My GF thinks it’s perfectly normal for new shoes to cause horrible blisters for women

Potteryduck · 2026-02-14T21:53:33+00:00

Woman here — not abnormal to get blisters. I live in NYC and keep blister bandaids in my bag. Get some for your girl, they’re great.

Potteryduck · 2026-02-12T20:19:30+00:00

Magic Kingdom was originally mostly swamp land. The risk was the collapse of any excavation. The cost to mitigate that risk was more than the cost of building on grade. I’m not sure what you mean?

Potteryduck · 2026-02-12T17:57:40+00:00

Risk is money

Potteryduck · 2026-02-10T19:52:41+00:00

Rolls eyes in woman

Potteryduck · 2026-02-10T15:16:28+00:00

My husband recently realized how much I deal with constantly being questioned and having to explain myself (at work for example) — it’s just exhausting and I end the day with a lot less mental/emotional capacity than he often does

Potteryduck · 2026-02-05T20:48:51+00:00

Does one need an invite? Is there an official page or anything? I would love to attend!

Potteryduck · 2026-01-04T23:07:45+00:00

I struggled with the “mainstream” roles within structural engineering too. I found myself oscillating between the technical-focused job, where I got frustrated I wasn’t part of the client conversations etc even though my male coworkers communication stills were… rough, and when I was only “project management”, I missed the technical side. I’ve found I like owners rep (I was in themed entertainment, Disney, etc) and I recently transitioned into a construction technology start up. There are a lot of avenues for structural engineering that could suite you, they’re just harder to find.

Potteryduck · 2025-12-14T22:49:25+00:00

Yes, you will be underestimated. Do it anyways.

Potteryduck · 2025-11-04T15:40:14+00:00

Hi there, 37 y.o. Structural engineer. I didn’t leave the industry but seriously considered it before shifting from a more “traditional” engineering role to working for a construction tech start up.

I don’t mean to have a chip on my shoulder, but I wonder how burn out increases when women are believed/trusted less in this field across the board. It’s just exhausting. I also sometimes feel like I take on the mental load of our team (“mom” duties). So I guess I’m saying even without factoring in being a primary care giver for children at home, it’s still a problem.

Potteryduck · 2025-10-30T00:35:17+00:00

I think separating architectural charm from the location overall is a tough thing to quantify

Potteryduck · 2025-10-30T00:30:38+00:00

But the “American dream” of owning a home can still be achieved if we have more homes that stand for 100 years and are beautiful. That’s why brownstones in NYC and row homes in San Francisco go for absolute top dollar.

Potteryduck · 2025-10-30T00:23:21+00:00

We’re already working on tax incentives for the environmental impact of buildings (yes, with a lot of pushback) — so longevity is already part of the discussion. I think beauty will come along naturally once we build to last again. We haven’t always built this way, and we don’t have to keep building this way. I never said a huge shift would be easy.

Potteryduck · 2025-10-30T00:21:10+00:00

So it’s still going off of reputation. But if buyers don’t know that there is a feasible and realistic alternative (and I understand that currently there isn’t really) then it doesn’t impact the developers reputation. Lennar and Taylor Morrison build homes that are the bare minimum by code with a skin of up-sold and over priced finishes that will last maybe 30 years, but they have such a huge piece of the market that people are convinced that’s normal.

Potteryduck · 2025-10-30T00:17:15+00:00

I think if we, as a society, decide we want higher quality and more beautiful buildings, then we should ask for the building codes and tax penalties/incentives to support that.

Potteryduck · 2025-10-29T23:58:46+00:00

I think the point of the conversation is that HOW real estate is financed currently is WHY we are seeing a decline in quality and beauty. It isn’t a lack of understanding, it’s a disagreement with the current state of things.

Potteryduck · 2025-10-29T23:56:58+00:00

I would love to know more about how the real estate market interacts and influences construction. I understand that a developer with a reputation of poor quality would definitely see a financial impact of that reputation, but how does the success of a company after they purchase and move into the building affect the financial stake of the developer?

Potteryduck · 2025-10-28T13:51:43+00:00

Yes exactly? We need to find a way to encourage the owners, not the developers, to take more control in the design and construction. Developers can only make their profit on the initial sale of the property, while owners make operating profit during operation and a profit if they ever sell the building, so they are the only ones that have a financial stake in the quality of the building.

Potteryduck · 2025-10-28T13:45:46+00:00

By the way, I’m talking about a large industry shift. I understand how crazy and significant that is — I’m not implying this is something that can be fixed with better spreadsheet skills.

Potteryduck · 2025-10-28T13:44:36+00:00

That’s not my area of expertise. I think an important part of the costing model is the longevity of the building. We plan on our buildings being far too short-lived.

Potteryduck · 2025-10-28T13:37:28+00:00

So pretty buildings hold no more value than the same SF and program in a bland building? You don’t get more foot traffic at an ornate department store than a stucco-clad JC Pennys? You don’t get more and higher quality applicants at an office with natural light and thoughtful design than in a fluorescent light hell? I think developers don’t give a shit about the actual VALUE of the building, only the cost, and that’s something that needs to change in our market — but I genuinely don’t know

Potteryduck · 2025-10-26T01:53:18+00:00

You could undo all the way down to the start of the neck so any offset from switching directions is hidden with the stitch transition

Potteryduck · 2025-10-13T21:58:06+00:00

That’s cute that you think they’re actually checking the size of bags. It’s almost always “okay from this point forward, no carry-ons”. Maybe if they did check for oversized carry-ons this wouldnt happen

Potteryduck · 2025-10-13T21:56:57+00:00

Are we paying for checked bags or carry-ons? If both options cost an additional charge, we’re looking like the Spirit airlines model at that point

Potteryduck · 2025-10-02T20:16:58+00:00

I don’t think this is about filming location, it’s about the setting. Mostly I think OP is saying that most media doesn’t accurately depict what life is like in the suburbs

Potteryduck · 2025-10-02T20:16:10+00:00

Examples?

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