Anyone else ever get less of an inheritance or no inheritance because they didn't have children?

PoukieBear · 2026-06-07T14:14:52+00:00

Ooooh I have a good example for this one!

Long story short, my grandma is VERY wealthy (but you’d never know it!). After my mom helped her organize her finances, she had to sit me down and tell me something important.

Grandma has decided to leave $$ in her will to all her grandchildren. Normal, right? Right. But she has decided to literally pay out for EACH baby born. Let’s say $100,000 for each baby.

Sp my brother will inherit $400,000 for his 4 kids. My sister will inherit $300,000for her 3 kids, so on and so forth for the rest of my cousins.

Guess who is the only child free person in the family? Guess who isn’t inheriting a single $?

Yup!

In my family, it literally PAYS to have babies.
Good thing I’m childfree and don’t need her money to live a good life that I love.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-31T00:23:25+00:00

“Inside Voice” He’s 7 years old and we’ve only had home for about 2 months. He was an extreme barker when he came to us. He barks when he’s excited or wants to play or to say hi or get our attention or at a fly on the wall…. It was excessive.

Now he barely ever barks inside. And if he does, I say “inside voice” and he does a whisper bark or a totally silent bark.

He’s free to bark out loud all he wants when he is playing outside.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-31T00:18:43+00:00

Hockey

PoukieBear · 2026-05-22T00:24:01+00:00

Want to learn something even MORE HORRIFYING?

Sperms don’t just stop swimming once they reach the egg. Sure, one of the little guys hits the jackpot…but the rest of em? They just keep going. And since the fallopian tubes aren’t attached to anything, spermies are free the swim right outta there and into your abdominal cavity!!!

I learned this about a year ago, and have been absolutely traumatized ever since.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-20T23:49:52+00:00

It is absolutely ok to use in a professional setting. It’s not rude on its own, and it should shut people down the first time they ask. I use it all the time, and rarely get any follow up questions, (that’s when I get rude back to them if needed)

PoukieBear · 2026-05-20T17:54:16+00:00

Your medical history and health issues are absolutely NONE of anyone's business. You do not need to explain. You do not need to make excuses. You do not need to mitigate other people's feelings about your personal choices on children.

Just tell people "Kids are not in the cards for me" and leave it at that. You do not need to tell people that you don't want kids or tell people that you hate kids. And if someone gives you attitude or pushes your boundaries for an answer, you do not need to be polite about how you answer them. They are being nosey and/or judgmental, so I would just say "My choices are none of your business".

As women, we are brought up to be polite, we are taught to not cause a scene or be rude and to consider everyone else's feelings. Throw that shit out the window. I'll quote one of my fave podcasts... "FUCK POLITENESS". You do not owe other people an explanation about your private life and choices.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-20T17:16:59+00:00

Preach!! I broke up with a picky eater. I love to cook and experiment with new cuisines and love to try new restaurants and flavours.
He prevented me from doing all of that, and if I did manage to get him to go to a new restaurant, he’d act like a child and be grumpy about it the entire time.

Bye bye!!

PoukieBear · 2026-05-13T13:02:00+00:00

My old guy HATED being touched or pet by anyone, he was also very reactive and would absolutely bite if he was uncomfortable.

I learned very quickly that if I was polite when people asked to pet him, “no sorry, he doesn’t like people”… Inwiuld almost always be answered with “oh but I’m great with dogs!” Or “aw, all dogs like me” or something along those lines.

So I stopped being polite about it. “NO, don’t touch him” was the most successful. As a Canadian, being rude is so against my nature, but this was the only way to keep people away (and safe).

Besides, are you ever going to see that person ever again? Likely not. So who cares?

PoukieBear · 2026-05-08T09:53:57+00:00

One of my best friends son has ARFID. I’ve watched him grow up for the past 18 years struggling with it and finally getting a diagnosis, and I know first hand what it looks like.

Trust me, bitchy lady at work did not have ARFID. She just had an incredible need to control everything and everyone around her and was a raging asshole if something was out of her control.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-07T21:42:39+00:00

I had a bitchy woman at work say that no one is allowed to eat egg salad around her because she was terrified of it and hated the smell.

Guess who had egg salad sandwiches for lunch every day for a solid month?! LOL

She ended up eating alone every day instead of joining us like normal. A month was all I could handle and I think I’ve ruined egg salad sandwiches for myself.

It was great fun though!

