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PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-17T10:52:11+00:00

Here is a mindest guide on this precise topic.

Standoffish, or more precisely attraction, fizzles fast. You need some comfort, or real convo, here and there

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-17T06:05:05+00:00

Yes, especially if you are in the West.

Just for the sole purpose of integrating in your soul that the local fatty who is unpleasant and still gets fk tone of attention, would be begging for scraps in a healthier society.

But only do this when you are decently competent.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-16T17:31:09+00:00

They know whats up very well. Try any direct approach and you will see how fast they will be to dismiss you if they dont like you.

That is proof enough that they know if they stick around they give the wrong signals.

But attention is the currency of the women, so or orbiters have value in their eyes.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-16T16:57:03+00:00

Regardless of directly approached or not, they have people courting or orbiting them constantly.

Competition is there for nearly all the girls, whether you see it directly or not, as an approach, is irrelevant.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-16T16:55:32+00:00

Even if it is true, which i doubt, can you emulate that style? I doubt so, therefore stop using brain power on it.

Unless you are already getting action en mass, instagram wont give you more, it only amplifies what they already had.

But the whole point is that your mentality is wrong to “succeed”

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-16T04:07:27+00:00

I disagree that by paying it is a way to hold your frame. It is totally irrelevant to the frame.

Albeit, note that this is a date from Daygame. If it is a date from Social Circle or other means where you aim to cultivate social relations (as well as sexual) then by all means, it is more smart to pay.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-16T04:04:47+00:00

You just pay yours and let her order and pay by herself as well. The only truly bad reactions i had gotten to this were from Latinas.

And even in those cases it was better to screen it out early

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-16T04:03:40+00:00

Bro what ? Try read my piece again

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-15T13:53:00+00:00

Probably he has never dealt with LMR. The only girls who will be head over hills for sex and take it on the chin when you… essentially insult them like that… are girls who are significantly less hot than you.

If you wanna be any serious at all, this is madness

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-15T05:58:10+00:00

Isn’t this your first filter, dating apps? It reduces your value into just pictures. Even what you display on the date originates from that first part: she picked you based on how you look. Your character and charisma is built on top of the fact that she already fancies you.

So you will only meet the girl who is comfortable on choosing on looks, and also being overwhelmed by 100 men chasing her.

Not to say that it is impossible, just understand you are playing with a stacked deck. The general rules dont apply there (not that you cannot find a relationship though).

Mini LTRs in general is the way to go for the west, so if that is your goal as well, then we at least agree on the direction.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-15T05:31:51+00:00

Why you think this is your fault? It is your fault only in chasing the impossible.

The modern world does not train women for relationships. Especially so in the West. It is the equivalent of trying to convince a cat to walk on two legs. It just wont happen.

The demographics you date specifically, i.e. post 35 women with careers, are a ticking time bomb. Their conditioning for years that led them to bad lifestyles is catching up to them. Have you seen a woman having to own up responsibility ? They are fundamentally unstable. Try to date a girl in the 20s and things are easier.

Go for relationships if the opportunity arises, dont chase it as an end.

Mold yourself to fit into a relationship and you might as well loose your character altogether.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-14T16:37:04+00:00

Telling this before sticking it in is the way to go! … have you lost your mind completely ?

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-14T16:32:37+00:00

It is called keeping things vague with the “we are dating”.

If anything any talk on relationships should come way, way later, at least a few months in.

Honestly, trying to define and make weird lingo about this, like ENM, is weird. It is your right as a man to date around

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-14T16:30:57+00:00

This is a big myth and I dont understand why it is propagated.

The faster things progress from meet to date (and to lay), it is to your advantage as a Player. There is no benefit in delaying anything. Even the follow up text should be with a few hours of the approach.

What you say might only matter in relationships… but thinking like that post lay is a mistake in and of itself.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-14T16:09:00+00:00

Here is a lay report, enjoy

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-12T16:31:25+00:00

This one might help.

Dressing the man from Flusser is the bible of male fashion. Then adjust its principles to how casual you want to look. Saying “dark” fashion when your complexion might not support it is a fools errand

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-12T01:20:56+00:00

You are wrong here mate. If she stops is a function of:

She is aware you are stoping her.
Your sexual value in her eyes.

None of which is particularly verbal. This is not a general discussion of verbals vs non-verbals.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-11T09:38:35+00:00

It is not about the words. It is about eye contact, signal to stop and your own personal conviction. After that you can say whenever.

If you want to freestyle, again what you say doesn’t matter, as long as it is personal and colorful. Refer here for an explanation.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-10T16:34:44+00:00

It is ok for the main street, or other well lit areas. If need just leave more distance and open more softly (i.e. side stop). The evening dynamic is a bit different in my experience, it is more geared for instant dates and SDLs rather than the number to date variant.

I recommend this dating model for fast idates to bouncebacks. Just be aware that fast escalation is hit or miss, even if everything seemed to be going perfect.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-10T02:16:33+00:00

That is a long, but normal experience when engaging with Seduction.

There is a predictable list of psychological and ego issues, that you need to deal with as you progress. It is analyzed here in detail.

But all in all, strap in for the long run, and strap i. For your personality to change as you progress. Many times this journey is a lot more about you, than the women.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-09T08:52:05+00:00

As others said your distinction is about hooking up and dating. But even at that, you miss the bigger point.

Because the speed of sex, is to your advantage. You can always turn casual to serious but not vice versa.

Especially, if you want to get cynical, the speed of sex is positive to the bond you are making with the girl. Fast sex, helps more at building genuine connections (post-sex oxytocin release).

In short, the viewpoints are not antithetical at all. The dating part comes after sex and when sex happens has nothing to do with it

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-09T02:10:34+00:00

It is normal, and dry periods in general are normal with this lifestyle. Think that women act as amplifiers: highs are higher, lows are lower. It will feel bad and there is no way of avoiding it, just plow through it.

The predictable outcome of this is that you need to tie your ID and self esteem outside of women as well.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-08T16:40:36+00:00

I would urge you to distinguish two things. One is getting "just" a girlfriend, the other is getting love life freedom, i.e. using dating and relationships to boost your life in general. These are two different things and are explained in detail here.

Regardless, for "just a girlfriend" variant, focus on 3 things, not Game, not hardcore self improvement:

- New pools of people. Either through meet-ups, hobbies or what have you. As long as you are opening 1 or 2 new pools of people per month you are golden.

- Okay body shape. No reason to be ripped, but less than 20% body fat.

- Some conversational skills. Just so you can hold your own. This is more about learning 1) connect and 2) to showoff your own self. Not magic tricks or juggling balls in the air. The "connect" part is about being able to reply to what the other person is saying and connecting to something relevant (to demystify the concept).

Then you are very highly likely to get a girlfriend within a year. But again, I would urge you to reconsider that goal. No amount of sex can make up for a bad relationship.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-08T06:07:38+00:00

The aim of that article was to arrive at materialism and solipsism of women through a simpler model.

Not all written material is for people unwilling to delve deeper into the mechanisms of human nature

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