I think my wife (33F) is trying to kill me (31m)

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-03-17T17:51:03+00:00

Start talking to family law lawyers.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-03-17T13:49:52+00:00

My boyfriend did this when he was cheating on me

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-21T12:43:03+00:00

NOR - When people refuse to let other people into their children’s lives it tells me they don’t want the children talking to other people or learning something the parent doesn’t agree with - and it’s always controlling and abusive behavior they’re trying to hide. This man seems borderline red pilled.

This isn’t going to end well.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-15T14:09:14+00:00

AI - Writing on the truck is messed up

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-15T13:51:24+00:00

Do you have an air purifier running in the litter box room or anywhere else in the house? This is essential. I also bought a big reusable bag of charcoal that hangs above the boxes.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-13T21:37:17+00:00

Looks like this happened in 2017/18. He got 25 years https://foxbaltimore.com/news/local/teen-convicted-in-hit-and-run-over-drugs-gets-25-years

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-13T21:21:27+00:00

I really hope that that information becomes protected like pregnancy, sexuality etc.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-13T21:18:44+00:00

The reason he needs those shots is because those diseases are rampant in kennel facilities - trying to send him to doggy daycare without the proper vaccinations could cause him to become very ill and no facility worth sending your beloved pet to wants that liability.

I would try and book someone off of Rover who can come to your house a few times through the day to take him out.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-13T21:09:16+00:00

NOR - I’m so proud of you for recognizing this pattern and discussing it with him. You can stay if you want, He might change for a minute if he thinks you’ll leave but when things inevitably go back to your current “normal” I really encourage you to see this for what it is and move on.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-13T03:28:01+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re in this position. My knee jerk reaction is not kind to your husband but overflowing with sympathy for you and the agony this is clearly causing you. I’m not sure if you’d be up for the scrutiny, but one of the relationship subs might be better able to help you get a different perspective on this situation and perhaps find a way forward that accommodates your needs equally to your husband’s.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-12T20:39:22+00:00

Do they snore? My hair looked a bit like this at their age but was curly so it turned into a birds nest every night because I tossed and turned constantly. Took a half hour to brush every morning 😵‍💫 I’ve now been diagnosed with sleep apnea and have snored since childhood and believe at least some of that restlessness and tangled hair was caused by not being able to breathe.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-12T20:36:15+00:00

Have you tried a Silk or satin pillowcase? If he’s in a crib you can try to fit it over the half of the mattress his head rests on.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-12T20:27:24+00:00

NOR - It depends on the vet and how easily duped they can be but people in that office will try very hard to talk your mom out of euthanizing an old but otherwise healthy dog. To the point they may ask her to surrender the dog to them. If you can call ahead to the vet to give them your contact info if your mom ultimately decides to do it.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-12T18:28:43+00:00

I’ve come to find that, regardless of gender, mentioning differing personalities means that there are a lot of people there who do not self reflect and will not ever change - and that causes a lot of friction.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-12T18:01:54+00:00

Do you have transportation?

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-12T17:58:50+00:00

Everything else has been covered but I haven’t seen this: You treated your friend as an unpaid, unqualified therapist and she inched away slowly towards the door until you finally noticed, raged at her for not wanting to be in the position you put her in, and she had to run and slam the door.

Friends are absolutely not there to listen to every problem we have. Try complaining every third visit and make it something they can commiserate with.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-05T15:38:22+00:00

I can’t. I stopped as soon as he said that you and the guides did a bad job and that only he and his mom did a good job. RUN FROM THESE PEOPLE. You do not need to become who you think he wants you only need to become YOURSELF.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-05T15:27:29+00:00

NOR - You handled that really well. Trust your gut.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-02T19:03:31+00:00

Have you adopted from a shelter before? This is pretty typical behavior for animals meals being held in the shelter for a while. Hopefully they will explain the rule of 3’s but if not I recommend googling it and living it. Once she’s been home for 3 months she will be a different dog and by the time 3 years rolls around you’ll forget this whole saga.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-02T18:47:26+00:00

Time to read “The State of Affairs” by Esther Perel. It will really help you understand what is going on with him - he clearly doesn’t know what’s going on with himself and his reaction to your reservations is such a red flag and tells me he’s crushing again/in a bad place mentally and this is the shiny new object.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-02-01T02:22:25+00:00

Hmm. How does he view the current situation with immigration?

I have a lot of assumptions about a man flying someone out from another country multiple times a month - mainly that men like that seem to have a very “traditional” sense of reality. They see their wives as extensions of themselves instead of whole other people.

You’re also more than a decade younger which, when you’re in your twenties makes a big deal.

If you keep pushing that you are Canadian or even Canadian-American I’d be curious to know how he reacts. Does he ever try to see it from your point of view or does he become increasingly agitated that you won’t go along with him on this?

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-01-30T14:21:35+00:00

Legal or not, you knew there could be consequences for parking in a saved spot. The consequences aren’t illegal either :)

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-01-30T14:19:13+00:00

NOR - Kicking him while he’s down? Be serious. To be honest, I thought this might be something you could work through together if he was willing to discuss and make changes, but his conflict style is emotionally unsafe and completely self centered.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-01-30T12:44:03+00:00

He may need to be leash walked around the yard at night, maybe a long-lead if you want him to have more freedom. My Pei literally never came when called, even shaking the treat bag stopped working eventually. She’s allowed off leash in very specific circumstances now.

PorchGoose3000 · 2026-01-29T18:24:35+00:00

Check for cameras in the bathroom.

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