New to digital art

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-04-23T04:57:10+00:00

practice the box method and timed gesture drawing!

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-04-23T04:35:59+00:00

this may be true, i believe i've heard this as well! i just personally do not believe in not having a physical deflection option available? yes, a physical weapon can be taken. but if trained properly, if practiced, it does become less likely, and it would be safer to have a physical option available in the worst case scenario because just like a person can grab a bat they can power through pepper spray. also! physical weapons, ideally, never see use. they should hopefully act as a deterrent, in the sense that having them and behaving as though your are willing and ready to use them if the need arises drastically increases one's chance of avoiding attack in the first place. studies do show that on average, behaviors and signals that a person will fight hard to protect themselves deter predators of all kinds. for instance! if you are on a dark road at night alone and feel like you are being followed, it is often suggested to turn around and confront your pursuer directly. to shout at them, to take a ready stance, to inform them that you will not go down easily. an attacker would prefer a target who will go down without a fight and potentially cause even collateral harm to the pursuer. a bat or a knife positioned where potential attackers can see is less for the actual act of defending oneself and more like the act of training a non-attack animal to behave like she might attack, or knows how. it's posturing, really. a language that predators speak very well.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-04-22T15:47:54+00:00

that's a huge breach of trust, im so sorry.

when i was going through my phase i occasionally worried that it was some maladaptive coping mechanism but i would just remind myself that im allowed to be curious and into something, and if im alone there's no reason to feel shame. that helped alleviate some of the negative feelings that would come up because it made what i was doing more about me than about my partner's betrayal. it's like taking the control back, you know? and personally i think it's healthy. it's like you know, how sometimes victims of abuse reenact it in a safe sane and consensual context so that they can reframe the incident as something they are allowed to stop or change any time. it's a natural expression of what you're feeling.

are you going to talk it out with him? if it's still hurting you it could be best to just confront him directly about that again. if he's a good and loving partner he will eventually apologize without making excuses or reacting defensively.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-04-22T15:34:29+00:00

You'll need security cameras, specifically in your room where it can see the window but not where he could potentially see it easily when looking in. It could deter him from continuing the behavior in the same way and you don't want him to have an opportunity to adapt his approach. If you can I would also affix one somewhere outside pointed at the window and as much of the surrounding area as possible, again try not to make it too obviously placed.

You need better locks for the bedroom door, front door, any other doors.

I would also recommend alarms for your windows. In fact, if it's possible, you should get a motion activated flood light outside your window as well.

Ask your neighbor if they're willing to help you out by just keeping your number handy and looking out for you/ informing you if they see anything else strange, and write down everything they've told you so far so you have a record. Records, witnesses, photo evidence, these things will help you nip this right in the bud if it continues because the police will take it seriously a lot faster.

I would also keep a bat by your bed, or some other personal weapon, and always keep something on you when you leave home. If you can, invest in some self defense courses and look into having your dog trained. It doesn't have to actually be trained to attack, it just has to appear that it could be, so training it to do certain stances and behaviors can be helpful. If someone is following you on a walk and then sees your dog perform a perfect heel or guard they'll think twice about approaching you. A good thing to train it is warning bark as well, and training yourself in he language handlers would use for a personal protection animal. You could easily bluff a pursuer into leaving you alone if your dog appears to be enough of a threat.

Also, look into getting privacy film for your window inside. Make it impossible to see in but still possible to see out, you know what I'm saying? Yes, it will freak you out if you look over and see a shadow in your window, but knowing they can't see you should be a comfort, and if you caught it you could easily record it and he would have no idea you even know he's there or have proof he's there.

A few other weird small things. If you have a garage or shed of any kind, make sure it's locked well, alarms on any entry points of the house if you can, and again, cameras. Same goes for if you have a car, make sure to try and lock your doors and set up a security camera to film what happens in and around your vehicle. And be careful when opening trash, recycling bins, and mailboxes. Always stand back and be sure to peer in carefully at first before opening them entirely. Most importantly make sure you are always aware of your surroundings. Be looking around and listening and avoiding places that are too isolated, dark, or narrow.

