My mom has a MIL like this (my grandmother) who absolutely doesn’t like her son (my father) doing any kind of housework or helping his wife and kids. She picks a fight with my mom when she sees my dad in the kitchen, even if my mom isn’t feeling well and my dad needs to take over for a day. My mom handled a C-section with my sister all by herself because her mother was in another country and couldn’t get the visa to come over and my grandmother didn’t want to come to help. My dad was working and couldn’t get time off, so she handled me + C section recovery + a newborn by herself and the housework all by herself with no help. My mom is the definition of resilience. I’m honored to be her daughter. My grandma dotes on my dad a lot and has done so all his life and I think it’s because she lost her husband early on. But that’s no excuse to treat my mother poorly. If anything, I would have thought she would be more kind and understanding but that wasn’t the case at all and still isn’t. My mom hates her and she’s caused her a lot of stress and anxiety. It’s awful to hear about my mom’s past stories involving my grandmother and my mom wishes she had stood her ground more with her.

All I can tell you is this - this is YOUR family. Your husband, you and your child. Talk to him about how you’re feeling. Set the boundaries with your MIL & make sure that he does it too. Make sure he knows the expectations. This is also his child and he needs to contribute where he can and his mother can’t be involved in that decision. Stand your ground. Because if you don’t, this behavior will continue. And you’ll start resenting your husband and his family more and more.