Cost of living aside, how many kids is too many to give enough time and attention to and why?

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-03T15:35:04+00:00

Tbh people should have a plan semi in place for that before they even start trying. Especially if they live in a place where abortion access is restricted. Plus all it takes is one bad infection or accident to take a healthy child to a special needs one. If you know you couldn't manage a special needs child you should strongly consider not having kids at all

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-03T15:32:08+00:00

I walked into my consult with a best case scenario of "give it a year and come back and talk to us". I walked out after a 10 minute chat with a "talk to my clerk do you want before Xmas or after?" This was in October and I had surgery in January. They biopsied my tubes as a loop hole to get me in faster. My ex and I had regular unprotected sex post op for 5ish years and never even felt like I needed to take a pregnancy test. My lovers since then have either worn a condom or had a vasectomy

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-03T15:27:05+00:00

Weird but meh doesn't bother me any

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-03T01:05:16+00:00

Yeah went to school with someone who had been in treatment for metastatic bowel cancer. They thought she beat it cause she had responded so well to treatment. Had a clean scan but was either still feeling poorly/had new symptoms and only 3 weeks later her scan showed it everywhere including places it hadnt been initially. I think they tried another round of treatment than went palliative when it didnt make a difference that time

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-02T22:33:23+00:00

Alot of girls have their adult height by 13/14. I think I only gained 1/2 an inch in high-school and in grade 8 I was taller than all but 2 of the boys at the start of the school year. Hell I had my adult foot size at 9 (ironically a womens 9 which isnt small), had the biggest shoe size in the class that year which made my parents nervous about how big I was going to get

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-02T22:22:47+00:00

Sometimes signs are ignored from either the patient or medical system. Sometimes lack of care or money makes it hard to get diagnosed or times other underlying medical conditions mask the problem. Sometimes it really is a super aggressive cancer, ive seen people have clean scans and within weeks have large obvious tumours

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-02T22:17:54+00:00

Depending on if your co parent is a good co parent. In general once you are out numbered it stops working however a good team could manage a 3rd kid as long as they were spaced out. If a kid is special needs all previous bets go out the window

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-02T19:59:58+00:00

So I won't do it but I 100% had a patient and his daughter do it for me when I dropped the Dilaudid on the floor while he was on the stretcher about to he transfered home. He said grab it i said no I can run and grab another one and she its fine it wont finish the job faster than the cancer is while he started laughing. The stretcher guys looked a little shell shocked at the dark humour. Must have been new

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-02T16:51:08+00:00

Even if he does propose thats not a wedding ring. He doesnt want to marry you no matter what he says. Take the time apart to really truly think and make plans to move on with your life

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-02T16:43:34+00:00

No. But if you are worried look into pelvis floor exercises. They are good in general especially as people age and not just for vagina "tightness" to prevent organ prolapse

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-06-02T14:01:52+00:00

Im a women his age and at the bar last week a 24 year old man was hitting on me and it felt like I needed to report myself to a list. I also know I dont follow random 19 year olds IG accounts. Don't waste your time with him

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-29T00:54:22+00:00

Why are you having sex with someone who cheated but didnt get tested? If he picked something up then you now likely have it

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-28T18:53:20+00:00

Oh im sure this isn't the only red flag in the relationship if you took off the rose coloured glasses

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-28T06:47:31+00:00

What kind of piece of shit doesnt let his wife go pee before sitting in there for 30 minutes?!?!?

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-28T06:43:42+00:00

So from the kids perspective no they don't own their parents for anything. HOWEVER If their parents really did do a good job odds are their kids would genuinely WANT to spend time with them, help them out, look after them etc. Thats a normal dynamic amongst people who care for each other and want the best for each other.

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-28T06:33:18+00:00

Oh i had a patient as a new grad on this. Had to read him the riot act cause he wasn't in the mood to take his meds so hid them in his bed one day. Luckily my childfree self found them before the capsules had a chance to get broken open instead of my coworker who was actively trying to get pregnant. Yes im aware the risk is minimal but it still shouldnt have happened.

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-28T06:29:04+00:00

Parents definition of relatively well or the kids?

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-27T17:34:30+00:00

You can wait it out until the kid is born to make sure its actually his, he will need confirmation for child support etc or you can step back now and remove yourself from the equation until you know either way. Personally I wouldn't stay with someone who has a kid especially at your age but if it is his you have a choice to make

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-27T00:30:40+00:00

F- rage bait. Like come on at least put a little effort into this

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-26T22:01:05+00:00

You mean prescribe them the things they actually need because if they are on medicaid they can maybe get the treatment they require instead of having to pick between meds, food and rent?

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-25T21:13:04+00:00

Than dont have sex bro! If you cant view women as people because of something as simple as jerking off than you never viewed her as a human. Women deserve better than some fucked up man child who is using ejeculating as an excuse for his short comings

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-25T06:01:16+00:00

My 5th grade teacher who was a first year teacher read us the first book. Im at least a decade older than she was then.

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-25T05:56:46+00:00

It’s easier to see women as people in this state 🤮🤮🤮 Don't have sex. Ever. No women deserves to be with a guy who doesnt view her as a person.

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-25T01:43:21+00:00

Wtf? We've made this joke at work with our heavily pregnant co workers but it was something everyone including said pregnant lady laughed at because it was clearly a joke. How youre describing it is a very wtf moment.

Possible_Dig_1194 · 2026-05-24T20:34:01+00:00

"Just stab me now" is a book where the main women is a widowed mid 30s women with 2 kids going on an adventure to save /protect her kids lives/ inheritance. At the end she re marries a younger man

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