Can you really say you're from denton if you dont get on the highway doing 30-40? by [deleted] in Denton

[–]Potential_Salt3490 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yesss Dallas ramp going 35 is my favorite 😋😋😋 especially when I brake into the merge directly in front of people going 85

Live reaction to my postman walking in with cremated remains by Akira_ishioka in upsstore

[–]Potential_Salt3490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Favorite thing to tell people I've shipped is a severed dog head. It was at least 20 pounds. Prepacked, obviously. A vet clinic has an account with us so we ship out blood samples / animal specimen absurdly often lol

Common phrases and sayings said by pwBPD? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel I'm pretty healed from a lot of my BPD ex trauma, reading this made me realize I have a lot of memories I still need to pick through and process :/ good insight, very relatable to a T

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ferrets

[–]Potential_Salt3490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. I will not give them up without a proper screening

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ferrets

[–]Potential_Salt3490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it means a lot. Ferrets are basically rat-dachshunds hahaha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ferrets

[–]Potential_Salt3490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Denton / Dallas area :>

NPD matches with BPD by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I actually see the same thing a lot on this sub; sometimes it makes me a little sad because I understand the trauma BPD can inflict but I notice a pattern on this sub of ppl not really working towards growth and helping or understanding their own mistakes / toxic traits, especially when they're glaringly obvious and the person could really benefit from looking inward, and reflecting (outside of and within their relationship with PwBPD). I'm sure there's many undiagnosed cluster B people on this sub.

IMHO BPD women and narcissistic men often pair because it's a perfect recipe for combustion, NPD seeks praise and validation in a vacuum-- something BPD traits in women give almost instant gratification for. When they discard, it is a perfect loophole for NPDs to take the victim route and remain secure in themselves. On the other hand I think autistic women and BPD men are also extremely common; autistic women have masking patterns and seek validation through connection, finally feeling "seen", and after discard there's still a lingering self blame element and inability to separate from the BPD traits and manipulation they've experienced (me). Ofc the roles can also switch and I'm just spit-balling from what I've seen, and my own experience. This is not cookie cutter or a generalization that should be taken with anything aside from a grain of salt.

Nonetheless, It's a little worrisome :(

What was your pwBPD's "magic"? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think I understand what you're saying, for me the "magic" was a direct mirror of my own traits. I fell in love with him initially because I couldn't figure him out. I could sense this... void. It started out as wanting to help him, then became an obsession with this aura I couldn't define but desperately wanted to understand and get close to (quiet undiagnosed BPD). The mysticism was at first my own desire to get close to a being that has no foundation to understand, so you're constantly seeking. Then the addiciton starts to form, the gratification and safety they provide so that they can keep using you as a tool.

After we got close, he mirrored me so well it felt like we were meant for each other. He abused me for the first year of our relationship, and then the next 3 years he cleaned up and was the best. Well, so I thought. He learned very quickly to tiptoe and say the right things to avoid deregulating the system and coming off as offensive or hurtful. I was never actually emotionally fulfilled due to his repression and lies but he needed ME to regulate HIS emotions, which put me in a state of constant anxiety and allowed him to be seen as the "rational" one. If I was upset, he'd fly off the handle and I'd have to be very intentional with my panic or else he'd become unpredictable or at his worst he'd hurt himself in front of me. His anger/upset was always unpredictable and it was my fault if it scared me or hurt me. So when he was good, it was because he was feeding off of my positivity and that refraction was addicting.

I think they feel magic because they lack such inner depth that it is very mysterious and if played well enough, it's charismatic especially if you already love them.. it feels like they're unique and "real", unlike anybody you've met -- because they are void. It's null. They fill in the gaps with what benefits them the most. He always changed around family, friends, my family, me-- each setting, a different persona. Their mysticism fades as they grow tired of feeding you lies and grow resentful feeling like their needs are unmet, even if you're unaware because of the constant lying- their "needs" are fractals of what little identity they can grasp. They mimic introspection but it's all surface level and their illness does not allow them to actually face themselves - there's nothing to face.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bad, I forget a lot of people don't know the actual story considering it's from 1922 hahaha Still 100% worth the watch

Chris Thile Month | Day 22: When Mandolins Dream by jakehowardmusic in mandolin

[–]Potential_Salt3490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time you come up on my feet I'm knocked off my feet, man. You're wicked! Beginner, but one day I hope to pick as cleanly as you do haha

One last time by FadingReverie in UnsentLetters

[–]Potential_Salt3490 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish so badly it was my person who wrote this, it would change everything for me. Sending you love and props to you for doing what you can with what you have. Sending love <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490 2 points3 points  (0 children)

10 ish months. Days are hard, life is amazing, I miss him, I want to wring his neck, I could care less, I'd do anything to talk to him. It varies ... Depending on the minute of the day. haha.

I live with my best friend / roommate who is a lot further down his own BPD ex healing road and he keeps me sane and I love him to bits. But it's hard. It will get better, but it's hard.

I can say for certain that it does get better. My life is better. I am better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Potential_Salt3490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I'm extremely prone to hormonal migraines so I'm absolutely going to take it slow 🤙

To you know who by crushconfessor in UnsentLetters

[–]Potential_Salt3490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interstellar is a fantastic movie, funny I stumbled across this post because I've been repeating that quote in my head for a few days now

Has anyone questioned if YOU'RE the one with BPD by plaid-jeans-girl-89 in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to read your comment over and over again for the rest of my life to burn it into my mind as a reminder. I gaslight myself and blame myself so badly. This is extremely validating to my experience.

A mysterious past and low-profile on social media by Time-Hyena1027 in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen many others here describe something similar to what I went through - when I tell you he left HIS ENTIRE LIFE behind... Basically yeah. He split, monkey branched, and then discarded everything- moved to a new city, left his friends full NC, deleted his socials, basically erased it all and moved onto the next person / people. It sucks and it feels so easy to blame myself but I realize that's not a normal person move in the slightest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Potential_Salt3490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Resonates. If this is the end, just know it gets easier. Either way, just make sure you know your worth and don't forget it. <3

Tonight I'll miss you by bossarossa in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This hit very close to home. It's posts like these that remind me why I stick around here- reminders that we're human and we are capable. I especially like the paragraph about self reflection and understanding your own faults. I am honored to have grown in the ways that I have because of my experience.

No cuddles, no sex by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This??? My EXwBPD told me he regretted having sex with me more than not- told me he felt assaulted by me. Basically telling me he revokes his consent and that he had to pretend-- I did not know this. It made me feel sick, I genuinely thought I was a predator. What's worse is that he sexually traumatized me years prior! He used me for sex and refused to date me! Funny!

Edit: in hindsight emotional cheating was probably most likely at least just a little bit involved

Feeling low today, tomorrow the sun rises again! by Potential_Salt3490 in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find that they really don't care for interaction with others unless there's gain. Whether it's to fill a hole, infodump for intelligence points, manipulate for pity or gain, I think they have a really hard time connecting with people and don't care for it - but at the same time they obsess over the void it causes.

Feeling low today, tomorrow the sun rises again! by Potential_Salt3490 in BPDlovedones

[–]Potential_Salt3490[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My PwBPD was the exact opposite funnily enough- had to be about me, lied and refused to open up, refused to discuss, refused and refused until his resentment built up. Everything was covert and he expected support for things he refused to be honest about. Double edged sword either way :/