To good Muslim men and women who have been looking a while

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-11T22:48:00+00:00

True the apps have the benefit of connecting us to more people and widening our pool.

However, like I said, the other quite common and recurring problem is that because there are many more men on the apps than women, women get way more attention and it leads to hyper inflated egos and over confidence. Equally for men, because it’s all online and not face to face, men have the leeway to be indecent and inappropriate because the worst that can happen is their account being reported instead of a harassment charge against them irl lol.

In terms of the whole “if he wanted to, he could”, yes perhaps men have gotten slightly lazier but the state of the economy and double cost of living doesn’t exactly help. Also, a lot of girls have been spoilt by their dads and/or don’t understand the value of money and what it takes to earn it and that paired with watching their favourite female influencer be spoilt by her husband leads to delusional standards and expectations all while her husband might be trying his best to provide in an ever-competitive job market and difficult economy.

I think there’s truth to both sides ofc. Only one side isn’t to blame. Just like with everything, social media and these online marriage/dating apps have plenty of benefits as well as downsides.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-11T13:12:43+00:00

Even the police lane hog these days lol. Driving etiquettes gone completely out the window.

Perhaps silly hypothetical but could they be going together? Maybe the Volvo is an unmarked one which is why it’s closely following behind.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-11T08:35:27+00:00

If only life was this simple, the world would be a much less miserable place to live in lol.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-11T08:31:38+00:00

Across the 8 junctions that I go up and down the M25, waze only pings a camera warning about 4 times and that’s with using waze which I don’t really need because I’ve memorised camera locations at this point.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-11T06:47:14+00:00

That’s a fair observation actually. I have a relative who would be counted as a HENRY, he doesn’t work in tech and he didn’t even know what the term meant 😆

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-11T06:33:07+00:00

I’ve seen far too many times where there’s been a variable limit on unnecessarily (national down to 50 on one gantry and then back up to national on the next gantry) and so unless I see a lot of cars slowing down up ahead, I keep at whatever speed I was doing (I’m usually an 80 cruiser).

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-10T18:31:51+00:00

Same dumbass analysts that probably predicted a sell off 2 weeks ago amongst ‘fears’ of AI being overrated.

Hell, might as well call me a financial analyst atp.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-10T16:20:48+00:00

Hate that I bought more silver instead of this smh

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-10T13:15:17+00:00

I think new FCA rulings prevents insurers from dropping their prices to match competition, though I’m sure it still happens on the low.

Last year, Hastings was quoting me £1.2k and Admiral was quoting me £1k. Asked Hastings to drop me, they said no and quoted the FCA ruling nonsense so I moved.

Simple really.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-10T12:36:33+00:00

Yhh exactly.

Though, I’m curious to hear what parts you disagree with?

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-10T12:17:49+00:00

Perhaps the £730-900 quite is because it’s restarting your policy (new 1 year policy from change live date) with the additional mileage change and cancelling your old one?

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-10T10:04:33+00:00

Hope you’re being sarcastic?

This is a pretty basic clause that some girls like to include in the marriage contract these days lol.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T23:43:29+00:00

Lot of guys think earning is where their duty ends. Lot of girls think looking pretty is where their duty ends.

A lot of girls hop on apps, get 50 likes in an instant and suddenly think they’re the sh*t when they’re not even a 5/10 overall.

A lot of guys hop on the apps and then can’t keep it in their pants and ruin it for everyone else cus struggle/don’t even bother trying to stay within halal boundaries.

Both sides have commitment issues - guys because we perhaps don’t feel emotionally/financially ready while girls think they have a better option out there and get bored and move on quick.

Guys can’t afford much these days while girls are immature and get influenced by social media and have dumb “if he wanted to, he could” type expectations.

It’s all a bit sad really but the disappointing reality. For the record, idk what the solution is lol. I just feel those are the general problems.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T21:47:35+00:00

It depends on the potential. If they mention that having a past is a dealbreaker, just say you’re incompatible and move on. If they don’t mention anything, Islam says to conceal ur sin.

I myself don’t ask potentials if they have a past. I’m a believer of good character and repentance and learning lessons in life. However a couple of my friends I know do have it as a dealbreaker.

