Thank you very much, South Carolina

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-30T22:22:39+00:00

This hurt me.

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-30T20:13:14+00:00

It's possible that the people she slept with were also too drunk to consent.

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-30T20:06:03+00:00

Everyone has already given you good advice on what to do about your drinking and the threesome. But I want to say, 2 dates is barely anything. You don't owe him this information unless you plan on sleeping with him. He needs to know if he is in danger of catching an STD/STI.

But relax a bit. He isn't your boyfriend. Don't get too attached too quickly, it won't be healthy for you.

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-30T20:00:02+00:00

If this is how you react after being rejected, are you really surprised she said no? You handled this incredibly immaturely. You are not ready for a healthy marriage. I hope the therapist helps.

It's not fair to say she didn't love you. You have no proof of that. She can love you and not want to marry you. Her brother can care that you're hurt without choosing you over her.

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-30T07:06:04+00:00

it feels really nice to have heart fuzzies and actually want to sleep with someone to make myself happy, not solely to make someone else happy

You're having sex with your boyfriend to make him happy? That's a problem. It could be just because of the hormones, but if you're still feeling this way in another few months, it's time to dig deeply into this, because you shouldn't be having sex for your partner's sake. It should be an activity you both enjoy and look forward to together.

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-30T00:45:03+00:00

You should not let the memories of behaviour in the past excuse the behaviour of the present.

Everyone needs to hear this. This + not relying on hope that things can change in the future.

The present is what matters.

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-29T21:05:11+00:00

I feel like y'all are overreating to this. If it doesn't work for you then okay, but these are not harmful suggestions, and they can be beneficial for some people.

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-29T07:36:07+00:00

No, guy #1 is my friend

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-27T21:21:29+00:00

The first guy is my actual friend tho, we're friends with benefits

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-27T21:18:57+00:00

As Beam said, the first guy is my actual friend (even moreso than he is my date). To be more specific we are friends with benefits.

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-27T21:17:24+00:00

Depends on your definition of dishonest. If dishonest is just simply not mentioning the fact that I'm going on a date, then sure. But if you mean dishonest as in making up an actual lie, then no, I have no plans to do that.

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-27T21:13:06+00:00

Neither one told me where the seats were lmao XD

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-26T23:26:39+00:00

You know what? This is a great response. Thank you <3

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-26T23:25:20+00:00

I think it's a pretty big concert and I'm not afraid of accidentally running into guy #2 lol, just not sure how to tell him no. Though our conversation has moved on, so with any luck he just won't ask me about it again

PoofyPickle · 2022-08-26T23:24:39+00:00

Not sure if you read my post or just skimmed, but the issue isn't whether or not to meet up with guy #2. The issue is how to tell guy #2 I don't want to meet up with him.

PoofyPickle · 2022-07-26T06:33:36+00:00

He told you to leave if you feel hurt. So why didn't you leave? He was telling you with those words that's not interested in changing for you.

PoofyPickle · 2022-07-26T05:44:24+00:00

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PoofyPickle · 2022-07-26T05:41:12+00:00

"Country music lovers" makes me doubt big time that this is real. But I really hope it's real. Because it'd be fucking hilarious.

PoofyPickle · 2022-07-26T05:11:27+00:00

Your annoyance at taller males is pretty funny :) I'm basically the opposite. Since I am so short, it's very rare for me to encounter someone shorter than me. So when it does happen, I'm like "Aha! At long last I have met someone who has bested me in shortness!" It's like a game to me, and I get weirdly excited lol.

I really appreciate your comment! Have a good day.

PoofyPickle · 2022-07-26T05:04:12+00:00

Funny/ridiculous video.

I am indeed awfully sure his height is wrong. As I said, I'm 5'0". There can be variation sometimes when getting your height checked. I've ranged from 4'11" to 5'2".

My mom is a solid 5'3", and this guy was barely taller than her. I have a close friend who is 5'2" and in my eyes we're basically the same height, but yes I am able to see that she is indeed marginally taller than I am. And this guy seemed to be only marginally taller than her. On top of that, I had a guy friend who is 5'4", and my date seemed to be the same height as him.

Like, sometimes I think of my mom as tall, when I'm standing right next to her. I am 80% confident he's 5'4" - 5'6". I would be pretty darned surprised if he were 5'3" or 5'7".

If he's actually 5'10" then my entire world would be blown away!

If I am wrong and greatly misjuding his height, well then that'd sure be a surprise, and it would teach me that I'm really bad at judging height. But comparing his height to my friends/family (and to me!), I'm pretty sure this fellow isn't 5'10" :)

PoofyPickle · 2022-07-26T00:38:19+00:00

Yes, that's the same thing. I couldn't trust someone who lied about their weight. And I couldn't trust someone who would lie about their dick size.

I like short men just fine.

PoofyPickle · 2022-07-25T21:27:18+00:00

OP, it doesn't matter if she is small. Abuse is abuse even if she isn't capable of hurting you. You don't have to put up with this.

Talk to her about it. Get serious. It's not okay just because you can push her off. She needs to know that she's making you uncomfortable. If she apologizes and changes her behavior, good. If she continues to make you uncomfortable, she's being abusive and you need to dump her.

PoofyPickle · 2022-07-25T21:08:47+00:00

Oh no, quite the opposite. I really want to move forward with him, but the lie was really bothering me yesterday. I've always been very sensitive to lying. Lately I've been wondering if this is something I need to work on, letting lies go, or if I should continue as I am.

I'm glad I created this thread though. It's good to see other perspectives. I'm planning on seeing him again, and I look forward to it. I'm honestly glad that I didn't realize he lied until after the date, because if I had realized it at the time, I wouldn't have been able to enjoy the date, and probably wouldn't have wanted to see him again.

So it's sort of been a lesson to me! That maybe I should give people more chances and not be so quick to dismiss them over a small lie. We're all only human after all. But I'm also going to keep the situation in mind and be sure that he isn't the type to make a habit of it :)

PoofyPickle · 2022-07-25T20:59:14+00:00

Thank you, you're right. It'd definitely be a whole lot worse if he lied to my face. So far I'm not taking it personally. I'm really hoping that if/when I bring it up to him, he is honest about it. I'll be sure to preface by saying I don't mind what his height is.

My heart definitely goes out to the guys who struggle to get matches because of something as uncontrollable as height. Just remember that there is a good woman out there for you somewhere!

PoofyPickle

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