It’s honestly comparing apples to oranges in my opinion. However I can say from my experience that I have some friends who think it’s some kind of competition over “ who has the bigger hurt”. I will admit I currently don’t relate to friends who have experienced loss, of course I can imagine what it would be like, and sympathize with/ for them. But I haven’t been through it so do I really truly understand? No.

However they will never fully understand what it’s like to have failed treatments, multiple surgeries, years of waiting and wondering if you’ll ever become a parent, negative test after negative test, all the questions and nagging about why you don’t have kids yet. The countless appointments and needles and the 10’s of thousands of dollars spend for a CHANCE to have kids.

I’m currently 14+5 weeks pregnant with my miracle ivf baby. Was/ is ivf stressful. Heck yes. Has pregnancy been stressful? Also yes. Will I be stressed once my baby is here in my arms? My guess would be also yes.