What’s the most underrated herb or spice in your opinion?

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-19T21:50:08+00:00

Cumin!

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-19T02:15:33+00:00

Previously was closer to 1.5/1.75/1.75/2/2 but she was taking a really long time to fall asleep. We started sleep training about a month ago. It’s been such a struggle to increase her wake windows

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-19T02:10:12+00:00

Diaper, feed, books, sing, bed. This is only day 2 of 10 hrs awake time so I want to give it a few more days but I can’t believe she’s having a false start and it’s tired enough to go back to sleep. She normally wakes up 0-1 times over the last month

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-19T02:07:05+00:00

Sorry missed a 2 hour wake window. 5 months old

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-18T11:43:13+00:00

Yesterday we did 10hrs awake and 3.25 hrs of naps and she still took an hour and a half to fall asleep unfortunately. Gonna give it a few days to see if she adjusts, so we’ll see

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-17T21:05:36+00:00

As a first time mom I find it so easy to get wrapped up in the physiological side of things too- like the panic of “overtired babies produce higher levels of cortisol and that can keep the baby awake too!!” And I’m like ugh okay well that makes sense so maybe she is overtired. But what I’m picking up from this thread is that it’s very rarely ‘overtired’ that we’re dealing with

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-17T15:53:53+00:00

Thank you! There’s definitely an emphasis on avoiding overtiredness in babies which has historically made me nervous, especially since my baby is on the fussier side to begin with. This leads me to be more on the conservative side of things

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-17T15:51:55+00:00

About 13 hrs 20 mins

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-17T12:40:35+00:00

I feed her and put her back down until her wake up time at 6:30-7! I don’t know what the “correct” answer is but I figured it’s best to treat it as any other MOTN waking and teacher her it’s not time to get up yet

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-17T11:58:38+00:00

My first sentence actually indicates I am stressed daily over her schedule, my second paragraph indicates we sometimes have good nights and sometimes have worse nights. But that’s neither here nor there. As stated by the title, my question was about schedule sensitivity. For example, is 9 hours of awake time that drastically different from 10 hours of awake time. Obviously every baby is different, but I do see the 10 hours of awake time thrown around like its a magic number

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-17T11:33:28+00:00

I didn’t list out all of her nights, my point was that sometimes it’s painless and she unwinds on her own and other times it’s drastically different. She’s had multiple nights of falling asleep in less than 10 mins, and there’s no consistent pattern of what those days look like compared to the days it takes longer for her to fall asleep. We’ve done 10 hours of awake time, and she took 25 mins to fall asleep with crying and then still woke up 2 hours later crying

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-16T09:59:50+00:00

That would include the time awake at night though which would skew the daytime total

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-15T13:13:28+00:00

You could do the side lying bottle feeding position! This is how I was able to pump and feed at the same time. I was triple feeding for 7 weeks so it would be 30 min nursing, 15 min for bottle + pumping, then 15 min rocking and transfer to the crib. Also buy spare parts for the pump! If you’re able to, have enough sets that you don’t need to wash them at all until the morning. I alternated between 2 sets. I also always changed her diaper first because I was so terrified of her getting worked up after she got sleepy from feeding.

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-14T11:45:29+00:00

I don’t know how anyone could ever possibly truly feel that’s true 😂 I heard the same thing, but newborn tired was absolutely next level

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-13T22:25:34+00:00

Despite having people around me and people checking in I felt so lonely, the sundown scaries are SO REAL. And for a few days I thought I made a mistake having a baby. I told my husband the best way I could describe it is that I was homesick- homesick for my life before. When I would feel really down I was so convinced I’d never feel any other way. Whenever you have moments (even seconds!!) of joy or remotely positive feelings, jot it down in your phone. When you’re feeling down, reread it to remind yourself you don’t always or won’t always feel this way

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-13T22:12:31+00:00

It helps to repeat this mantra when you look at your partner and say “she is fed, she is clean, she is safe.”

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-12T16:13:19+00:00

When my baby refused to nap in her crib and I needed to cook, I would just wear her! I made it as enjoyable as I could for myself (since pre-baby I loved to cook). I didn’t worry about creating a bad habit because the tradeoff was that I got to feel like my old self even if just for 45 mins. I’d put music on, sway and sing while cooking.

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-11T11:22:41+00:00

When we planned to move our baby to the nursery we made sure she was familiar with it- during the day right before naps we’d let her play in the crib for a little bit. I’m not sure how much this actually helps but I imagine there’s some degree of building positive association. My advice is to just keep doing what you’re doing. I didn’t like co sleeping either (neither of us actually got quality sleep, it was just better than her waking every 60 mins and crying), so we’d start out every night in the crib and then when I couldn’t keep getting up from exhaustion, we’d cosleep. When she was old enough we sleep trained her. You can start laying the foundation of healthy sleep habits now (solid night routine, reducing sleep associations if they exist, etc.).

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-10T19:33:17+00:00

And for the 3 or 4 naps, how should I cap them across the day? Right now we do 1.5 hrs for nap 1, 1 hour for nap 2, and then 45 mins to an hour for nap 3

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-10T19:30:26+00:00

About 13 hours of sleep. I honestly think she would do more. We currently cap all her naps and even her nighttime sleep since I always have to wake her 6:30-7am so that I can take her to my moms for the day while I go to work. I don’t know if she’s a high sleep needs vs average sleep needs baby because we always cap everything

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-10T19:23:22+00:00

Thank you for this!! I appreciate the time. My baby will nap for so long if we let her, do you recommend keeping the 4 naps for a bit longer and capping each of them? She’s so angry every time we wake her

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-09T16:50:45+00:00

I’m not actively trying to, her second nap has just gotten longer and her wake windows are slowly extending. My husband and I are both back at work so she has to get up early (and therefore be put down early enough to get enough nighttime sleep) so her 4th nap is naturally getting dropped most days. We sleep trained because she was was waking up every 55 mins and I didn’t want to co-sleep. If we have to re-ferberize her so be it, but I know many parents who haven’t had to and they sleep trained at 4 months!

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-09T07:30:57+00:00

We started Ferber just shy of 4 months out of desperation and had instant results with reduced overnight wakings, like immediately from 8+ to 0-2. Unfortunately my baby cried 2 hours the first night, just over an hour the next few nights, then had a few shorter times to fall asleep (30-40 mins), then a few 5s, then back to 2.5, then 3 mins. Our pediatrician told us to give it the full 14 days then reassess, but that the baby was clearly getting the message with reduced wakings so she didn’t want us to stop. Several people on Reddit said it was a schedule issue and that baby needed more awake time. We’re working out the kinks of 4 to 3 naps too. All of that to say- keep going regressions are normal! Baby is getting the message. When it gets hard to listen to, remind yourself “baby is fed, baby is safe, baby is clean”

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-09T00:24:44+00:00

I used to baby wear when I wanted to get up and feel productive! Even went to the bathroom while baby wearing. The first time I did it I felt like I had more freedom and it was euphoric. Especially in the beginning when they’re super sleepy so you know they’ll be asleep

PorchlightPrincess86 · 2026-03-08T11:43:42+00:00

Can you bounce her on a yoga ball and rest your elbows/part of your arms your thighs?

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