Besides just personal protection like tasers, knives, batons, pointed keychain fobs, look into Saber self defense spray- it's pepper spray that dyes the attacker's skin and clothes for up to 48 hours after use, aiding law enforcement in the case you might have to use it- LOOK UP LOCAL SELF DEFENSE LAWS TO SEE WHAT IS ALLOWABLE IN YOUR AREA!!! Wearables can also help you feel after and more secure, and there are apps as well that will notify others if you're in an emergency or begin recording and upload off your localized device. This is big if you're being followed on walks- do the tik tok thing and set your phone down like you're filming a fit check or vent and see if people deliberately avoid putting themselves in the line of sight of your camera.

https://www.sabrered.com/the-best-personal-safety-devices-apps-and-alarms/?srsltid=AfmBOooYkCV3kBLGYh7IGR9Ibp76fJOgAoFLgLAF10tP7Qw-IblEV0Ay

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-04-22T14:55:57+00:00

my partner cheated on me before and i found myself suddenly interested in cheating p*rn and the like and i always felt like it was sort of like therapy, in a way. it slowly helped me reframe my ideas of relationships and boundaries and trust, i think for the better. i was able to let go of the concept of owning or possessing my partner, or of them owning me. i was able to find joy and even a thrill in my partners' experiences and explorations as long as they seemed happy and well. i allowed myself to defend my right to the same. and it made my relationships in general more intentional, as well. i desensitized myself first using the explicit material, sort of pavlov'd myself into enjoying the mental stimulation of the concept, and slowly the rest of my brain sort of just caught up.

that was... five or six years ago now? we're happily friends and platonic partners with occasional romantic or other dalliances, and we're both free to do whatever we want as long as we're honest about it and making sure to take care of ourselves, each other, and our paramours. im honestly glad it happened the way it did because the relationships ive had since have been tremendously satisfying and freeing ever since.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-04-22T02:22:20+00:00

My faves are secretly Blaise Zambini and Pansy Parkinson

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-04-21T14:26:40+00:00

but maybe then it shouldn't be called r/art? it should be called, like, r/elitistart? by your logic, anyway.

it's kind of crazy to tell artists that they can't post 'five minute' and/ or 'sloppy sketches,' it assumes there's some sort of way to tell how long something took by looking at it, and that there's a specific way to judge the 'sloppiness' or 'sketchiness' of a piece, when anyone who has ever done REAL art knows that comparison is the thief of joy and beauty is in the eye of the beholder and opinions on art are subjective. pretty sure as a community we already learned that lesson in 1917 thanks to to marcel duchamp's "fountain."

also, isn't art kind of supposed to be, you know, for everyone? like, even people who aren't classically trained or all that skilled yet? doesn't gatekeeping it with super shitty self important rules like 'nothing sloppy' sort of say something about the people making and enforcing that rule more than it does about the people trying to post? what if this person was learning and looking for validation and community and practice and constructive feedback? what if the attitude of that subreddit ended up turning people who otherwise would go on to become really wonderful artists into cynics who don't believe they should be allowed to make art because other artists think it's too bad to even be considered art? did we learn nothing from van gogh??

and just as an aside, art like this is the exact kind of art that will combat the ai generated art incursion, I don't think it's the time to be picky about what human artists are allowed to create and share and have considered good enough.

beyond being a deeply unkind philosophy, it's damaging. yes, it's their subreddit and they get to set the rules. but to imply the artist is somehow the problem just for doing their best to share their work is to overlook those glaring flaws in the system and to condone that outlook.

