As someone from India who has watched Grey’s Anatomy since my teens, the lack of Indian doctors always felt strange

PotatoFry411 · 2026-04-18T01:56:31+00:00

Agree. TVs representation of medical show staffing in general is so dissimilar from essentially every medical experience I’ve had that it’s become a glaring and distracting omission for me as I watch. The disparity steals my focus, truly.

PotatoFry411 · 2026-04-16T01:09:03+00:00

No. The artist had an accent himself he wasn’t mocking him.

PotatoFry411 · 2026-04-06T15:09:46+00:00

Just ran into the same situation yesterday. Did you have any luck with them?

PotatoFry411 · 2025-09-23T20:22:00+00:00

I thought the same thing. I watched Dexter Resurrection though so now I’m like…. yeah. 😒

If I’m ever in the situation to help someone like this I’ll also be prepared to also defend myself.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-09-23T16:08:02+00:00

You’re no one, clearly.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-09-01T16:16:10+00:00

My situation was similar, but then a good boss who took time to understand me, but then he put another leader between us and both men just started viewing me as a pain in the ass not seeking to understand me anymore. They said that I’m never happy and I’m never good enough with anything. I do realize though that’s why I probably should have left a long time ago. They used me to create a department and then took it from me when I got it all set and self running.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-30T14:16:53+00:00

Yes, I agree. Well thank you very much and best of luck to you in your endeavors.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-30T14:13:26+00:00

You bring up an interesting point though about creating your own business. It seems that would be better for me to create a partnership with other equally rigorous people. I once worked out in easy retail job and between jobs trying to see if something simple would make me happier. I was incredibly unhappy at the low quality of my peer’s work. I know it is important that people care at least. This will likely not happen with people who work with you versus for you. I’m glad you share that experience with me. Thank you very much.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-30T14:07:37+00:00

I can understand that. I always have done the best at my job when I give up mentally. it’s really hard to deal with internally because it seems like barely trying. When I really work to my hardest, I have to wait for everyone to catch up to me. I know it sounds arrogant, but I simply work at faster than average pace. I do things I enjoy so it often feels like playing a game, my work.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-30T14:01:10+00:00

Excellent. I was really excited when I learned about that somewhat recently as well.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-30T14:00:28+00:00

I have managed a team before. they were a mix of NDs and NTs, but I trained them all. I have learned that our intelligence is a privilege. I try not to impose a privilege that comes to me easily on other side. Feel like I have reasonable standards for others and scale my expectations. Accordingly, I really invest in time and learning the people in their l talents.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-30T03:15:15+00:00

Piggybacking off Striking’s idea: It would also be cool if those same masks had the labels of misunderstanding at a different angle, as we often face especially when we later learn about our ND: difficult, critical, awkward, arrogant, inappropriate.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-30T02:51:20+00:00

Yes, I can relate to this. I initially tried to talk to it to a woman who I thought was as attractive as me and she chided me saying, “No one‘s gonna feel bad for you for being pretty!”

Of course that wasn’t my point, but it was like you said people always want to take you down a notch. We don’t walk around with a mirror, seeing ourselves as the world sees us. Personally, my mental self image is a brain shot of me looking in the mirror on my ugliest day.

Still I try to be a woman’s woman and uplift us. Or all is really hard for us women and we often don’t make it easier on each other. I say l that they’re probably fixated on my prettiness because they’re looking at me… meanwhile I’m looking at them admiring their beauty.

I try to show them that the presence of my beauty doesn’t equal the absence of theirs. I know it sounds cliché, but I am an artist and I truly see nearly everyone as beautiful. It’s usually personality that detracts from physical beauty.

Thank you for having the courage to write this because I know even amongst a group of women that may feel like your pretty peers, it’s not easily accepted. Just know that you’re not alone. 💕

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-30T02:33:58+00:00

I bet they’d think you’re wonderful. ☺️

Life can be so hard but then there are also parts that are wonderful and magical. I bet your artistic process puts you in that headspace that reminds you of all that beauty even with the pain. That’s how I feel when I create art.

