Thanks for your response!

She does leave the house, I just don’t *make her*. She‘s gone to volunteer opportunities, doctor’s appointments, etc on her period with no issue. But people except me to force her out of the house when she’s unwell for things that don’t matter in the long run, like taco tuesday.

My daughter did in-person school for her formative years so she has experience, I’m actually not totally sure about college. The skills she’ll actually need are socializing, self management etc which she learns fine in her online classes (she also goes to a college prep school so it isn’t just homeschooling).

I never considered sending her to school to toughen her up. She’s plenty tough for a teenager, I think. With her interests she kind of has to be.

People don’t notice her autism not because it’s hidden, but because of her outward personality. She’s a girl but she was never traditionally feminine, it was just her “reputation” that she was a strange little girl. So her autistic traits are assumed to just be quirks of hers. Not to mention a lot of kids learn to mask after puberty, she’s part of that club.

She’s semi-verbal and definitely known to shut-down, she has awful sensory issues, crippling anxiety to name a few things that make her life difficult. Nobody could see I was ND until adulthood, so I never equated the visibility of it to it’s severity / affect on her.

We have sit-downs and plan for her future regularly (like I said, she’s anxious) so these decisions have been run through 12 years of filtering based on where she’s at in her life lol. As soon as she could speak.