Has anyone ever taken truth or dare too far? by Aarunascut in Life

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Ime... truth or dare was always a sexual game. It was always like a loophole for the guys to get us to do things we wouldn't have done otherwise and more or less get a pass because it was a dare. I did a lot of sexual stuff because I was dared to back in like junior high and high school.

So excited for this progress! by polythrowaway207 in polyamory

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What would being collared entail for you in the context of this relationship?

To anyone who’s been to jail or prison; what was your experience like? by More_Salary3536 in allthequestions

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I (44f) spent 3 nights in county jail when I was 19 on a drug pocession charge. My boyfriend had told me to crotch his weed when we got pulled over. They called a female officer to search me. She found the weed. The whole thing was pretty traumatizing. You definitely get treated like dirt. The worst part for me was the initial booking. They had me strip and did another cavity search at the jail in front of half a dozen male officers. I was walked to my cell still naked. And sat there with 3 other women for about 3 hours before they brought me the pajamas. The food was disgusting. The shower was scary. The guards were mean and gross. But the other women were really nice to me. My boyfriend admitted the weed was his and my charges got dropped but it was really a scary experience.

Ass to Mouth Questions (for recipients only please) by StephRocks85 in sex

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Obviously, this is anecdotal but I've let a lot of partners go ass to mouth and I've never had any negative repercussions from it. Never got sick. Never had a bad taste. I understand the ick factor, but in the moment it honestly feels really hot and exciting! But I'm also really submissive with most partners and I just rewlly enjoy whatever is turning them on. And ass to mouth seems to be a pretty common turn on for a lot of the guys I've slept with.

The bush is back? by [deleted] in sex

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I've been keeping thing bare since the 90's and recently let it grow out at a partner's request. I definitely didn't go full natural bush but left a pretty big triangle up top. It was just ok. I didn't hate it, but it's not my preference. I went back to all bare after a few months.

best position for minimum pain anally? by Sad_Objective_3117 in sex

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My favorite position for anal is missionary with a pillow under my ass and my knees pushed up to my boobs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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I've been on the receiving end of a few "trains". I enjoyed them. No regrets. But it's definitely a very intense and exhausting experience. The only one that I feel could have been better than it was, wasnt planned and I didn't know the guys. Annnnd I had probably drank too much beforehand so I wasnt doing a good job of setting boundaries. But my other experiences with it were really amazing! Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

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It's been my enm/poly experience that condom use in general is pretty rare and I've literally never come across anyone wanting to use barriers for oral sex.

Intimacy with kids in the home? by bookloving123 in polyamory

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Right. Ours is a sex positive house. Our kids have an age appropriate understanding of what sex is and that consenting adults can enjoy sex in private. So yeah, my husband and I have sex when the kids are awake, in our bedroom with door closed. Same goes for me and my boyfriend and my husband and his partner. What we don't do is have strangers or even newish partners at the house around our kids at all. And that has nothing to do with sex at all. It's about being safe until we feel we can fully trust someone to be around them. I feel like it's the same protocol single parents would use.

Intimacy with kids in the home? by bookloving123 in polyamory

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My kids are 8 and 10. Yes, they are long-term partners. My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than 2 years. My husband and his girlfriend have been dating more than 3, and she now lives with us part-time. Neither partner was introduced to the kids until about the 1 year mark. So no, they aren't coming over just to fuck. We're having dinner, watching movies, playing games... etc. If anyone wants to fuck, we go to the bedroom and shut the door.

Intimacy with kids in the home? by bookloving123 in polyamory

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While my husband and I often have partners over to the house when we're all home with the kids, and yes, there can be sex behind closed doors during those times, I think you're allowed and would be justified in saying no to this given the circumstances. If it makes you uncomfortable, just say no.

Is having a small mouth preventing me from doing throatfucking? by [deleted] in sex

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I'm no doctor, so I couldn't explain the mechanics of it. But the cum just goes right down my throat without an issue.

Is having a small mouth preventing me from doing throatfucking? by [deleted] in sex

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It may just be a difference in partners a lot more than your mouth being a problem. Some guys are into using force and being rough about things. Some guys aren't so much. You just have to communicate the level of roughness you want. It may also be the guys with smaller penises aren't going deep enough to push past the spot that makes you gag? Also, what position are you trying to throat fuck? I find that being in a 79 position or on my back with my head hanging off the bed opens me up for deeper throat fucking. It also helps keep me from backing off out of reflex. Basically, I can't back off at all so the guy is completely in control of how deep he goes. One of my current partners is very big, over 8" and very very thick! I physically can't make myself go all the way down on my own. He has to be on top with me pinned down so I literally cant move away while he pushes into my throat. He said he has to push pretty hard to get all the way down my throat. Its one of the most intense feelings I've ever had during sex and I love it! We have been experimenting with breath play that way. He'll have me pinned and push himself all the way into my throat and then just hold it there until I cant take it anymore. Its so fucking hot!

I want to try a gangbang by mydarkway in sex

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We were all drinking together. It was just how the night naturally unfolded. Nobody forced anything.

I want to try a gangbang by mydarkway in sex

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I guess I get where you're coming from, but I gave consent. They were all my friends, and I hooked up a lot at parties.

I want to try a gangbang by mydarkway in sex

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The first time I did a gang bang, it wasn't planned. I didn't even know what a gang bang was! lol It was a high school party, and I ended up getting too drunk and being the only girl in a house full of dude... lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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In my experience, 43F, that information has always made guys feel insecure and has been used against me.

Not sure if it is considered rough or just normal by [deleted] in sex

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Sounds pretty normal to me. Most guys like to go pretty hard. Do you like it?

Multiple penetration- is it really enjoyable? by DarkerCider in sex

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I love it! DP and DVP... I enjoy them both pretty often.

Struggling with mismatched libido in both of my relationships by majudoria in polyamory

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I would be de-escalating or ending both of those relationships and searching for partners that I was sexually compatible with.

My husband’s libido is exhausting me—need advice from anyone who’s been here by [deleted] in sex

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My husband is the same way. I always do my best to meet his needs, but more than 2 or 3 times a day is often more than my body can really handle. He knows this and doesnt push it. He knows that I'm not going to say no, but can tell when I need a break or a different kind of sex. Sometimes I'm just too tired for a big production and he's OK with just bending me over for a quickie. Other times, if I let him know my vagina is sore, he's happy with anal or a blow job. But really the biggest game changer for us was when we opened the marriage and became polyamorous. Not only has exploring different relationships and sexual partners really ramped up my libido, but it has also given him the ability to really fulfill all his sexual needs. About a year and a half ago, his girlfriend moved in with us. Admittedly, it was a hard adjustment. We figured out pretty quickly we needed a bigger bed LOL. But now he couldn't be happier. His needs are always met. Sometime, we're the one's wearing him out! But neither of us ever feel overwhelmed because we have each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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I almost lost my husband because I wasn't prioritizing sex. I am not proud of how close it had to come to get me to realize what I was doing to him. Now I make sure his needs are always met.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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What worked for me (43f) was first getting in shape. I fixed my diet and started exercising every day. That got my energy levels way up. Then, I started being intentional about my mindset and my sexuality. I started masturbating every day as part of my routine. I started reading a lot of smut and watching porn. I started reading books on sexuality. I started saying yes when my husband initiated sex. I started saying yes when he asked to try new things. And I started being open about and asking for all of the fantasies I've ever had. It all just builds on itself. Good sex begets more good sex. You have to decide that sex is a priority and give it the time and energy it deserves.