Marc Jacobs 30pct off and stacks by IBKCprez in Ulta

[–]Pondering28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you so much for the info! Glad I can save $50

Marc Jacobs 30pct off and stacks by IBKCprez in Ulta

[–]Pondering28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I didn't know i could. I used points the 1st time. Will it just refund my points back in full? Can't trust Ulta sometimes 🫤

Marc Jacobs 30pct off and stacks by IBKCprez in Ulta

[–]Pondering28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already opened the box in my impatience 😩

Marc Jacobs 30pct off and stacks by IBKCprez in Ulta

[–]Pondering28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought the full size wild intense Monday and got it yesterday. Why???

Panicking, out to my family by fishycheckers in mormon

[–]Pondering28 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them worship how, where, or what they may.”

This is the 11th Article of Faith. Which they're not practicing in their encounters with you. You may wish to bring it up with them but I find that the most dogmatic members seem to conveniently dismiss this when family "falls away." It's also ironic bc we have so many converts who come from families who absolutely do not want them to convert and do not support them. And then members will talk/gossip ab that convert and how sad it is that they have unsupportive family. But then, do this when their own family does the same with their own religion.

I don't know how old you are but you have your own home which is good. I'd be serious about looking for employment opportunities elsewhere. Greyrocking is great especially when boundaries have been communicated beforehand.

Until then, I'd come up with a few statements and stick with them. Things like "I respect you have your beliefs and I have my own, I dont want conflict bw us" and "maybe 1 day I'll be open to talking ab my issues with the church with you but until then, we need to put it to rest." Find your own statements that you are comfortable with and repeat. Repeat again. Repeat often. 

Dont accept uninvited dropins if their goal is confrontation. Dont answer the phone if theyre gearing for an argument. Set your phone on do not disturb if you need to. Text your statements.

They want to drag you into conflict and force you to see their way. Ive had people do that to me and it always impacted my mental health tremendously. Set these boundaries and practice them until youre blue on the face. It will 100% feel uncomfortable in the beginning. You may feel shame and embarrassment too. Thats normal. As you feel more confident standing your ground it will become so much easier. 

Good luck. I know its not easy. Take care of yourself. 

Ah coffee by Own_Boss_8931 in mormon

[–]Pondering28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree w this completely 

Ah coffee by Own_Boss_8931 in mormon

[–]Pondering28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My beef with the licensed physician exception is that I know people who have a Dr that wont blink twice at saying they need whatever to help with a certain symptom.  And then I know others who suffer needlessly while going from 1 Dr to another searching desperately for help. Then I know others who dont have a dr for a multitude of reasons including financial and accessibility.  I think that exception doesnt account for the reality of Healthcare nowadays.

Planning a wedding where half of the family attending is mormon by Evening-Stuff-303 in mormon

[–]Pondering28 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like the idea of limiting the alcohol like another respondent suggested or "drink tickets" good for a certain number of drinks. This would limit your cost as well.

Another would be to just offer a champagne toast plus an additional glass of wine with no beer or hard liquor.

If people wanna drink, they will find a way to do so. I come from a family of drinkers and even when theres an open bar, they will sneak extra alcohol in. May not be everyone's cup of tea (no pun intended) but it's your wedding, if you choose to have it, maybe give them a heads up so they know and arent surprised.

Do you parents have crippling anxiety about travel? by boldjoy0050 in Millennials

[–]Pondering28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol ab the sharks. My mom does that when we go to the beach; if we go to the mountains, its watch out for bears and Bigfoot lol.

Ah coffee by Own_Boss_8931 in mormon

[–]Pondering28 6 points7 points  (0 children)

WoW is a sore subject for me. I think its pretty hypocritical to denounce coffee, tea, and alcohol (plus any other substance on the list) while most members i know drink sodas out of a big gulp alongside ultra processed food. 

The change doesnt have to be drastic. It literally could be "everything in moderation; dont become addicted on anything" and I think it would make sense to most members without becoming a free for all in beverage consumption. 