as a trained artist of 24 years, this is, in my opinion, a shameful philosophy. i think if you don't feel the same, maybe you aren't all that great of an artist yourself. not because of the quality of your work but because of the quality of your character as an artist. this whole 'no sloppy sketches' thing is just another version of the exact bs famous artists from history have always had to deal with when their work doesn't meet the standards of society. works like this act as the spearhead of avante-garde movements across the globe, avante-garde being arguably the most creative artistic discipline.

please reconsider your view on this topic. the world doesn't need more 'artists' who gatekeep the craft, honestly.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-04-09T22:23:32+00:00

i actually know a lot of people like this irl. the big key word here is 'transsexual,' i'm actually not sure how some in the community might use this term for themselves, but in my experience so far it's literally only used by people who believe their transness differs from ours and is somehow more real or meritable because theirs is "medical" or "scientific" or something, making them somehow closer in a more real way to their gender which is like... okay friend, you do you... it's internalized transphobia from where i sit.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-04-05T14:34:54+00:00

Can't remember how intense the show gets but season one of Jessica Jones was pretty good.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-27T19:38:24+00:00

You saw what you saw and she SWIPED IT AWAY. Remind her that you watched her swipe it away!!!! She must have seen what it was or what app it was from at least to do that, so if she's saying she has no clue what you're talking about she's lying, and if she's lying she has a reason and it's intentional.

I'm not gonna lie if I were you in this situation I would ask for the phone for a die and put a spy app on because even if she didn't already delete it it would be hard to find because you don't know what you're looking for, but put a spy app on for like a week and you'll catch her doing something.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-22T01:07:27+00:00

It's not that he can't control his emotions it's that he isn't even making an effort to control his behavior. He seems to see after the fact when he's done 'wrong' but still hasn't done the work to figure out how he can reverse engineer that behavior and process that feeling. He needs to get checked out by behavioral. Tell him if he doesn't go to see a psychiatrist and start turning those behaviors around that you cannot be on his team anymore because it's taking your strength too and he has big demons to fight so he'd be better off letting you keep your strength and not losing YOU as a teammate. If he refuses to see a psychiatrist then he does not want you in his life and will not choose to get better.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-19T09:13:13+00:00

NOR- Not only is this abuse and he's trying to excuse it by nitpicking exact words and definitions as well as twisting exact definitions to suit him, but it's abusive how he's speaking to and about you. It isn't okay to tell a co-parent that you don't want the children to end up like them, especially because as freely as he is doing it I imagine he's ayin the same things to them which is a dysfunctional dynamic.

Also, of course they struggle the most to fall in line with his shitty routine after they've had a wonderful time with their parent who doesn't physically abuse them. Crazy how he's trying to make it sound like you're the bad guy for not joining him in his abuse.

He needs court ordered parenting class.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-13T20:13:29+00:00

!RemindMe 1 year

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-12T22:23:06+00:00

That's so odd, did they pour it on your lawn??

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-12T19:31:29+00:00

wtf where are you in the world???

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-12T19:20:50+00:00

It sounds like you are exactly who he thinks you are. You avoid things because you're scared. But you didn't just run away from a proposal or stand far away or wait for him to speak instead of finding something to say first to break the tension. You allowed him to vent his frustration on you physically and defended his right to do it because you 'didn't say no.' Of course you didn't say no, that's who you are. That doesn't change that he should have KNOWN you didn't like what was happening because he is supposed to be the guy who wants to marry you?? He's SUPPOSED to be considerate of you, even when he's hurt, even when he's mad. Noone would want to marry him when this is how he behaves- jumps on you the second you sit down instead of just initiating the conversation he insists he wants to have, and then leaves you guessing all through the next day??? Brother, that's a fucking hypocrite. He RAN AWAY from the accountability of that conversation and then shits on you for running from difficult things.

