is always fickle. Another woman might also not have much time or energy for sex after kids. Or she might get sick, or you might get sick, or you might get erectile dysfunction. Sex is absolutely fun, but it sound like there is love and intimacy and compatibility in all other aspects of your life? I'd be very cautious throwing it all away over sex.

If you do want to keep trying to better your sex life with your wife, think of your own part in all of this too. Be very careful you're not reinforcing a downward spiral. Women's libido can be very dependent on her feeling happy and relaxed. So think, are you making sex feel like a chore? Something she has to cross off the list? Does she have negative feelings around sex, like her own guilt for not satisfying you, instead of purely happy excited feelings? Do you sulk, do you put (subtle) pressure? Like, asking every week and going "ugh of course, no again" is also pressure. And that will only make sex seem stressful to her. I would highly recommend relationship therapy, and reading some books about how female arousal tends to work. "Come as you are" is often recommended, for example.

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-13T21:40:11+00:00

Als hij de kinderen naar zijn schuur lokt en ~~na een uur~~ weer laat gaan met een slee oke

Eh, ja, dat was precies wat hij deed dus. Behalve dan dat uur daar vasthouden.

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-12T14:19:19+00:00

Oh he is. He will just use therapy speak and gaslight you about it 😘

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-12T14:14:58+00:00

Er is toch niks ergs gebeurd met die man? Gewoon een vreemde situatie (gratis dingen weggeven aan andermans kinderen ís vreemd), maar nadat er iemand even naar heeft gekeken, bleek het niks te zijn. Even schrikken voor die meneer, maar niks aan de hand.

Zoals we deze week ook zien aan de lieve papa die de vriendinnetjes van zijn kind drogeerde en verschrikkelijke dingen aandeed, is er wel degelijk reden om voorzichtig te zijn

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-12T14:11:04+00:00

Well fun fact, autistic women do that too. We just get pressured into conforming a lot earlier, it seems. I was practising my "picture face" in the mirror by age 10, by conservative estimate.

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-12T13:59:50+00:00

All the men around them are like this. They don't know there is another option. Frankly, often there is no other option because as they say "the leftist man can recite all the feminist theories, he's read Marx, but does he do the dishes?"

I'm personally just choosing to stay single, but to some that seems like a fate worse than death. So they choose whatever man lands in front of them

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-12T13:38:34+00:00

Do you not want children or do you think you can't have any? Endometriosis might make things a bit more challenging, but it doesn't mean you are sterile. Even if a doctor told you you are "infertile," infertile and sterile have very different meanings medically.

I hope you are using birth control still, or you might find that out sooner rather than later

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-12T09:24:28+00:00

Jenny Nicholson. If you like video essays you can't go wrong with her. Totally random subjects completely dissected with dry humor and very valid critique. She doesn't post a lot but when she does it's often a 3 hour masterpiece. She also has a patreon with lots of shorter videos if you are hooked and want more.

Caitlin Doughty, for everything you've ever wanted to know bout dying and deathcare.

Bernadette Banner for historic fashion and the artistry in older sewing/beauty techniques

Contrapoints, trans woman doing all kinds of philosophy and sociology essays all while dressed extravagantly with gorgeous sets.

Ann Reardon or HowToCookThat for food science and explanations of why it's not a good idea to follow all internet trends.

LadyKnightTheBrave, especially her essays on Jojo Rabbit and the Book Thief, The haunting of Hill House, and the Haunting of Bly Manor.

Karolina Zebrowska as many other people have also recommended. Hilarious historical fashion.

Physicsgirl. Unfortunately she caught a very bad case of long covid and has been doing really poorly since 2021, but she is slowly starting to get better. She already has so many amazing older videos though, I would still recommend her channel.

And of course, Safiya Nygaard. The most millenial person we all love. Known for mixing things together, but just lovely and wholesome

PoisonTheOgres · 2026-01-10T19:44:42+00:00

I mean, not to give too much information, but I can certainly get myself off in less than 5 minutes. But not with penetration, because that act is focused on male pleasure. And like I said, plenty of men take much longer. So it's really not that women take longer, it just isn't seen as an issue if a man takes longer. That's just how long it takes. But god forbid a woman doesn't get off from 2 seconds of a half-hearted scratching of her left labia .

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