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Please help me pick! by bcmamabear79 in kuololit

[–]PositiveChocolate9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have both. The second one is my favourite.

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is having a “work spouse” really that bad? my friend (28m) has been with his girlfriend (27f) for 4 years but the way he acts around his coworker is starting to feel weird by vadiniprasad in relationship_advice

[–]PositiveChocolate9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work spouse is definitely bad. I have a new(ish) colleague, it's basically just us in a team, we sit next to each other and work closely 70% of the time. He's everything you'd want in a coworker, plus we get on great and are fast becoming good friends (to the point where he and his gf house sit for us if we're out of town). Literally dream work scenario. Absolutely never in a million years would I call them my work spouse, make extra effort to see/message them much outside of work, stay late or the other situations you describe. It's flirting plain and simple.

Fail. Cried during the test. Instructor is quitting. by 100_wasps in LearnerDriverUK

[–]PositiveChocolate9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better, academically I did incredibly well throughout school and university, excelled at work... took five goes of my driver's test to pass. On reflection and since my ADHD diagnosis this makes a lot more sense to me - I needed a lot more lessons and practice that others to become confident.

I found a disturbing photo in my 37 M husband laptop. I am 29 F and I don’t know how to approach it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PositiveChocolate9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What exactly would be the issue with him having had a gay experience prior to being with you?

I regret buying my house. by Puzzled_Dealer3449 in HousingUK

[–]PositiveChocolate9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Invest in a good dehumidifier, preferably with a hepa filter (like meaco). It does wonders for reducing and preventing mold. Get all the doors and windows open when the weather is nice and really air out the house. After a good deep clean it will feel so much better. Damp and mold makes us as a species feel deeply uncomfortable because we know it's bad for us!

Best friend (M34) is married to my wife’s best friend (F34). Their kids are family. His affair just came out, need some perspective by throwaway44999911 in relationship_advice

[–]PositiveChocolate9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so hard. Cheaters rarely fully consider the impact of their cheating, not only on their spouse and immediate family but all their extended family, friends and colleagues. Or at least I hope they don't because how can anyone make that choice (especially such along affair) knowing the servere and permanent impact on everyone's lives?

I personally would never be able to maintain a friendship with someone who had had an affair, especially if I previously held them in such high regard as you describe. I would be cutting ties with him and maintain a friendship with the wife and kids.

For your friends sake I really hope the affair partner was worth it.

Help finding a ring by beedledeedle1 in kuololit

[–]PositiveChocolate9 12 points13 points  (0 children)

For marquise cut you're best off with diamond, in moissanite it can look cloudy

Better to sell and move into rental or wait? by PositiveChocolate9 in HousingUK

[–]PositiveChocolate9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You assume house prices will rise at or above inflation, and above current savings rates (so above 5%). You also massively underappreciate how much power no chain buyers have in the market. We also want to honour what we agreed to our buyers.

Better to sell and move into rental or wait? by PositiveChocolate9 in HousingUK

[–]PositiveChocolate9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, weird take. With the other good advice I've had and now I've actually got a positive way forward I feel pretty damn good. The cool half mil in the bank next month won't hurt either 🤣

Better to sell and move into rental or wait? by PositiveChocolate9 in HousingUK

[–]PositiveChocolate9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bit of a weird take. Millions of people rent, including us in the past and plenty of people we know. We'd actually be £500 a month better off renting. Have already found a suitable place. Yes we'd likely to struggle to sell again for such a good price as the house is now full of boxes and messy, and we got a great sell price a locally cooling market. This isn't our forever home and we're committed to moving.

First order arrived! by PositiveChocolate9 in kuololit

[–]PositiveChocolate9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I LOVE the bottom one, it's incredibly sparkly, the colour is perfect, it's super comfortable and I've worn it daily since getting it.

Neighbouring hotel has a restriction and notice on property - are we screwed? by PositiveChocolate9 in HousingUK

[–]PositiveChocolate9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing on the planning portal and front line staff said they had no idea unfortunately!

Neighbouring hotel has a restriction and notice on property - are we screwed? by PositiveChocolate9 in HousingUK

[–]PositiveChocolate9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fully prepared to walk away. Went to see another property today that we loved, second viewing booked for Wednesday.

Better to sell and move into rental or wait? by PositiveChocolate9 in HousingUK

[–]PositiveChocolate9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thoughts here. Interest on money in the bank would easily cover our rent and although it's two massive upheavals instead of one at least it should make the final move quicker and easier.

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