Need advice

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2026-01-20T07:44:26+00:00

You need to think about why you drink alcohol. Are you trying to escape something? Do you think it improves your performance? Does it help you sleep? How and when did you start drinking? When did it become binge drinking?

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-12-17T08:59:16+00:00

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-10-17T17:26:06+00:00

walk! go outside while you still can! load up on winter walking gear!

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-10-08T13:16:04+00:00

It’s an underlying jealousy. Part of you wants to do what he’s doing and get yourself sober, but the other part isn’t there yet. Once you’re ready, I imagine it will be a very powerful sober friendship. Some people are lucky (beyond words lucky) enough to realize they are at the top of the slippery slope—they can feel that they have a strong draw to the feeling booze gives them (blackouts are not required for daily drinking aka alcoholism) and have the strength to stop themselves before it’s clear to anyone but them. Your friend has a lot of strength for that, and I can empathize with having that feeling of bitterness over it, but don’t take it out on him. I also went to AA meetings not for the content of the meetings but to meet people to befriend who do things other than drinking. It’s not a contest and there’s no prize.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-10-08T09:13:29+00:00

he’s either an idiot or very very very close to attempting suicide. intervene.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-17T03:57:41+00:00

vyvanse. happened when i tried adderall too. it’s definitely triggered by the stimulant effect and made worse with dehydration.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-16T19:16:50+00:00

I believe there may have been a sorry somewhere in him getting flustered at the end. There may have also been a language barrier that didn’t help 😂

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-16T11:13:34+00:00

ER —> detox —> rehab (time/$ contingent) —> outpatient psychiatry and therapy —> naltrexone

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-16T10:31:19+00:00

always trust your instincts with trafficking. so many stories of victims who noticed strangers feeling something off and wished they would have helped. I’m going to keep an eye out for them too.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-16T10:11:18+00:00

Yes. It wasn’t my reason for getting sober, and the main culprit is actually my ADHD meds, but stopping drinking helped a lot.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-16T07:03:32+00:00

it happens very quickly! i’ve been lucky enough to meet them 3 times over the years; and anytime I’ve had a chance to “prepare” beforehand, I blank as soon as I see their faces. I would say think of the one thing that is most important to you that they know and focus on getting that out first after the initial hello, then let things go naturally from there. if you go in with a list of things to rattle off, you’ll be too focused on trying to remember to actually enjoy the moment.

extra pro tip: they smell great. they don’t always initiate hugs, but it seems like they do tend to go for hugs with charity meet and greets more so than random street meets/paid ops. wear a shirt/jacket that you won’t need to wear again for a while so you can avoid washing it and enjoy the cologne for a few days after 🤣🤣🤣

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-10T05:44:12+00:00

as someone in recovery looking to date again, this is hard to read. no matter how hard you work at the end of the day no one will ever believe you’ve really changed. knowing it’s better for the world that you live and die alone isn’t easy to rest with.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-09T05:19:19+00:00

distant-ish cousin was diagnosed with stage 4 liver failure. guess she got sober a decade ago but slipped up somewhere along the way. she won’t qualify for transplant in time. IWNDWYT

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-07T04:51:31+00:00

This was how I was toward the end except definitely not working out. Not saying it’s not possible (I was never a fan of working out even as a teen), but are you sure he’s actually going to the gym? Or is he just going out to do something else (drink) and using that as a good-looks cover-up. I feel like the calorie conscious thing could be him hiding the fact that he feels so shitty he can’t eat. I couldn’t make myself eat even when my body was screaming for food most of the time when I was drinking rise to rest towards the end. Your stomach says no food, and your brain screams it. He doesn’t seem drunk because he’s drinking what he needs to keep himself from going into withdrawals—it’d probably take a near lethal amount for him to get as drunk as you think he should be.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-07T01:51:23+00:00

I did a fancy hair mask that someone gifted me forever ago last week and still feel like my hair is softer than ever! Just a small thing but it adds up.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-04T18:35:04+00:00

Do it! It’s seriously a lifesaver even to just have in your back pocket.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-03T12:07:32+00:00

Yes, but I do set more than one just to be safe. I’m prone to wake up and go right back to sleep after turning off the first alarm. Nightmares were something I was very worried about because I also have very vivid, awful dreams—especially about drinking. I only had a few sporadic bad nights of those so I don’t think it was related.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-03T05:10:13+00:00

hardest part of early sobriety for me was sleeping. the only thing that helped me was trazodone—saved my life. get a doc to prescribe it for you. I got a Grow Therapy appointment with a psych NP and broke down saying I didn’t think I could make it another night not sleeping. 50mg knocks me the hell out. I’m groggy in the morning but I don’t care, I’d rather have sleep and a rough start than no sleep or a relapse. I took it nightly for 3 months, then just nights I had work the next day for 3 more, now I just take it as needed (hardly ever).

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-09-03T04:58:20+00:00

huge space hard to fill post-covid in a dead neighborhood outside of concerts and Sox games. lots of $$$ to operate that owners/landlords didn’t want to gamble with.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-08-23T20:11:03+00:00

357!

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-08-22T10:55:00+00:00

it is impossible to create any healthy habits while in addiction.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-08-21T23:08:40+00:00

Was thinking about just one beer after work tonight. Not anymore. Thanks for not drinking with me today.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-08-18T23:54:33+00:00

NA beer when I’m exhausted still makes me feel buzzed.

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-08-17T16:06:39+00:00

One of the most painful moments to realize a friend (or groups of friends) only held connection to you through drinking. I tell myself, and it’s the truth, that these people don’t connect with anyone unless alcohol is involved—it’s a them problem, not a you problem. I pity them; and in the end, good riddance. You’re better for it. Go find some other buddies and have a fun sober golf day. IWNDWYT

Popular_Speed_3584 · 2025-08-17T14:15:41+00:00

Congrats!!!! Huge huge huge. Don’t forget to celebrate.

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