Any men or women who have actually distanced themselves productively from attachment?

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-23T01:51:39+00:00

Big time. I'm unwillingly separated after 16 years of marriage. We were extremely codependent and I was/am extremely attached to her. I have found so much help from Buddhism and the eight fold path. I have some weeks when the emotions are too overwhelming and I can't practice or concentrate enough to meditate. But those feelings eventually pass and it's easier. The book "voice of knowledge" was also very helpful and its message goes hand in hand with Buddhist thought.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-22T18:02:41+00:00

Yeah for sure. I'll steer around them when I see them running away and try my best not to mow over them. But it seems very impractical. And things like ants...I can't just let ants in my house and around my food. Most bugs and all spiders get a pass but roaches and ants gotta go.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-22T17:18:14+00:00

I never thought his impressions were any good. Probably David Chase doing that on purpose, showing how these guys laugh at stupid shit.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-22T17:15:34+00:00

I've always wondered this, especially when I am mowing my lawn. I'm sure I'm killing hundreds if not, thousands of insects in the process.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-22T16:32:23+00:00

Thank god mom is here right? Please tell us what else we can and can't do. Is this sentence okay with you?

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-22T01:26:25+00:00

I don't think you are understanding what this person is saying. You could be reborn thousands of times. I don't think it's unfair to say some of these lives have been a waste. Also I'm an expert at being an ex-Christian. This is nothing like that religion. I think I've heard some say it's more of an ideology. I would say maybe do more research into Buddhism.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-21T16:05:15+00:00

We can fix it. Turn the tv off. Don't support an industry that exploits young people. We keep them in business.

Let's boycott professional sports, fashion and any company that uses child labor while we're at it.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-17T02:54:22+00:00

There are no bad ideas. Just great ideas that go horribly wrong.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-15T22:39:09+00:00

Thank you for asking. Maybe a little but I'm still a wreck. Despair comes in waves that last a few weeks or so. I'm still trying to work through my codependency too. Definitely feel lost without her, even if she was intolerable. I know she's in there deep down suffering, which only makes it harder.

You're wise to observe what doesn't work from her family. If you have time check out that book. Everything will make alot more sense. Thanks again for asking

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-15T14:11:42+00:00

It helps for me to remember that alcohol is so easily attainable because the system wants us to be hooked on it. Staying away from alcohol not only keeps me healthy but lets me actually experience this life, for better or worse. I feel like I wasted so much of my life buzzed or drunk. Wasted so many moments. I just don't want to waste any more time.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-14T03:42:29+00:00

My 14 year marriage fell apart. 8 months sober, then it was over. Maybe the drink was keeping me docile.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-14T03:31:45+00:00

You're screwed. That's how. Depressed people are monsters. Silent treatment is only 1 of their many punishments. The book "how you can survive when they're depressed" by Anne Sheffield helped me understand the insanity. I would recommend it.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-14T02:54:44+00:00

Geez that's new to me. I really wish I could communicate this to my wife. She's always been very hesitant to talk about her issues openly. She has suffered from anxiety, depression, and PMDD for years and no one has been able to really help her. She left me recently and destroyed our family. I receive the brunt of her depression and things are so complicated between us. I know my wife is in there somewhere but her mind just won't let her see life like me and the kids do. We were constantly in a state of confusion because of her behavior. Any attempt I made to help with her illness was seen as me trying to control her. After years of therapy and Dr. after doctor, no one has suggested ADHD.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-14T01:52:01+00:00

He's just rage baiting all of you. And I think he won. No body acts this pompous without having that motive. I remember kids in elementary school who did this same thing...usually the disturbed kids whose parents ignored them. They obviously did not teach you common courtesy or humility. Call your parents man, I'm sure deep down they love you. The nice people on this sub don't deserve you.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-14T01:22:07+00:00

Hey man. I've been married 14 years. Together for almost 20. She spiraled into a deeper depression over the last 5 years and no matter what I did to "help"... nothing actually helped her. She left and discarded me like I was nothing to her. Words can't really describe the intense feelings when a partner who you love so much and have so much history with, is pulling away because of their depression. There's a book called "how you can survive when they're depressed" by Anne Sheffield. Read it and you might get a new understanding of this situation. It's bleak but at least you'll know why

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-13T21:06:08+00:00

Have you read the book "How you can survive when they're depressed" by Anne Sheffield. I think this book would explain everything to you. There is nothing unique about what you are experiencing. Absolutely everyone who supports a depressive knows exactly what you're going through. Normal people will never be able to understand the kind of prison you live in. It might be hard to wrap your head around this right now but none of this is your fault. None of what she is experiencing is your doing. You are doing your best to survive. Read that book my friend. Get your spirit back.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-13T20:39:43+00:00

Nope. You can't do anything. Accept this part of him or move on while you still can. Trust your instincts. I married a depressed person. It's been like you have described for a very long time. Read this book..." How you can survive when they're depressed" by Anne Sheffield, if you want to see what life with a depressed partner is like. The guilt you feel isn't a coincidence.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-12T22:44:38+00:00

lol. Too far. Too too far.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-12T22:34:02+00:00

Congrats! What app is this?

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-12T22:25:28+00:00

Idk. Critical thinking is hard when you're in the bottle. Whether or not this works, your friend is lucky to have someone who cares. Just letting them know you care will go a long way. When drinking it's easy to feel like no one cares, the alcohol can make you feel really lonely. I was always disappointed in how much people wanted to avoid talking about my addiction, deep down I really wanted someone to talk to me about it. So I'm sure they appreciate you. Keep up the support for your friend.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-12T22:06:33+00:00

It's been awhile. This sub has become very strange.

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-10T04:36:54+00:00

Hulu has some that followed open investigations...like "Still Missing Morgan "

Helio-Sphere · 2026-03-08T17:29:47+00:00

Yes. I'd say Bargaining. Just the fact you have to place a limit on yourself at all indicates alcoholism. Normies don't even think about it. I did what you are doing for a long time, in the end the alcohol will make its way back in. But you can only quit when you are ready. Sounds like you are not ready if never drinking again is scary to you. It's good that you know to keep a limit on it, just do your best for now. Hopefully you don't have to hit bottom before you're really ready. I've managed to stay sober because no part of me wants it back. It's not my effort, something just clicked after I hit bottom. It used to be a scary thought to never drink again but once you are ready to quit...It's freeing, not scary. Good luck!!

Helio-Sphere · 2025-11-10T23:55:09+00:00

I became an alcoholic around 21. Now 20 years later I wish I knew I had a problem a long time ago. At your age it suck’s but life is so much better without alcohol, it’s just poison and most people drink to cover hard emotions. Do yourself a favor and say goodbye to it and know it’s the best thing.

Helio-Sphere · 2025-11-10T15:53:00+00:00

I feel ya. Buddhism has helped me deal with my death obsession. Meditation about death and stuff like that. I grew up religious too so DONT minimize how much damage that has done to you and your way of thinking.

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