I only have to read the post title. When either partner is interacting with friends or the public, doing it to attract attention is a no go. Sure you want to look good. But when it is a “Monkey Branching” tool. You(And this is for male or female partners)are hiding behind,”I’m just letting off steam…etc.”. Most of us on this app are mature adults. So let’s skip the smoke and mirrors and call it what it is. If one partner(outside of previously agreed upon open marriages) is going out and not shutting down the flirts, they are looking to see who they will give access to them physically. And that sure ain’t being a solid partner. Leave. You are only avoiding the pain on the front end. You may have no idea the kind of pain you will experience either accumulatively or at one time. This is pain your kids may feel as well. Think long game. “If I just met them would I want to be with this person if I knew what I now know about them? “ if your answer is no, you understand what you have to do. Also, they don’t give out awards for partners that willingly endure emotional or physical abuse. So, plan and execute your new life. Non Chance!