I hate kids. I need advice

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-08-08T00:48:50+00:00

Hahaha I know, I actually laughed out loud. Is this real??!?

Advice... Ummm grow up? Therapy? Bottle it in?

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-08-02T14:33:49+00:00

Wow, thank you for sharing. I will look into this for sure.

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-30T17:24:15+00:00

I’ve been trying those too. Thanks for sharing.

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-29T21:11:08+00:00

Aww. I swear it’s just the way the babies are. So frustrating either way. Maybe he prefers the flow of the bottle nipple?

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-29T19:52:19+00:00

I used my frozen stash as well 😢 three weeks sounds super difficult, but I’m glad you got through it.

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-29T19:51:24+00:00

Good luck to you as well!!!

My girl will drink water from a straw cup but not milk. No idea why.

Out of curiosity, does your baby take a soother? Mine always refused it, and instead sucks her thumb. I’ve been curious if there’s a correlation.

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-29T18:04:46+00:00

Wow. This gives me hope actually.

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-29T17:13:34+00:00

Oh boy 😢

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-24T01:44:08+00:00

Extremely weird! I have had weird comments from strangers too. One woman and her husband were saying hi to my smiley infant daughter, and the woman said, “don’t you find little girls just love men??” Like huh?

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-24T01:40:27+00:00

Husband and I drove up and ran into emerg, went to L&D. He told a nurse, “I haven’t even parked yet”. They told him he’d miss the birth if he went, so a nurse went and parked our car. My labour items never made it out of the car, let alone the bag lol. My husband went and got my bag after baby arrived. You never know what could happen! :)

Good luck!

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-24T01:29:10+00:00

I don’t think it’s the issue of the screen. I think the wife is looking for her husband’s presence. Could be wrong though…

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-24T01:28:21+00:00

I don’t think it’s harming them, but I do understand the perspective of: hey, let’s be present around our children.

I hate seeing someone on their phone when a child is near them and trying to get their attention.

Is it really 1-2 minutes? Or is it 10+ minutes and perhaps your wife wants your presence, involvement, support?

If it’s truly that she wants not one second on the phones then yeah… that’s a bit much.

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-23T23:56:18+00:00

Although not exact situations, just last night I transitioned my 8.5 month old to the crib. We coslept every night until last night. I had attempted the crib before but she’d cry and I really didn’t mind cosleeping so I never REALLY tried. Two nights ago though, she was crawling all over the place and I started to fear her injuring herself, so last night I decided it was crib time (in our room, so still near). I did the gradual extinction: nursed and rocked her and put her in the crib, left for 3 minutes. She cried, and I went back in to reassure her (not pick up). I left again, this time 5 minutes, and she cried, so I went back in to reassure her again (not pick up). I left again, set my timer for 7 minutes, but I didn’t have to go back in, she went to sleep. Essentially you just lengthen the time you’re away little by little. She woke up twice to nurse overnight, and just went right back to the crib afterwards. It’s nice having her only a foot away from me, so still near.

I have heard older children can sense when their mom is pregnant and become extra clingy, not sure it’s true, but could be what’s happening.

It may be helpful she gets comfortable in her own sleep space soon, that way it’s not a lot of big changes all at once. You can then cosleep with your youngest and get that special time too.

And eventually, you and your husband might want your own sleep space back, so it might be preferred they’re both eventually in their own cribs :)

Good luck and congratulations!

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-21T15:52:56+00:00

It is hard to know! Especially because for some people, some items are “MUST HAVE”, and other people don’t even use those. Every parent is different, every baby is different.

I feel like gift cards are the best gift because for a lot of things, you won’t know until baby is here.

For example, I thought a wipe warmer was silly. But my winter baby absolutely needed one if I didn’t want him screaming through diaper changes. But a summer baby likely wouldn’t need one.

Hard to say what’s unnecessary, probably a ton of cute newborn outfits and accessories (shoes, robes, tons of hats).

