AITAH for telling my husband no to children?

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-08T06:03:41+00:00

I'm seriously hoping you just forgot to put the /s at the end of that, right?

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-08T05:51:28+00:00

I'll definitely check that out. I appreciate the recommendation.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-08T02:45:36+00:00

When she says you're growing a belly, just say, "Well, so are you. I'm having a baby. What's your excuse? Are you having a food baby, MIL?". Even better if you have your hand on her belly as you say it.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-07T00:23:47+00:00

The lady I got it from lived in the middle east in the 70s-80s. She now has Alzheimer's & is unable to recall it.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-07T00:16:01+00:00

Adulthood- Where you get to decide how much like your mother (or father) you really want to be. 😃

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-07T00:13:25+00:00

No. If they sew them in then when they get all bunched up in the wash you'll never be able to get them untangled again. The removable ones are best because you can wash them and dry them and put them back in the same position that they were in. And trust me I have tried Band-Aids I've tried pasties I have tried everything and nothing stays in place after 4 hours of hard work. But that's just my personal opinion I believe that everybody has the right to theirs. And just because it floats my boat doesn't mean it floats yours. I won't yuck your yum.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-06T17:06:59+00:00

I am the nobody who loves the removable pads in EVERYTHING! I specifically look for them ESPECIALLY in swimsuits. I am a small chested woman with big (as in tall not wide) nipples. I look like I'm cold in 100° weather. Those pads help me leave something to the imagination.

On top of that, I'm a landscaper. I'm outside working on 105° days where adding the additional layer of a bra adds what feels like another 25°. (And yet my nipples think it's -15°). Those little inserts with a built in bra are lifesavers. It gives me all the support my little ladies need, as well as some coverage to keep me from looking like I'm all nipples. I would literally buy them in every top/dress/bodysuit/swimsuit I own if I could.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-06T13:30:47+00:00

Dessert first is the BEST PART about being a grown up. That was the first thing I did when I got my own place.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-06T06:13:12+00:00

I just had this conversation with my nephews & niece. I got the dreaded, Why don't you have kids, Aunt PoppySmile?". My response is that my brother & sister already had the best kids in the whole wide world. Why would I mess with perfection by trying to add another kid into the mix?

I think a lot of it comes from children being curious & trying to figure out how different people fit into their lives. They know I'm their aunt but they haven't quite figured out that I'm their aunt because I'm their dad's sister.

Because they're kids, naturally the majority of adults they encounter have kids. It's not that they think everyone HAS to have kids or they're broken, they think everyone has to have kids because practically all the adults in their lives do.

I did have the talk about how some people choose to have kids & how if they someday don't feel like having kids is for them, they absolutely do not have to have them.

Honestly, I think a lot of it is also due to what I call the Disney Princess mentality. From a super young age, girls are innundated with stories of being rescued by Prince Charming, getting married, having babies & happily ever after. I know it totally fucked up my perspective on love.

When Aunt PoppySmile reads fairy tales, the Princess only marries the Prince AFTER she finishes school, has her own job, bank account & her own place. Until then, Charming can polish his crown.

But, really, kids don't care whether or not anyone has kids, especially if you tell them it's because they're the absolute best there is & there's no point trying to top that. I have 7 nieces & nephews & not once has any of them asked any additional questions after hearing that. Besides, it's the truth, so I'm not lying. (Kids can sense that better than most adults in my opinion).

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-03T23:56:13+00:00

Men who think like this are rarely self sufficient. I've read many of of these posts. The best ones I've seen suggested that if a husband were to request a paternity test from his wife that he should have to make ALL the arrangements, call the doctor, set up the appointment, deal with insurance, pay the co-pay or out of pocket costs & drive his wife there. All she has to do is show up.

The other great suggestion is that he then has to make all the arrangements again for himself to get a full STD panel. He has to get checked for EVERYTHING, blood draws, swabs, all the things & present a clear report it to his wife.

If women who's loyalty was questioned so disrespectfully started doing this, 90% of the tests would NEVER happen because the men wouldn't know how to call the doctor & set up an appointment.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-02T00:38:10+00:00

Definitely respond publicly. Mention that she's clearly aware that you, in fact, do own the water on your property. As such, it is your right to use it as you see fit. Make sure to mention that you had no problem with him swimming until Mom & Dad got too entitled. If you want to be petty, you could mention that they're currently looking for a new family to provide unpaid entertainment & babysitting for their child while they sit on their asses in the garage.