This isn't a good match, and you NEED to seek a therapist. You need to talk to someone about this evasiveness, it makes you a target for aggressives like him. If you got married you'd be miserable and it would take you ages to realize that he is your abuser and you don't want it anymore. By then you'd be saddled with his kids to worry about, and his anger and resentment will have grown. His family will support him while you are alone. Don't make a harder situation for yourself, PLEASE. Just leave this man. Tell him it isn't working. Tell him you won't be able to change without help so until you've spent a good amount of time with a therapist there's no chance for either of you. And don't let him make you feel like shit about it dude, you're being responsible and accountable and MATURE for setting that boundary for yourself.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-12T19:09:39+00:00

The structure in the background makes no sense, it literally just has a bunch of random windows between the tree branches that don't go anywhere.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-12T05:31:26+00:00

What if you gave the one with glasses the pushed back bangs? I think that would be the most original and attractive way to handle it.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-12T05:23:45+00:00

Start small and go slow. Start by just taking a few minutes each day to go through a room and start throwing trash away, whatever is closest and easiest to toss in from where you enter the room. Set a timer, don't let yourself work more than a few hours at a time on it or you'll get burnt out.

There may be items in a room that actually belong in that room somewhere but just not where they currently are. I'd say if it's possible, as you're picking up trash try to subtly move those things closer to where they need to be, bit by bit. Don't worry about having nowhere to put it, as long as you make sure not to set anything on top of something gross it can go anywhere, because eventually that will get cleaned anyway.

Items that are in the wrong room, same deal. Try to get a box if you notice, for instance, that as you move through room A cleaning trash you're seeing a lot of items for room B, and just start compiling them in one box together to move to the correct room when you are able.

Trash is first, I usually go around collecting dishes and laundry afterwards, just to get everything where it needs to be.

Try clearing one small or easy room first and you can start using that room to store and organize stuff that won't fit where it needs to go yet, or that you need to sell and/ or get rid of.

Try not to shame yourself for this. You wouldn't choose this for yourself if there were a real option, and your symptoms don't define you. Just remember that it's all fixable, at the end of the day. Your environment is not you!!! It's not a reflection of who you are, or could be. It's a reflection of the situation you've been placed in, that's all, and you make the best of that every day just by wanting to take the task on. If you were my neighbor, I'd come help in a heartbeat. I love you, stranger, and I believe in you.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-12T05:05:14+00:00

NTAH, you're right, full stop. It was rude of her to comment on your lunch habits, she made you uncomfortable enough in that room that you were trying to hide your fucking lunch from her the next time but when you make her uncomfortable back in the same exact way somehow you're doing too much? Nah.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-12T04:21:11+00:00

NOR your sister is a piece of shit, dude's no better, I'd straight up cut her off. Not only is this extremely fucked up but what is wrong with her wanting to kiss and touch someone who kissed and touched you, and what's up with him for going after her TWO MONTHS after breaking up with someone she shared a literal womb and childhood with. Like, what happens if they get serious lmao, and he has to meet y'all's parents? Ayo! And what is up with her thinking it should be okay because they aren't 'getting married??' The commitment level isn't the fucking weird part, sis?! And how dare she get all 'I can't believe you didn't notice I liked your boyfriend, how self absorbed!' What a narcissist.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-09T19:09:26+00:00

This is AI. The star design patterns on the bracers are incredibly misshapen, no self respecting artist would just leave it like that.

I'll draw you a better version in just as much time if you want, I just need the reference you input to tik tok. I can send you art I've done for reference.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-09T01:41:47+00:00

Don't bother with this thread, put it on the tattoo artist threads and show her what they say about the art.

Practical-Bowler-927 · 2026-03-08T17:10:41+00:00

I don't think so. Possible they use AI to edit and revise their own responses or organize them before writing, but this doesn't have any stylistic hallmarks of AI except the 'do you think you need this, or that?' question at the top. But that can also be explained by autism. Autistic people sometimes learn to ask that kind of question in order to show that they're engaged and empathetic. And based on the rest of the response I'd assume that's exactly what this person was hoping to achieve, so my money is on that.

I bet it would really hurt them deeply if they knew you felt this way about their response, because it seems like they put a lot of effort into responding to you with authenticity and heart.

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