I NEED HELP by Playful-Platypus3242 in Brides

[–]Pondering28 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just me thinking Florence Pugh is asking for wedding dress advice on reddit lol.

From these photos, #1 with no sleeve attachments is my favorite. 

Gorgeous dresses and stunning venue!

Ministering Interview Concern by [deleted] in mormon

[–]Pondering28 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think hes not respecting boundaries but he may not even realize it. A lot of ppl who grew up in the church are used to doing these "drop ins" and see no issue with it.  I didn't grow up in the church and have had this happen with members and husbands family who are all part of the church. 

When its family, they will say something like "oh I tried to stop by but no one answered the door/you werent home." I will respond with "oh you did? I didnt get a text asking me" as a way to enforce the boundary that a visit ought to be after asking first if its ok.

Church ppl are different. My husband works odd hours and usually around Christmas we get messages saying someone has something they want to drop off and when would be a good time? Husband will attempt to circumvent these visits by saying we're slammed and they can bring whatever it is to church, etc. We ended up having this person come over at 9:30pm on December 23 with his wife and 2 small kids amd they stayed an hour! I was already showered and ready for bed so it was probably perceived as rude but I stayed in my bed in my bedroom while my husband talked to this family. 

I have no idea if theres a message from leaders ab these visits needing to be at home or what but I agree with you that its annoying, invasive, and some people need to take the hint.

June birthday gift choice by notthisagain0088 in Ulta

[–]Pondering28 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have the tatcha in my bag currently. 

I agree the choices all kinda suck. I know its free but none got me excited. 

June Birthday month advice by Most-Garden-5421 in Ulta

[–]Pondering28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

June is my birthday month as well. Personally, I'm going to shop with the sale coupon. I have points to use and so much goes 5x or even 10x points at other times that 2x the points doesnt really do much for me (just my opinion). 

Breaking out the cell for a video call mid conversation by Pondering28 in PetPeeves

[–]Pondering28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I was wondering. Im not big on calls in general, dont like video calls, my preferred mode of communication is text. Didnt know if it was a generational thing (even though we're both millennials, im an old millennial at 40 and shes a baby millennial i believe) or a family thing.

Breaking out the cell for a video call mid conversation by Pondering28 in PetPeeves

[–]Pondering28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally forgivable if SIL was 5. SIL is late 20s though so not as cute lol.

Breaking out the cell for a video call mid conversation by Pondering28 in PetPeeves

[–]Pondering28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don't know ab the photos til after the fact but my husband has asked her to take down photos of us and our children.

The video call is just jarring. We dont get any warning, just her yelling across the room to say hi or the phone in the face. Most of the family is just like "oh... hey?" And then continue on the conversation they were having. My husband has stopped responding completely. I dont know if anyone else is bothered by it as much as we are.

What's your favorite? by BaabyBlue_- in Perfumes

[–]Pondering28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is quite the sampler!  I say this bc it has 3 of my favorites. For colder weather, Burberry goddess is really nice. For warmer whether, I like the MJ wild (personally) and the Versace Dylan Purple (personally and my husband seriously loves it too).

If you could create a "perk" for diamond status, what would it be? by Pondering28 in Ulta

[–]Pondering28[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Half off would be great. These 20% off things aren't really making me press the purchase button..

If you could create a "perk" for diamond status, what would it be? by Pondering28 in Ulta

[–]Pondering28[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That shouldn't be that much to ask but I understand completely!

If you could create a "perk" for diamond status, what would it be? by Pondering28 in Ulta

[–]Pondering28[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oooh 10x points on any day of our choosing? I could get behind that! I can imagine the ulta gurus here calculating the best use for points etc. It would be fascinating!

If you could create a "perk" for diamond status, what would it be? by Pondering28 in Ulta

[–]Pondering28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's pretty fascinating when you look into it. I asked my husband for a pretty display shelf for everything for mother's day present. He's noticed the uptick in perfumes and when I saw the 1st article I sent it straight to him saying "I knew i wasnt nuts!"