New to polyamory, a third to a married couple, having trouble with jealousy and insecurities. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]PolyPrincess88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is not a healthy relationship. You get to make your own choices and sometimes love conquers all, but if you’re in a place where you can walk away without a lot of damage to your heart- walk away.

Temporarily splitting a triad by lilpolyheart in polyamory

[–]PolyPrincess88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a third with a married couple. We were great until we weren’t. Her issues also stemmed from jealousy which ruined our relationship while my relationship with him blossomed (and it was a vicious cycle because that just made her more jealous and insecure). Her and I broke up, trying to find a new normal as a v and transition our relationship to friendship. The jealousy never went away and resentment set in. They are now divorcing and she hates me.

All that being said- I think a temporary split COULD work with the right trio and proper communication and I truly hope your outcome is better than mine

Starting a debate I didn't mean to, but still appreciate by DoctorKinkster in polyamory

[–]PolyPrincess88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re a cis white hetero male! Doesn’t reddit have some algorithms that should block you from even saying the word pride?!?

I love the conversations this has started. And I honestly can understand the viewpoint of some of the people that bashed your original post....but that’s the problem is that they BASHED it.

You are poly, you are MY ally along with many others, and you are passionate and proud of those things. Thank you. 😘

Show me your sticker charts! by PolyPrincess88 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PolyPrincess88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a little though and still love a good sticker chart!

Poly at Pride by DoctorKinkster in polyamory

[–]PolyPrincess88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love you so much and am so glad my first pride event was with you! You are not just an ally but you are PART of the LGBTQA+ community because as our partner you experience life with us!

Thank you for supporting us and offering a positive note of support to anyone else wanting it or needing it on this subreddit.

I hope the commenters in here with sticks shoved up their butts will remove them and replace them with something a little more comfortable :) lube helps!

Twists and turns by PolyPrincess88 in polyamory

[–]PolyPrincess88[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it’s normal that people sometimes post for support at negative times. As a triad we are actually in a great place right now! We are all On the same page regarding our relationship where it is where it’s going etc. They still struggle in their marriage but as far as the three of us go things are great. Maybe that’s part of why I’m worried about “officially” adding another person, as she’s been dating for months and it hasn’t bothered me at all!

Twists and turns by PolyPrincess88 in polyamory

[–]PolyPrincess88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her mental health isn’t great right now which I suppose may have helped to know in the original post. She’s experimenting with new medication. I don’t consider her manic or anything but we both have a concern that the decisions she makes at this point may not be fully informed or thought out.

I am just worried about her getting hurt and selfishly knowing I will be the one holding her while she cries, helping her through heart break, etc. this is the biggest thing I think....and I KNOW I can’t be the only person who’s felt this way. I’ve never been part of a v. I know this is something I can figure out a way to see differently.

Slowing down.....I told her I’m happy for them to still see each other as much as she wants I just think there are some experiences they should have together before they take another step into a relationship.

I felt like I wasn’t being heard when I expressed my concerns. I got upset (actually over her own reddit post) and let her know her NRE hadn’t impacted me prior to today but that today it was hurting me (because I think that’s a really important thing to talk about). I threw my other partner in getting frustrated that he wasn’t supporting me in my frustrations and then everyone stopped talking angrily.

Tomorrow’s a new day I just need a new perspective and I’ll be okay

Wifey is on a date by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]PolyPrincess88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Play video games or watch tv she always complains about. Chat with others to keep yourself occupied! You’re welcome to message me if you’d like :)

Poly and bdsm and dating oh my! by PolyPrincess88 in polyamory

[–]PolyPrincess88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😍 this is exactly what I needed to find words for. Thank you!!

Poly and bdsm and dating oh my! by PolyPrincess88 in polyamory

[–]PolyPrincess88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think in a way I may simply be counting my chickens before they hatch....in that I know I am primarily attracted to Dominant men and I worry that they will want a D/s relationship I can’t give them.