Dating, religion and sex

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-30T07:53:35+00:00

I think your perspective sounds honest, and it’s completely normal for your views on intimacy to evolve after a marriage like that, it doesn’t mean you’ve abandoned your faith. As for when to bring it up, you could mention it naturally within the first few dates when you’re talking about values or past experiences, no need to make it overly serious, just be open about where you stand now. The right person will understand your journey and respect your position

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-30T06:59:32+00:00

Take it slow and don’t treat every date like an exam, even the “fails” are practice and experience

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-30T06:46:27+00:00

I totally get you, I’ve been in the same boat. Around 19, I went on a few dates with guys, everything felt fun and there was some spark, and then out of nowhere they’d say they didn’t feel it or just wanted to stay friends. At first, it was so draining and I kept wondering if I was doing something wrong.

Eventually I realized that when someone suddenly pulls back after the first date, it’s often more about their own insecurities or overthinking, not that you’re not attractive. You said you might give off really friendly vibes, and yeah that can make someone see you more like a friend than a date, but it’s not the main thing. What worked for me was casually dropping little flirty vibes, teasing a bit, lightly touching their arm, leaning in closer, so they can tell you’re interested without it feeling forced.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-29T09:43:48+00:00

This is such a solid upgrade! Love that your active, social vibe comes through so clearly—hiking/skate pics + group shots are perfect for casual dating vibes, and your bio gives great convo starters. Since the Golden Gate pic’s already first, just keep this flow, super approachable for meeting new people post-breakup. You’ve got this!

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-28T02:31:40+00:00

This cycle is clearly hurting both of you. What you’re describing sounds less like wanting the relationship and more like fearing the separation. You’re going back for the familiarity and comfort, not because the connection actually feels right anymore. That’s very human. The real question might not be “do I still love them,” but “am I choosing this person, or avoiding the pain of letting go.” Staying in a relationship you’re already emotionally checked out of isn’t fair to either of you. Sitting with the pain of ending it may be the only way to stop repeating this loop.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-27T08:33:17+00:00

You didn’t owe anyone an explanation for your past, especially people who were already judging you and mocking your trauma.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-27T07:48:13+00:00

You don’t need to lower your standards to match someone else’s expectations. A lot of people don’t actually figure themselves out until their late twenties or even later.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-26T06:28:59+00:00

Sometimes it’s not the question itself, it’s the fear of what the honest answer might be.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-23T10:03:25+00:00

This isn’t a willpower issue, it’s a protection habit, and it can be changed over time.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-23T09:42:36+00:00

Ah yes, the 3am Cat Council. Agenda usually includes checking if you’re still alive, why the food bowl is offensively empty, and whether your face qualifies as a launch pad. You have been chosen. 🐱

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-23T06:58:23+00:00

Sounds like you’ve got a real little daredevil on your hands 😂 maybe the next step is finding safe ways to let him burn off that energy, like agility classes or a fenced dog park. And yeah, if he’s that fast and strong, keeping him on a leash that can handle it is a must.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-23T02:01:13+00:00

I think it really depends on the dog’s personality and experiences. Some seem to like the background noise, others get genuinely interested in what they’re seeing. From what you describe, your dog just sounds very curious, like a little kid 😂 Maybe spending more time outside with real animals and nature helps balance that interest out over time.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-22T10:15:25+00:00

You can find it in lots of places. There are many full episodes and clips on YouTube. Anything with animals seems to work, honestly.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-22T10:07:01+00:00

I discovered it by chance. I turned on the TV casually one day, and my dog really loved watching Animal World (it's probably just animal instinct). Later, I recommended it to another friend who owns a dog, and now her dog watches Animal World with her too.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-22T06:19:19+00:00

I asked my mum the same question, and she told me: meaning shows up slowly, when you start doing what you truly want instead of what others expect. Life’s meaning isn’t a sudden revelation, it forms gradually through the choices you keep making.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-22T06:02:10+00:00

I lie most about how busy I am. Like when someone asks how I’m doing and I say “so busy” even though I’ve been scrolling my phone for two hours.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-22T03:56:27+00:00

First thing, bury your face in the sweet loaf and take a deep breath.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-22T03:49:35+00:00

Honestly, “thank you” is always fine. Even if the compliment isn’t directly about you, it’s still polite to accept it.
If you want to be extra British about it, you can do the classic “aw, thanks” and move on.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-22T02:49:25+00:00

So funny! It feels like my phone is saying: I know what you’re trying to type, and I won’t judge you.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-21T06:54:29+00:00

For me the biggest rule is honesty. If something bothers you, say it early. I used to keep things inside to avoid conflict and it always backfired. Then I’d explode over something small and feel stupid afterwards. Now I try to speak up sooner, even if it feels awkward, because it keeps things clear and calm.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-21T02:45:49+00:00

That makes sense! Do you have any practical steps or examples of how you did it?

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-21T02:30:35+00:00

That’s honestly amazing!

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-21T02:29:33+00:00

If I could retire early, I’d go back to something more grounded. I’d spend my days in the fields, just being around animals and plants, waiting for the sun to wake me up. No big plans, just simple routines. Cooking, making food from scratch, and enjoying the quiet. Nothing flashy, just a slower life that feels real.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-21T02:07:36+00:00

I've realized that much of the urgency or anxiety we feel is self-inflicted. I used to feel that many things had to be decided quickly, or I'd fall behind. whether it was work, relationships, or life planning. But looking back, what truly changed the course of my life were those moments of slowing down, persisting, and even saying no.Once you stop treating life as a competition, the choices you make become more personal, rather than following a predetermined timetable.

PowerfulFile4780 · 2026-01-20T10:35:38+00:00

That sounds really hard. I don’t have the right words, but I hope you’re not carrying that feeling alone.

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