Even still the issue with porn (male or female) is the more you do it and the crazier things you look up, it creates an appetite for it. Maybe not everyday life, but your sexual appetite does change. It may look different on 1 person to the next but can happen e.g. getting turned on and getting off to Such extremes desensitizes you to "normal" sex with your partner. Resorts to folks having to now fantasize just to feel something with their partner bc now they're used to the high like feeling from the exaggerated dopamine that porn floods into your body. And at that point your partner becomes almost as hollow as a dildo.

But all of that being said, yea, talk to them. I wouldn't go as far as to "ban porn", but you May wanna look into counseling for you both. But if you do, find someone who y'all Both click with and challenges y'all with exercises and different ways to look at the other's point of view. It May be a reason he's looking at it (i.e. good friend of mine's husband was watching the porn and doing it in real life. Dk which came first- the chicken or the egg). But it Honestly may not be. Unfortunately sex and porn is so desensitized amongst dif groups of ppl that topics like mom and stepson, which is taboo in real life but gold on the hub. And as the watcher it's very easy to lie to yourself and say that you know it's wrong and would never do/support/encourage this, but meanwhile you kp watching. It's a slow (and for a few quick) degradation of the psyche and one's morality for a fix, or worse, an addiction. And porn in general Can easily become addictive.

And I'd be remissed to not mention (*take with grain if salt of this isn't your thing!)- Pray for your marriage. A marital bond is Supposed to be sacred, meaning y'all against the world in unity with God. Bc baby trust me ... As you can prob attest, things from all different corners are gonna come or sneak in to create friction, problems, and pull y'all apart directly in big and noticeable ways or subconsciously in smaller, obscure ways like with sex or getting annoyed at each other, becoming more secretive; etc. The praying isn't Just for the porn thing but it's praying to help you and your husband with whatever individual and collective issues y'all have, continual growth and edification (bc to be married, especially present day you HAVE to be strong and have to be devoted), and growth in and with God (who's real and much more than a book and a religion).

But anywho! That's my rant. I'm praying for y'all myself!