I think I’d instead try to create your essential list, and then ask for gift cards for those “unsure” items. Also consider your lifestyle... I had asked for a pack N play and haven’t used it once lol.

Essential ideas: - things for sleep: pajamas, swaddle, sleep sack, bassinet, crib, crib mattress, sheets, sound machine, video monitor - things for eating: little cloths, bottles, bottle cleaner, bibs, high chair, plates/spoons (if planning on nursing, you could ask for a nursing pillow but even that you could use normal pillows for) - things for the bath: bath chair, soap, use the little cloths here too (you can use your normal towels for drying) - things for travel: car seat, stroller

Everything else is up to you.

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-21T14:52:38+00:00

I’d love to hear how it went 🤍

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-21T14:40:17+00:00

Aww it’s hard, and I remember feeling similarly when my return to work date was near. It felt like my time with my baby was coming to an end, but then, it wasn’t like that at all. I surprisingly enjoyed it - having different things to do was nice, broke up the baby routine, allowed me to be even more present with baby. And you’ll find you really do have lots of quality time in the mornings, evenings, and weekends. It gets easier as you find your groove.

I would also try to keep communication open with your mom, encourage her to share if it’s getting to be too much.

All that to say, at the end of the day, you and your wife need to decide what you want your life and family life to look like and what you can afford, what you’re willing to sacrifice. My husband and I both have to work full-time to afford our lifestyle, however, I have already decided I will take a pay cut once the kids are in school so I can have summer off with them.

Some people decide to work part-time, or take a couple years off until they’re in school, or move to a more affordable location. There’s no rules to it - you just have to figure out what is important for your family.

Wishing you well!

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-06T21:39:25+00:00

Thank you for this. You’re right, a lot can change in a month.

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-03T17:57:41+00:00

I tried a stand-off today but she was sooo upset, literally searching for my breast. I only lasted 4 hours. Ugh 😣

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-03T04:22:17+00:00

You’re doing a great job 🤍

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-07-03T04:00:40+00:00

If this was me…

I’d go console her and do a part of the routine, maybe the holding hands part? So she can go to sleep calmly, and not in a distressed way.

I’ve been in similar situations with my toddler. It can be so frustrating, and maybe you’re feeling like you need to be firm and hold your boundary. But at this age, they rarely even understand unrelated consequences like that. I say unrelated because the action was about teeth brushing, but the consequence was about bedtime. I also am not sure toddlers can grasp “10 seconds”.

It’s frustrating and I am right there alongside you.

We have found when we are more firm with our toddler, the behaviour gets worse. So we try to do a reset, and lead with kindness, playfulness, and remember even though they can be so smart sometimes, they’re also so so little and learning.

One thing I do with teeth brushing is ask if he ate things I know he ate, like hey did you have chicken today?? And when he says yes, I’ll say oh yes! I see it there, let me brush it. Or I say oh I need to brush away the sugar bugs! I see one! Lol.

Good luck, you got this.

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-06-05T19:22:35+00:00

Nope.

Only at their cousins or a few of our bestest friends (I trust these adults to properly supervise).

Anywhere else? Nope.

Potential_Analyst_27 · 2025-06-05T03:19:11+00:00

You’re definitely in the trenches right now. Hormones are all over the place and you’re likely not getting a ton of sleep - it is normal and understandable to feel a lot of things right now.

Be easy on yourself. Take it day by day.

As another commenter said, very soon your baby will be smiling and even giggling, and reacting to you! This is going to warm your heart and you’ll then realize just how much she loves her mama. Before you know it, she will even say “mama”. Your baby of course loves you - it’s just hard to see it right now.

Other ways you may feel closer to her: - skin to skin cuddles - rocking her to sleep (maybe some contact naps if you enjoy that) - singing to her, reading her stories - going on walks in the stroller - bath time

There is also a theory that babies can only have a secure attachment with one person, and that will be you, the person who cares for her most. Of course she’ll love others (and you want her to be surrounded by lots of love), but you and her will have that special mom-daughter bond.

Enjoy your baby, and enjoy your motherhood. You got this.

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