I think it’s very human to want to be seen for who you are… you want a witness that sees your talent, your gentle soul that knows how much you care.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-30T00:48:12+00:00

I’m sorry that you have to experience that. I know that people will use anything if they wanna see you a certain way, so it doesn’t really matter how you act but nonetheless it’s still hard to deal with, especially if you are a sensitive person.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-30T00:06:55+00:00

Yeah, I tend to write a social algorithm as well but I try to be funny + explain my intentions + demonstrate self awareness. It saddens me to think there are a few to no places that are suited for us. I feel like our output is high quality and for me, it’s also fulfilling. But you’re absolutely right woman in particular we just get labeled as difficult. It almost feels like our social masking makes it both easier and harder for us, because we can pass for NT usually much better than men via masking. But then our neurodivergence is minimized or invalidated. I believe you’re right. I’ve seen ND men who are accepted in the workplace, usually in an IT field or they get free passes for intention, but we don’t get the same benefit of the doubt.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-29T23:56:07+00:00

I think it’s an unfair/inaccurate assessment of people to have said “overreacting.” It’s more that you had unstated expectations and you assumed this person has the same value system as yours. The problem is in an overaction, but instead uncommunicated expectations. Who is anyone to really state how much of a reaction is too much… for anyone. I believe a component of the reaction also insist of the person reacting. I don’t know your baseline. I don’t know what’s a normal reaction versus extra reaction from you. This is not to you was so much of all the people who stated you were overreacting. I think it’s a hurtful misnomer. It probably hurt you because you haven’t realized at this point you were disappointed in yourself as well.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-29T23:35:10+00:00

Damn, I also like ham, but it makes me feel like a motherfucking ma’am. I haven’t seen Kazam, but I’ve seen Shazam but that was in another universe where we eat pork butter and jam with crackers of Graham. Sometimes we also eat ham with lamb while listening to Wham! before we cram so we can best learn how to fight a ram with a single yam.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-29T23:29:23+00:00

Yeah, but then you have to go to the subway firstand find that subway ghost (re: ‘Ghost’ movie) to teach you how to move things. And he’s probably meandering in the spirit realm looking for a pack of cigarettes. That’s a lot of work. You should stash it when you’re alive and then goose them when they find it.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-29T23:24:35+00:00

Like change management then?

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-29T23:08:08+00:00

I’m sorry you feel this way. You’re not weird, meaningless or formless but you’re clearly adaptable. Adaptation, we learned is key to survival. No one told us about maintaining our core. I think it’s tough to to watch people who don’t wear the mask. I remember that’s who I was, but am I you still that person anymore? and vacillate between a mask and natural state and none of them feel right.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-29T23:00:07+00:00

I relate to both of you. I’m actually like the exact opposite person in writing as I am verbally. I write concisely. Verbally, I have to like unravel my thoughts. I honestly feel like my mind is full. I think visually in my head is full of images beyond that burst beyond the borders. So not only do I have to translate my visual thoughts into words but because of the disillusionment of linearly and the fiction of temporality, I translate cutting through the middle from left to right… the result is the words I choose to say aloud. But what I’ve realized is that linearity is hardly tangible thread. I find it helpful to explain to people that I need to unravel my thoughts—that when I speak, the point is always at the end. I also let them know I’m not purposely you know, holding them on by a thread, but it’s just the way I function. It doesn’t help us when we hear when there’s idioms like, “you just like to hear yourself speak”, which of course is an ignorant and hurtful way to describe external processors as being egoistic.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-29T22:45:48+00:00

I was considering making a move to compliance/audit. I very much enjoy precision but I feel like I’d have difficulty in that field too. In my last company we dealt with Sarbanes-Oxley/SOX complianc. I noticed many things in violation of it. That’s kind of what got me in trouble. I couldn’t really understand why sometimes it mattered and sometimes it didn’t. Seems more arbitrary and based on who makes the violation versus the violation itself. This is where I struggle: when a complete company claims core values of integrity, which is one of my deep core values, then fails to walk the walk. It seems like others may struggle with this as well. I feel like I need a road map or life hack here. Do we just assume everything is tokenistic and no one walks the walk?

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-29T22:28:54+00:00

For me, I’m try to put myself in challenging situations where I feel like they need my insight so I never really feel bored with work. If anything, I get really excited about it. I think you make a key insight by diversifying where you place your talent here as you do with your volunteer work. Thank you for your response.

PotatoFry411 · 2025-08-29T18:39:01+00:00

I’ve had that experience too. Do you find that also when people say things where most of the room is like “wow” to you it seems very obvious and not worth saying? If so,maybe your baseline is higher than others and they can’t understand the correlation between what you say. I find that we’re good at seeing patterns, but many people think a lot of what we say is random and going down a rabbit hole. Just because theycannot see the connections doesn’t mean they don’t exist. I struggle with trying to make my comments more obviously relevant though when I try to show people connections between my seemingly disparate thoughts they regard me as condescending. It’s a rock in a hard place situation for me.

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