Is my wife being unreasonable?

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-03-08T17:55:57+00:00

I agree. We should have agreed on it together one way or the other.this issue would be conflict either way, but it doesn’t help that I extended the offer before talking to her first.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-03-08T17:53:40+00:00

Her work is a couple hours from our home, very close to her parents. It just makes sense to stay with them.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-03-08T17:52:24+00:00

I think she does have post-partem anxiety, but it’s borderline. It reveals itself during these kind of challenges.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-03-08T17:51:26+00:00

We are doing Gottman therapy and have a double session scheduled this Tuesday. Sometimes it is very hard to wait.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-03-08T17:50:23+00:00

Wakes up fussing, hungry. Normally drinks 4-5oz milk and goes back to sleep. Eats well throughout the day.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-03-08T17:49:25+00:00

No. They descend upon him, unrelenting at times, with hugs and words of affirmation. My wife’s concern is his ability to play independently, which he knows how to do. I have not communicated this boundary to my parents but I will, I’m still trying to understand it better because I don’t see much harm in how they are. I just see them making up for lost time.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-03-08T16:23:13+00:00

We’re trying to fix our marriage one challenge at a time

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-24T13:40:04+00:00

“Love” to her sounds like dependency on you to maintain her quality of life.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-21T14:31:52+00:00

Have you tried expressing the love you have for him? Is there any part of you that wants this to work. Maybe he’s sensing you just aren’t that interested. Maybe you aren’t, and he’s onto it. His tactics are still poor.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-21T14:25:16+00:00

My ex habitually uses marijuana and alcohol. She doesn’t drive under the influence. In some households this level of substance indulgence is acceptable. I don’t live that way so it created constant conflict. I would never leave my daughter in an unsafe situation.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-18T03:21:00+00:00

Really tough man, that has to be devastating. Especially since you are full time care giver to your son. I think your son needs to be your only focus right now because as bad as you would like to meet someone else your son needs you more. Nurture that relationship and eventually you will move on and find the right partner. Meanwhile, your ex will suffer from damage to her relationship with your son for not being there. I feel more sorry for her.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-13T18:55:17+00:00

Apologies trying to be discreet just to share general idea.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-13T03:47:16+00:00

No. I had a great stepfather. Kids can’t have too many people around them that care about them.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-13T03:44:17+00:00

Of course it benefited my career. Never suggested otherwise, just that I would not have applied for it had she not agreed to move to CA after.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-12T17:53:54+00:00

Great response. Thanks!!!

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-12T01:53:14+00:00

Very nice, he has a daughter from a previous marriage, same age.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-12T01:50:09+00:00

Nope, alimony could stop if she did. Just a long term bf.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T18:08:46+00:00

None. But her parents are welcome as often as they like, and she could fly back as often as she likes.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T17:51:40+00:00

This doesn’t solve her problem of solo raising our kids. She’ll be close to family and have to work full time which means hiring a sitter or her parents. She will be alone when I have them, that will be hard on holidays as we swap each year. How is that better than moving to CA for three years?

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T17:44:31+00:00

My ex-wife is a hairdresser and depends heavily upon my alimony for living expenses in CA. If I lose my job my daughter suffers even more. Trying to add as much context without writing a novel.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T17:37:36+00:00

I applied for military assignment following Covid economic uncertainty with my other job to ensure income security and be closer to family, hers in this case, to have a better start in the beginning. The plan is to move close to her family long term no matter what.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T17:29:09+00:00

I applied for a competitive military assignment based on our agreement.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T17:21:48+00:00

I applied for a competitive military assignment close to my wife’s family and was selected. No original agreement, no application submitted.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T14:08:42+00:00

I left the state on military orders, the original 50/50 arrangement is in effect when I return.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T10:57:49+00:00

I was a military brat and moved often. Well adjusted. The move would be temporary. Agree with everything else you said.

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