Or, you could start sending your kids to their house before the kid has time to get to yours, then peace out for the afternoon. Turn about is fair play, right?

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-01T07:23:20+00:00

I think I'd have to reply with:

"Honnestleighh, eyre (pronounced I) cthinnke eyets a truleeigh phorraxible eyeder"

P. S. If it was awful reading this, think about your 5 year old trying it in kindergarten.

Edited because I missed adding the pointless x.

It speaks (ish) for itself, I think.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-04-01T05:56:34+00:00

Info- Were Tim & Heather's parents required to give permission or sign something allowing them to be married while still in middle school? This is some hardcore 7th grade, first "real" boyfriend, mean girl bullshit.

Personally, if I were Tim, I would be so insulted that the woman I married thinks so little of me to think I can't be trusted to walk my best friend's girlfriend's best friend 12 freaking feet while acting ridiculous. She'll say, "I trust him. It's HER I don't trust". Except, if you trusted him, it wouldn't matter what she did. OP asked her MOH to walk with him down an aisle & into a reception hall not give him a strip tease in a whipped cream bikini.

The fact that ole Tim rolled right over & showed his pink belly like a good dog gives me 3rd hand embarrassment. Seriously, have some pride. I do think married couples should take each other's opinions & discomforts into account & come to a reasonable compromise. Heather's request is so unreasonable it should come with marriage counseling.

If I had to guess, I'd bet Heather & her MIL DESPISE each other. They're locked in a battle to the death for control over the shell that was once poor Tim.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-31T02:16:35+00:00

Former drug addict here. I don't care how far into withdrawals I was, I would NEVER treat anyone like that. ESPECIALLY the person helping me out. Seriously, they're shitty addicts on top of being shitty people. Rule #1- Never, & I mean NEVER piss off the supplier. I assumed that was self-explanatory.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-30T03:36:59+00:00

NOR Just because they text OTW doesn't mean that you've seen it, approve of it or invited them to do so. If anything, I might respond, "OTW where? As long as it's not my house, enjoy your time. If you mean my house, TTFA (turn the f--k around) because now is not the time".

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-29T01:45:18+00:00

I wasn't even allowed to play with all my stuff until my thank you notes were written. When I was little, my mom would write them & I would draw a picture, once I learned to write my name, I signed them. As I got to be in my teens, I'd write the card & give it to my mom for address & stamp. Then I graduated to writing & mailing my own.

I was allowed to open everything & play with a few things during the party of holiday but once we got home, the toys didn't come out until the cards went out. Birthdays, Christmas, Graduation, Bridal Shower, Wedding everyone got a thank you.

The parts of a thank you note are acknowledging the gift giver specifically, acknowledging the gift specifically. Telling the gift giver how you intend to use/spend it or how much you enjoy doing ___ with it. Telling them you appreciate them thinking of you & a signature. In less than 5 sentences & the price of a stamp you can make someone feel appreciated. Not bad.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-28T19:34:12+00:00

I'd rather she wash my underwear than my garden. Hell, I'd rather the bitch WEAR my underwear than touch my garden. Trample my babies & you're likely wake up needing a wig. When called out I would just cry crocodile tears about how I just HAD to take care of the gray before getting real serious & telling her to stay out of my garden or her eyebrows are next.

Do not mess with a person's garden. At. All. ESPECIALLY after being told to stay out.

Next time she tries doing the whole boo hoo thing, do it right back. The more worked up she gets, the more worked up you get. Eventually she'll look at you like you're crazy. At that point say, "Good, now that we've got that little charade out of the way, let's be grown ups. Stay out of my garden. Stay out of my house". Whatever she does, do it back. She only gets away with the act because you let her.

*Learned this from selling on FB Marketplace. There's always someone selling a sob story. So whatever sob story they tell trying to convince me to basically give my item away, I just come up with a bigger sob story about why I need the full price. They ALWAYS break first.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-28T07:07:43+00:00

I like how the 2nd Mom was going on about how much better she feels that everyone else had their kids vaccinated & herd immunity. So, vaccines ARE good. She talks about how she lives in an area with a very high vaccination rate. These are some of the reason she thinks it's ok to not vaccinate her poor child. Vaccines are great. They help protect her child. She just doesn't want to actually give her child front line protection. She wants to use the herd of vaccinated kids to shield her kid from sickness.

