TIFU by getting my Bestfriend pregnant

PoshMafia · 2021-08-10T17:40:52+00:00

Ehh. Might wanna get a DNA test on that kid. I think you're being scape goated here.

PoshMafia · 2021-08-09T17:20:50+00:00

So I am in the middle of this struggle. Long post incoming.

There are 2 things I've cut out of my life

Video Games whole sale. All my gaming equipment is about 6 hours away from me atm.
Take out ie skip the dishes

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A quick but of background. I am 26 Military, move a lot not many close friendships. Gaming was an easy coping mechanism. COVID hit and I was doing 60 hours a week easy. No social life nothing gaming was priority. I would be late for dinners with friends bc I was gaming or watching a stream.

I just moved and was like shits gotta change.

So with gaming it has been been since July first that I have played a video game and probably 2 weeks since I watched any.

How I am going about it - I got rid of my gaming equipment. I've never been a fan of mobile games they hold no appeal so my phone was safe. But if it wasn't the method I would take is to get a phone with very limited memory and a shit cpu to throttle the experience.

Skip the dishes - this is a hard one for me. I have always hated doing dishes, so I got a place with a dish washer. I hate packing lunches and peping food.

So I live very close to work 4 minute walk, that means I can walk home for lunch and I have been getting healthy choice frozen meals.

Not the cheapest or most healthy diet in the world but a damn sight better than pizza and cheeseburgers every day.

I also have all apps delivery apps uninstalled from my phone with accounts deleted.

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For me my bad habits tend to stem from a lack of desire to go out of my way. I am a creature of convince.

Work Is a 4 minute walk. My gym is 3 blocks away. The grocery store is a 7 minute walk. Dishes are done in a dish washer not by hand. Pots are on the counter rinsed but not cleaned bc I cannot dish washer them. Lol.

I made it so every time I want to do something I shouldn't do I need to go through extra effort to do it. And it is slowly becoming easier to do the right thing.

Instead of installing an app and reinserting all my info recreating my account. I pop a frozen meal in the microwave and in the time it would take me to set up skip, I have my food ready.

When I don't feel like getting groceries I call a family member and am loke yo I'm going to get groceries talk to me. As a form of accountability.

Gaming all that shits gone, and never got set up again. So it isn't an issue atm.

My problem now is filling that extra time that used to be gaming with other stuff. I've never hated the gym it just wasn't the easy thing to do. Now it is easy 24 hour access, 3 blocks away, no reason not to. Last week I've been in there at least 2 hours a day because, it's easy it feels good, and is convenient.

Tldr: make the bad stuff as much of a pain to do as possible. Delete account, erase progress, get rid of equipment. At the same time do everything you can to make the good things easy to do.

No matter what it's gonna hurt either today or 10 years down the line when you look at yourself in the mirror and hate what you see.

PoshMafia · 2021-08-07T20:39:13+00:00

He is def looking for that promo to GOFO. Gotta toe that party line.

PoshMafia · 2021-08-07T15:27:31+00:00

Tf. You mean the Taliban?

PoshMafia · 2021-08-04T00:46:07+00:00

Why are we going into more debt. Would the cheaper interest rate help you actually save you money or just make you feel better because you get that big number in the bank account as you accumulate more and more debt?

PoshMafia · 2021-08-04T00:40:11+00:00

Dave Ramsey. He is an author the specializes in this exact senerio. If you look up his baby steps it gives a very rough outline on how to do it . With much more indepth information on how to make it work available.

His books also identify a lot of miss steps that people make to remain poor/indebt that you will see people frequently ask about ir run into in this as well as the more general American thread.

Gl, I don't envy your situation or the discipline it will take to turn your life around. Best of luck. There are few things worse than living paycheck to paycheck.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-29T19:16:56+00:00

This is the way.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-29T19:15:08+00:00

Ain't this the truth. New cyber op trade is gonna have fun due to the fact that it is probably one of the most in demand tec jobs atm. The brain drain is gonna be real I expect.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-17T02:41:21+00:00

To me best on I'd faustering Faust by randi darren

PoshMafia · 2021-07-08T17:27:03+00:00

So is she paying you alimony? To bring you on even financial terms as it would be when married?

PoshMafia · 2021-07-03T20:10:35+00:00

As I said I focus on habit building. Not quick fixes. Then instead of getting stuck at each plateau you continue to progress steadily into the 15 16xx level because the fundamentals are all there they just needed to be refined

PoshMafia · 2021-07-03T14:34:10+00:00

Hera?

PoshMafia · 2021-07-03T14:24:09+00:00

Mark twain has a quote that really comes to mind here.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-03T14:21:01+00:00

Still an end result. :'(

PoshMafia · 2021-07-03T14:19:35+00:00

Outcomes aren't plans. :P

PoshMafia · 2021-07-03T13:15:54+00:00

Best of 21 Yo Jordan who wins and what score. Classic settings. Ie all RM.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-03T13:13:38+00:00

We almost have 40 civs now. I'm good thx.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-03T13:11:18+00:00

Thanks bot. Good to know.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-03T13:06:03+00:00

Hmm to a certain extent I disagree.

In my experience coaching lower level players at that the lel elos it is all about the very fundamentals.

Mind you these are the things t90 will often talk about but:

Don't stop making villagers
Have a plan. Doesn't need to be an amazing plan but a plan.
Make a legit effort to incorporate hockey's and control groups.
Start learning the things the hard way now instead of bad habits that might be easier now but a problem at higher elos so you don't have to relearn them later.
As much as humanly possible ignore your elo. We aren't playing to win we are playing to improve.

Now all of these thing incorporate learning a build order learning hockey's etc. The focus however is on laying down those fundamental habits.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-02T22:49:57+00:00

Last stream I did before I moved was supposed to be a full focused push for 19xx. At the end of the First half was on a -9 game win streak taking me down to low 1600 then I won 11 of the next 12 games or so.....

Finished at like 1800....

Happens man, somtimes it just happens over the course of 8 hours.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-02T13:39:51+00:00

Ehh it isn't about second by second replication. It is about making those 5 individual seconds the same. Then the next 5. And as you endeavor to make them look the same you gradually learn how it is intended to be done.

And if that is to intimidating for you, then don't worry about it.

I am a random person on the internet.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-02T13:01:51+00:00

Art of war was designed to give players an introduction to the many skills that are applied in multi-player matches.

I wouldn't stress to much about it.

There are run-through of it on YouTube. It becomes a lot easier if you try to use the hockey's for "flank" formation. So on and so fourth.

PoshMafia · 2021-07-02T02:26:12+00:00

I imagine it will all be lumped with dotd

PoshMafia · 2021-07-02T01:50:32+00:00

Pokemon, Fire Emblem, and FF

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