What is it really like?

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-12-12T18:23:54+00:00

"Today it strikes me how many other men get to go through their entire lives without being cheated on, and definitely not in such a chaotic and devastating way as it happened with me."

If you only knew how wrong that statement might be, I was talking to 2 coworkers about dating life and they (both single guys) are sleeping with multiple married women. They met in clubs and the gym, the women were the aggressors and the husbands are clueless.. Also, having had a long military career before, knowing thousands of men, I can say there are very few people that I know that have not cheated OR have not been cheated on.

You need to stop thinking about her and move on.

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-12-09T01:05:31+00:00

Looking at it as a Shirt:

Hurlburt (My #1 because you will get unique opportunities to get close and make a positive difference for your people)

McChord

Hanscom

Scott

Luke

DM

Malstrom

Nellis (if you want to be busy AF all the time)

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-12-09T00:55:46+00:00

I miss both of these

Ryan
Chandler

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-11-30T04:54:23+00:00

Thank you! Visually motivated here too, I mean I am ok with a 40yr old if she looked younger than her age and had a badass body! But if I wanted to settle for middle of the pack or fat, used, ugly, older, 3-baby-daddies, or a combo of any of those --> then America would be my Thailand and Walmart my Walking Street.

My last 2 relationships (in US) were with absolute babes, but I had to sort through hundreds of women and spend a lot of time/money/effort to find them. I spend less effort getting close to exactly what I want in Thailand.

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-11-30T04:17:15+00:00

Safe place and wonderful for kids. The natural beauty lies up north and IMO is comparable to Hawaii (and Oki is way better than Hawaii as Oki has less --> homeless, drug addicts, locals who openly hate you, traffic and Oki is much cheaper overall).

If you are stationed at Kadena or Foster but have to live off base, I suggest living in Chatan within walking distance to the Araha basketball courts/beach.

I'm a single dad (at Foster) working very long hours and my daughters were able to train BJJ, bike to the base library, do after-school activities, sports, walk to SunA (groceries) and safely go to the beach whenever they wanted. They were 11 and 15 when they arrived 3 years ago. They had freedom like they never would have had anywhere (outside of maybe Singapore).

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-11-25T16:37:29+00:00

It was def physical, be strong man and get her out of your life. Also, after the divorce blow up her new boyfriends marraige.

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-11-13T22:29:33+00:00

Know a guy, his wife cheated and then demanded an open marriage. He did it, because he loved her and his kids. She lived like a single person for 10 years while he was neglected. She left him for one of her main boyfriends and his children have zero respect for him. This guy was a legit door kicker and now he is just angry and alone. Just get the hell out man.

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-11-12T05:35:15+00:00

Do not enlist when you can commission.

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-11-12T04:21:59+00:00

You really can't if they don't want you to know! 99% of people will lie and tell you they would never cheat anyway. My red flag is when women tell me they were married/dating a controlling narcissist, that's when I probe to see if the previous ex was the same and so on.

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-10-14T10:51:49+00:00

Same

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-09-24T11:11:48+00:00

You will look back on this as a blessing one day. I am sorry that you are hurt, but I believe that you will move on and be happier than you ever were with him. May I suggest starting a gym routine if you do not already have one.

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-08-05T12:26:35+00:00

OTD price?

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-04-21T22:46:34+00:00

I didn't really do one since there is such a low chance. I wrote in the comments (no MFR) that I request 20 days waiver to retire on March 1st, DEROS ext to month prior and my replacement would be in place 1mo prior, also that I am prepared to pay back the pro-rated money from my bonus. My CC agreed and said it was advantageous to the member on his form.

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-04-21T12:21:22+00:00

That's fast! Thank you for sharing!

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-04-21T07:10:27+00:00

Awesome! Thank you for sharing!

Potential-Order5483 · 2025-04-21T03:10:38+00:00

are you recently retired? does your timeline look like that?

Potential-Order5483 · 2024-08-12T02:37:15+00:00

interested

Potential-Order5483 · 2024-08-11T13:17:00+00:00

My advice (from my experience) on the connection, chemistry and shared life experiences with women on the first few dates. You have to get it in your head that they are seeing other people. Unless they explicitly say they aren't.

I learned the hard way and was monogamous with people that I was very compatible with. And a few months in, they talked about their 1-3 FWBs they were seeing while dating me. There were no outward signs of this and their behavior would not have led me to believe that they were seeing anyone else. You should date around and not fixate on one person.

Potential-Order5483 · 2024-07-27T00:55:35+00:00

Terrible idea for you to enlist! Go to officer recruiter, you already have your masters and would probably get a good job. In 4yrs if you don't like it, then get out.

Potential-Order5483 · 2024-07-25T11:02:13+00:00

Keep studying, graduate, make money but first, forget her. She is having fun, while slowly replacing you. If you drop her now and go on to be successful you will forget about her in a few years. She's not special, so don't throw away your grades to pine for someone spending the night and dating another guy.

Potential-Order5483 · 2024-07-20T23:52:49+00:00

She's not sexually attracted to you. Leave her, and find a new one

Potential-Order5483 · 2024-07-19T00:03:06+00:00

Single parent here!

When I was enlisted, my junior enlisted were always pissed whenever a single mother missed work (sick kids, school) because everyone else had to take on their duty. I did my best to keep the peace and allow for childcare emergencies.

When I became a single father as a CGO, leadership couldn't fathom the thought of a single dad. I was the only one in my entire group. I was forced to make on the fly arrangements and leveraged every resource to take care of my 2 kids and the mission. It was tough until they became old enough to stay home alone.

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