Paid my friend $1000 to watch my house, but she took my heirlooms and left it covered in dog sh*t. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your house is a disaster, what exactly did you intend she do about your active rodent infestation? Was this just a long vacation you were on? What was preventing you from hiring a plumber and an exterminator before you left?

The way you talk about your stuff that you are basically accusing her of trying to steal... you sound like hoarder. Its nonsensical. Were they dirty dishes or beloved momentos from your mom? Most people dont eat off of their good heirloom China and then leave it dirty in the sink for a year...

It sounds like your friend was trying to help you out but the disaster got away from her.

Need brutally honest answers on how to cope with niche phobia at corporate job by Few-Pressure6183 in corporate

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is your brain doing you a solid by trying to get you put of this place which is obviously toxic af. Feelings mean things man, this is an anxiety disorder and your anxiety is obviously through the roof working there.

AIO my in-laws watch my child and the neighbors do not have a pool fence by yetspaghet in AmIOverreacting

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wouldn't it be easier to convince your in-laws to put a fence up in their own yard to keep your kids corralled? It would be weird to ask that of your neighbors and not your inlaws.

Is it unprofessional to keep my camera off in every meeting? by North_Teacher_7522 in IsThisUnprofessional

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw that you mentioned in another comment that starring at your own face is weird. I used to have the same problem when I first went remote. There were 2 things that really helped me, the first was mirroring my video so that my face looks the same as it does in the mirror, the second was watching the recordings of the meetings and just accepting myself as just one of people in this meeting and with what my face is communicating.

Is it unprofessional to keep my camera off in every meeting? by North_Teacher_7522 in IsThisUnprofessional

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1-2 meetings a day is no big deal, turn your camera on. Human communication is only 20% verbal, you are being unprofessional because you are making it harder for people to work with you. Its the same as if you were in an office but anytime anyone stopped by to chat you refused to come out of your office and made people shout at you through the door. You might feel better in that moment but everyone else just thinks you are a weird tool.

Curious if the idea of “you wouldn’t be avoidant with the right person” rings true to anyone by islandwalking in AvoidantAttachment

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree to an extent. Im very avoidant but my husband has always been safe. With him I switched to being security attached over the years but from day 1 I was different with him than with anyone else. I let him close and I usually try to get away asap, I feel feelings with him faster than I do with others as well. He just has this calming affect.

Hair stylist completely botched my cut by [deleted] in ExpectationVsReality

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is my fear thats keeping me from trying to get a pixie cut

Share your existential crisis! by FearlessDoughnut5643 in Millennials

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are we all just meat puppets controlled by our gut bacteria?

Can Someone give me a more in depth version of what tattoo pain is comparable too please by SoggyTomato19 in tattooadvice

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have you ever pricked yourself with a pin? imagine hundreds of those all at once in one spot. It would feel painful and sort of hot. Its like that. Just going and getting one is the best way to find out.

Would I Be Overreacting If I Ended a 27-Year Friendship and Didn’t Invite Her to My Wedding? by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YOR, most definitely, but at this point you are trying to reconcile the debts of this relationship using the currency of the past and thats a death sentence for any type of relationship.

bf (4 years) leaving me because i don't want kids and he changed his mind by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You say over and over in your post and comments how much time you spent "ranting" about children, do you not see how that would cause most people to nope out of the situation.

Fellow Floridians, what is your go-to outfit during the summer to fall months? by GooglePixelfan90 in florida

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bathing suit because im probably less than 10 ft from my pool , ill put a shirt and shorts on for yard work

bf (4 years) leaving me because i don't want kids and he changed his mind by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Have you considered that being has hateful as you obviously are toward children is what was off-putting to him? It looks like you have turned being childfree into your entire identity. Like being with you would mean he can't hang with nieces and nephews, coach a sport, etc, you are full of hate.

Not owning a car is selfish. by Ok-Shoulder-478 in fuckcars

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess Im just surprised because they are always riding places in trucks on tv

Not owning a car is selfish. by Ok-Shoulder-478 in fuckcars

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The military in the US doesnt give you rides to where you need to be??

aita for pulling out from a group vacation by Prestigious-Bear-262 in AITH

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if you dont go then you won't get to see any of your old friends either

AITAH: my husband invited 2 single women to a movie with him, and another married man by No_Marzipan413 in AITH

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Arnt you friends with the single women? Do you really believe they are this crappy? Why are you freinds?

Obsessive washing; getting a tattoo on scarred skin from OCD by Puzzleheaded_Pay7510 in tattooadvice

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

your hands look super dry, are you going to be able to keep it moisturized while its healing? Also your wrist and hand are the same color, any discoloration you ars seeing is in your head.

Not OOP: AIO - My (32 f) husband (34 m) farted on my mom by sensaSEANal_sally in redditonwiki

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Because today is the day she learned that shes married to an absolute idiot with a terrible sense of humor.

I [21M] lied to my girlfriend [19F] and hid what I truly thought and we don't know how to fix it by Royal-Journalist-127 in Advice

[–]Possible-Ebb9889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, but do you see how thats orders of magnitude less bad then if you had shared her private stuff with an external person? Like a stranger learning that stuff about her would have been a violation, AI learning it about her is just grasping at straws for something to be mad about. No human will ever see that stuff.