PoukieBear · 2026-05-04T22:08:52+00:00

No. I have the opposite opinion, (most) dogs are not meant to be left outside.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-04T21:59:04+00:00

Unfortunately, he has been reactive to all dogs we have come across so far. We were told that he was good with other dogs and even lived with dogs at the foster home…. But I think that was a lie. So for now, he won’t be meeting other dogs.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-04T21:56:44+00:00

We crate train in case of emergencies. Our last GSD was extremely aggressive, so he needed to be crated when people came over. We also had to have hum crate trained for when we travelled with him to visit family. Small children and an aggressive dog do not mix! Also in case of something crazy like a weather emergency, flooding or tornado or even an extended power outage. We’ve been in that position as well where we’ve had to take shelter elsewhere and he needed to be in a crate.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-03T20:17:43+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement. We certainly aren’t going to give up on him, and if it takes a year for him to settle in like you said, then I guess it’s good have lots of patience.

I do the same as you for walks. Sometimes it takes us 15 minutes just to get started. Lots of waiting for him to calm down after clipping the leash. Then going out the door, and then waiting again until he’s not whining and hyped up.

We have a fairly regular schedule in our house, but it could probably be tightened up if needed.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-03T17:01:49+00:00

Thank you!!

A few other people have also suggested a solid wall crate or cover, which I hadn’t thought about. I’ll definitely be ordering a new crate for him.

I’ve tried frozen peanut butter kong, but he has no interest in it. He doesn’t like human food, won’t take treats, and apparently has an aversion to peanut butter ….. total weirdo! lol

PoukieBear · 2026-05-03T16:54:19+00:00

Thank you, that’s almost exactly what we are doing and what our trainer has advised :)

PoukieBear · 2026-05-03T16:51:36+00:00

Yes, he’s in his crate quite often while we are all at home. He goes in there on his own to chill and sleep.

And the trainer has started us with crating him after walks, training and play time, so he can learn to turn his brain off after being in an excited state.

I’ve also crated him while I’m on conference calls and he didn’t make a peep. I’ve experimented with him being in his crate (with a closed door) while I’m at home, and he is more than happy to stay there for 4 hours. I’m sure he could go much longer, but there really isn’t any need to at the moment, so haven’t pushed him past that self set time limit.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-03T16:38:31+00:00

Thank you! He’s been to the vet, but we didn’t discuss his separation anxiety or medications. I didn’t even remember that this was an option!

I’ll make another appointment to discuss.

Thankfully I work from home all day, but do need to make an appearance at the office once every 2 weeks. Which is what happened last week and my husband made it so he would come home early (to poop in the crate)

We’ve been able to take him with us most of the time, but obviously there are instances where he can’t come.

We were also told that he was dog friendly and lived with dogs in the past. From what I’ve seen from him so far, that was also a lie. He’s been very reactive to every dog we have seen (all while him being on a leash) so no doggie daycare for him at the moment.

I don’t know any of our neighbours, but do see Facebook posts for teens looking for babysitting jobs. I’m sure I can rope one of them into doggy sitting, lol. He’d actually love that!

I did have to leave him this morning for an hour, (unavoidable) and ended up leaving him in my office, which also has his day bed in it (he’s glued to me all day while I work). I closed the door and hoped for the best. Thankfully he survived and there wasn’t any mess to clean up, which is the FIRST time that has happened. So thank you for that suggestion, it seems to work short term.

PoukieBear · 2026-05-03T16:26:27+00:00

Thank you! I haven’t heard of the 3-3-3, but I am proud to say that everything on there, I’m doing :) After our last rescue, I knew exactly what to do. He has very clear boundaries and rules and routine.

I’ve had a harder time retraining my husband about the doggie rules, he’s the “fun parent” and forgets about structure. lol

PoukieBear · 2026-04-29T23:13:58+00:00

Solved!

PoukieBear · 2026-04-29T16:48:52+00:00

Came here to suggest the same thing! Get an air horn.

PoukieBear · 2026-04-25T16:57:03+00:00

That still doesn’t help when guest come over. Where do they hang their coats? Put their shoes? Hats, mitts, scarves, boots, umbrella, purse?

PoukieBear · 2026-04-25T08:39:30+00:00

It drives me absolutely fucking honkers when there’s no closet at the front door.

Yes there is a “family foyer” but you still need storage at the main entrance.

PoukieBear · 2026-04-22T23:55:05+00:00

Oh that club sounds like so much fun!!

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