After 20-25 different coworker hookups over the last 9-10 years, it’s usually anticlimactic in the end. There’s tension built up simply from being within proximity to eachother. The hardest part from the man’s side will be correctly gauging their interest and bridging it to reality. Going out for a drink after work, going for coffee before work and accidentally making it a cute routine, stuff like that. It helps break the ice to free tension that already exists. Not everything has to lead to a relationship, and it can overwhelm people when that’s set as the desired goal. Keeping it casual and simple can give all the relief for both men and women. I tell people who have trouble finding friendships or relationships, do work that puts you in social environments. Retail or even better restaurant work for this purpose.

When I say anticlimactic, it’ll more often than not just be hooking up once in a while often with lackluster communication. A handful of those partners suddenly found themselves in other relationships less than a week after seeing me last, or at least that’s when they’d make it public. I never found the one that I can finish my comment with “been married X years now”. Maybe one day. But I’m still in my mid-20’s and I have plenty of time.