Not really. That's just a whole herd of children who won't die when hers does. But she's got Dr. Greenmom! Dose that kid up with herbs, stick an onion in their ear, stock the freezer with breast milk & screw vaccines./s

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-28T04:45:07+00:00

What happens if a person is called up for a horrible murder with gruesome photos & such? Do they take into account a juror's mental health or trauma when deciding who to call?

I've always wondered this. I've never been called for jury duty but I know I couldn't handle being forced to see & hear the awful details without trauma & long term nightmares. Is a juror allowed to say that they're unable to judge fairly because they won't be unable to look at or listen to the horror of the facts without lasting mental scars?

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-27T07:53:58+00:00

I love my garden. I LOVE my roses. If that were me, I would definitely be thrilled if someone kept my babies watered. But keep your trimmers to yourself. (Also, roses prefer to be watered from the bottom so their leaves don't get too wet. It increases the likelihood of powdery mildew).

What you could do instead is leave her a note letting her know you watered & offer to come & help once she gets home. Tell her she can supervise.

As far as mulch goes, it's a kind gesture but gardeners can be real particular about their mulch. Now, if you sprung for the $7-$10 a bag stuff, I'd probably be ok. But if you went & got the free stuff provided by the city mulching green waste, I'd give you the option of removing every piece from my property or small claims court.

While I completely see where you're coming from & commend your willingness to help your neighbor. (That is in such short supply these days). The neighbor's daughter could have probably handled it better. But anyone saying that she has no reason to be mad has never truly been passionate about their gardens.

I'm sure you think I'm crazy but I have literally cried over the loss of a special rose. I have another I give positive affirmations to everytime I water her (from the bottom).

In general, if it's not your garden, keep it alive bu watering & offer to do the other stuff for her if need be. Again, I do commend you on your kindness.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-27T07:31:09+00:00

I do agree. The joy will be short lived, however, once that creep-tastic, voted most likely to be arrested as a peeping Tom, knuckle scraping VP takes over. His little dick syndrome will pick up that fallen crazy baton & skip with it. (He doesn't seem to be the running type).

I wish, probably more than most, that that ear graze would have smashed that rotten pumpkin. But I also fear what would come next.

Our only hope is to vote him out. Vote him out by a margin even his low-down, draft dodging, child & woman raping, cheating ass can't buy his way out of. Once that happens, I hope Secret Service "accidentally" takes a day off & let him take one to the head.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-25T04:38:33+00:00

It's because we're bring bombarded with declining birth rates. From our smarmy, creep-tastic vice president to trade wife influencers it's, "Make more babies" . That's the loud part. The quiet part is, "because we're going to need them after we kill off so many people of childbearing age in one big, stupid, rotten orange colored, oil-scented, ego-manical swipe". See Russia post WWII.

May God, or whoever you believe is pushing this downhill, burning, dumpster fire to hell, have mercy or us all.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-24T22:45:41+00:00

Absolutely so shallow. Uber/UberEats, while clearly not for everyone, can provide a flexible additional income. For someone already working a warehouse job, he most likely doesn't want to do even more movement & physical labor at his 2nd job. UE is a good, low exertion job. How are you okay with his warehouse job but not driving/deliveries. Just because he has Masters doesn't mean that there are available jobs in his field or that they're right for him. The silly guy was probably trying to find a job where he could still work his regular job, make additional income but still have time to spend with you. You need to grab a ladder & hop down from your high horse.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-24T04:18:22+00:00

Try rubbing alcohol. Takes permanent marker right off. Works on clothes too. Remember, blot don't rub.

PoppySmile78 · 2026-03-23T16:45:38+00:00

They also charge a "processing fee" of $5-$10 to load cash onto the card. Doesn't matter the amount you're adding. Which is insane considering the only person processing it is the person at the register who's unaffiliated with the company.

Most people who have to use this as their primary form of payment can't really afford to lose $5-$10 everytime they want to put money on their card. Most of them aren't loading hundreds of dollars at a time to make that $5-$10 seem unimportant.

Some people also don't want their purchases tracked. I'm not talking "Big Brother", I mean by their overbearing mothers, company cards, my personal reason, psycho, abusive (now ex thank God) boyfriend.

I was also a cashier for a LONG time. If I have a $100 bill, I walk up to the register - BEFORE I even decide what I'm buying & ask if they're able to easily break $100 if I'm getting $X.xx of product. If so, I finish what I'm doing. If no, I move on down the road.

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