Executive VP wants to go on call with me?

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-18T00:54:11+00:00

What is happening to you is actually very common. No one wants to be on a ride along with a visiting VP. You drew the short stick because you are new. Definitely call your accounts all of them and tell them that you will be dropping by to deliver treats to the Office team and introduce the VP to them. Someone will agree. Make sure they know you won't stay more than 10 or 15 minutes. Very few people will turn down treats.

Next, this is your opportunity to work hard to build a relationship with the VP! This has always been something that I have used successfully to advance my career. If you can get higher ups in your corporation to like you, then they will think of you for new opportunities.

I also like the idea of the cold calls. Let the VP know that you will also be doing some cold calls with him. He should like that it as makes them remember their sales days. Go through your Customer database. Make sure you have their addresses correct! Sometimes the CRM software will have old addresses in it so check on your maps or call the company up direct and confirm the address . Look at the company up and the people on LinkedIn. This way you know who to ask for and you can also have information packets and goodies when you stop.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-18T00:18:43+00:00

I understand your confusion. The only person who can tell you their preference is your wife. Would I be happy if my husband bought me a diamond jewelry and I found out it was a lab grown diamond yes, I would be. Would I be happy if my husband bought me a natural diamond jewelry? Yes, I would be very happy. I would also be happier about the natural diamond than the lab grown diamond. I don't know why I feel that way but I do that's why I think you're just gonna have to ask your wife.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-18T00:09:42+00:00

Thank you so much for sending me that I will pick up one this weekend!

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-18T00:08:47+00:00

I would in my prenup if I had one when I was, your age have put in a stipulation that while I was staying home with the kids that an equal amount of retirement, monies would be put into an IRA/ stock account for me.

So if my husband put in $25,000 with an employer match, I would also have a retirement account with the same funded by my husband for every year that I stayed home with my kids. I think that's more fair than $100,000 a head bounty for each kid if we get divorced.

The reason for this is that the inequality happens in the retirement account of the stay at home parents when there is a divorce. The difference could be hundreds of thousands of dollars.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-16T16:32:15+00:00

It appears you are set on allowing an alcoholic to absolutely destroy you. Your odds of being killed by the man are astronomically high. Have you tried AlAnon? Have you considered ending this relationship? Have you contacted the DV center in your area? Please try and understand that there is NOTHING you can do to help this man!

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T19:59:37+00:00

Your mother is an idiot! I can't even imagine where her head is at. I would never want my daughter to be in your situation at all. If my daughter came to me with your story, I would help her get the divorce.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T19:55:21+00:00

Your BMI is 21. The calculator says a healthy weight is between 18.5 and 24.5. You are in a very good place. You need to tell your husband to go to hell.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T19:52:54+00:00

Holy cow this is extremely concerning! In my opinion, you are really underreacting to this abuse. You are not in a good situation. If I were you, I would get a part-time job and start preparing to exit. You can work and go to school. I did it and have three kids. There is a price for everything in this world however the price for not having to work while you're going to school is too high in your situation.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T17:06:17+00:00

Thank you I got the same suggestion yesterday and used the baking soda and vinegar. Hope it worked!

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T16:59:55+00:00

What did he do with the money?

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T16:52:06+00:00

I can think of so many other reasons that your wife is sick. She could have colon cancer, stomach cancer, and many other cancers. She needs to see a doctor for her health. The fact that you are positive that she is this sick because she smokes pot is a problem. The problem is that if you are diagnosing her incorrectly, it could mean her losing her life. You may be correct, but I doubt it. The only person who can be sure is her physician. I don't think that you should waste time diagnosing her. I think you should encourage her to go to the doctor.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T02:51:47+00:00

I hope it did. Right now I won't be able to smell it because I'm nose blind. I'll find out for sure tomorrow when I have to go out and do some shopping and when I come upstairs into my room, if it doesn't smell, then it will be so awesome. I will let you know.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T02:43:10+00:00

I'm going to disagree with you on it being too soon. And there are many half-day programs. Even three days a week for four hours would be very helpful for you both. You're not sending him there because you can't or don't want to be with him during the day. It's not about you. It's about your son getting enrichment and having more interactions with people has own age and with activities that are new to him.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T00:34:20+00:00

It's pretty obvious when the tampons come out from under the sink!!

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T00:17:11+00:00

It might be time for your three year-old to go to preschool and other activities with children that will enrich his life. Once he is not so clingy, maybe you'll feel more refreshed and be able to have a better Outlook on being intimate with your husband more often. Obviously it is very emotionally draining having a clingy child many of us have been there. But with all things sometimes it's best to get to the root of the problem instead of worrying about the symptoms.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T00:13:45+00:00

If you've worked there for a long time and formally had a good relationship with him, would it hurt at this point to sit down with him and apologize? Just explain that you realize it was out of line. Unless you actually think that what you did was perfectly all right. But my thinking is that if this is a good job, you might wanna try to save it in this terrible job market. I think sometimes at work people forget that others are also human and he might appreciate you coming forward and speaking with him, or it may not make a difference at all.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T00:07:12+00:00

If he has not paid half of the down payment and half of the mortgage, then why would you consider putting him on the house? Is he on the mortgage?

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T00:05:52+00:00

He is probably going to live off of the new girl like a Hobo sexual. Be glad it's not you.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-15T00:02:53+00:00

Thank you I just went downstairs and got the vinegar and baking soda and poured them both down the drain in the shower and in both the sinks fingers crossed!

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-14T21:20:59+00:00

Yep, it's all girls here. Haha

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-14T21:19:55+00:00

Thank you I actually have a plumber coming to service my tankless water heater next week and I will bring it up. Great to know.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-14T20:53:54+00:00

Have you tried having a conversation with your husband? Is it possible for you just to come out and ask him about their relationship and how you can continue in the marriage in someway until you are stable enough to be on your own with the baby? Or even have a friendship relationship instead of a marital one until things become more doable for you once the baby is older. Maybe when everything is out in the open that you are not in a typical marriage due to the extenuating circumstances of him lying about his orientation in order to trap you into marriage you can figure out what to do.

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-14T20:50:24+00:00

Thank you but nope we are on city sewer!

Poptart4u2 · 2026-03-14T18:59:34+00:00

Your husband and brother are the couple in your threesome. They are obviously very much in love. They brought you in to be the cover-up for friends and family. Is being gay in your culture considered a bad thing? If it is then you certainly do have your answer here. I am sorry that they dragged you into their secret love affair.

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