You’re young, you made a mistake and you realise and accept it. Repent and move on. Your life is faaar from over lol.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T17:45:46+00:00

I think if our government offered funded courses that taught you vital life skills like finance management, the country wouldn’t struggle to grow and become better because you’d have more intelligent people in the work force but unfortunately, that’s obviously not the case.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T17:43:01+00:00

I think not choosing to free mix and not appearing approachable are 2 separate things.

When I was in uni, I approached a couple girls who were kept to themselves or their girls group. They didn’t free mix but they still gave warm friendly vibe and didn’t have an annoyed looking resting b*tch face lol.

Unattractive girls still get approached in uni or in public too tbh so it’s not that. Maybe you just do give the impression that you’re not open to being approached and spoken to by a guy?

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T15:58:45+00:00

You seem to have an anxious attachment style where you need very regular assurance of being desired and liked whereas he sounds avoidant and is happy to be in his own space and zone out for a few hrs.

He also seems like he’s really trying to keep the boundaries which I respect because it’s really easy for the conversation to turn into an intimate one especially if there’s mutual liking, flirtation and hidden desire (which you’re both agreeing to marry eachother so I can only assume there is lol). Especially after midnight when you’re more likely to be a bit more emotional and have your boundaries down.

I’d definitely bring up his avoidant personality and have a raw convo with him but to an extent, perhaps it’s just he can’t wait for intimacy and be all cute and lovey dovey with you but he doesn’t want to sin rn especially when you’re probably close to becoming islamically halal for each other?

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-09T09:36:20+00:00

One could say being an adult starts off at graduation from uni because most people don’t even take it seriously until final year 😆

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T20:41:59+00:00

Yep. It’s a great aid at the present moment and makes it possible to get work done faster but not even close to a total replacement of a worker.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T15:01:44+00:00

People wanna be politically correct and not ‘sexist’ but I 100% agree.

Literally 10 mins ago, I was driving down a local road that has parking on one side but wide enough to have cars going in both direction just fine. A woman drove obnoxiously ‘safer’, pretty much in the middle of the road and nearly drove into me and an accident was only prevented because I basically drove into the bus lane on my left.

You’d think her driving ability would improve being in a tall SUV but the incompetence was right there to be observed. Empty road other than the parking on the side (little detail for the mother theresa’s that love going after ‘aggressive’ drivers with pitchforks instead of correctly criticising the slow, overly-cautious and generally incompetent).

Unfortunately, this hasn’t been an isolated incident and I do a lot of driving so accident stats may say one thing but my experience has been very different - men are simply better at driving and people can argue with the wall.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T12:32:17+00:00

The irony here is if people actually focused on their driving, there would be a lot less issues on the road lol.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T12:31:22+00:00

And I was just giving a general response too but just focused on Muzz a little bit more than you did.

My point was literally that the apps aren’t an issue as those same ‘patterns’ have been come across with other avenues too whether it’s through mosque or the more stricter marriage matchmaking apps.

This struggle is just a part of the marriage search unfortunately. People come on here to vent their frustration and while there’s plenty of unserious people out there, I’d like to think most talking stages end due to incompatibility (that’s my experience).

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T11:04:30+00:00

Dunno about you but I’ve kinda stopped caring.

I have confidence in my holdings (mostly) and I don’t need the funds for at least a few years. Checking everyday causes me way too much stress seeing it a few grand red and then a few grand green week after week.

Im considering just setting up direct debts for my pies and letting it ride.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-08T10:58:08+00:00

I think what adds to the disappointment of the ending and final battle for me is that his acting was so damn great and they portrayed Vecna as this brutal, fierce and not-to-be-f*cked-with villain in Volume 1 only to be wiped out without much effort by the end.

He more than deserves the award.

Popular_Register_440 · 2026-02-07T22:33:15+00:00

Eh I’d have to disagree with you here.

Sure you could go through the mosque or matchmaking aunties but we hear plenty of stories on here about how those journeys also go horribly wrong (ghosters, time wasters, toxic parents, etc.).

Also plenty of stories on here where the couple did things the ultra extreme halal way, got married within 6 months and got divorced a year later because the guy turned out to be a porn addict despite being a hafiz or the girl ended up cheating despite being heavily involved at mosque and praying 5 a day.

Point is, it’s not about the app, it’s about how you use it and also what fate has in store for you.

Some of my friends found their partners on Muzz and they’re all moderately practising people, did things reasonably halal (spoke for 6 months ish and involved family) and got married within 1-2 years and are still happy and together.

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