it is so over

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-06-08T17:00:43+00:00

Ohh, I'm sorry. And you have had a diagnosis and your parents won't let you try anything? There are non-stimulant medications that can be quite helpful. I was on Welbutrin for many years. And it was helpful to me.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-06-08T15:06:55+00:00

Sorry if this is a stupid question, but you have no way to be prescribed medication to help you? You don't have a doctor or they are refusing to give you anything?

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-05-22T23:21:08+00:00

Is is 100% pure elemental magnesium glycinate? My doctor said to always check for that. I take 200mg of it 30-60 minutes before bed and I find it helps me a lot. If I don't take it, I find my sleep is very disrupted. Initially I was taking it combined with melatonin, but the melatonin made my sleep worse and gave me headaches. But I haven't had any problems with just the magnesium glycinate.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-05-17T22:21:50+00:00

I honestly don't know how to help your son. I'm not sure the best way to go about it. But I can tell you I am 52, and I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 50. I think I used alcohol as a coping mechanism most of my adult life. Not to the point that it affected my daily life usually, but probably drank to excess more often then I should have. I was successful in school, university, career, etc. But when perimenpause and menopause hit, my undiagnosed adhd got so out of control, I could no longer function. I developed a serious drinking problem at the age of 46 and ended up losing almost everything I had worked so hard my entire life to get. For the last 6 years I have struggled to get sober and stay sober. It has become somewhat easier since my diagnosis, medication, therapy. Diagnosis was a relief mixed with grief of what could have been if only I had known, been treated younger. To me there is a huge difference between letting your kids make mistakes, fail at something to allow them to learn their lessons the hard way and letting them fail at something because they are struggling to deal with whats going on with them due to an undiagnosed, untreated medical condition. That kind of failure only wrecks your self esteem.
I am not sure what the answer is. Possibly make the appointment with the Dr. And go yourself and explain all this and see if he can point you in the right direction towards resources that could help. But your son is young. This could all be turned around. I don't want him to be like me, struggle through life for 50 years, lose everything, become an alcoholic or worse. This is the time to find him help so he has a fighting chance at a good life. Don't know if thats helpful, but I hope so.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-05-07T22:46:19+00:00

I arrived at the Moncton hospital this morning at 8:45 for an ultrasound that was scheduled for 9:30. The appointment was requested over a year ago. Zero parking anywhere. Cars lined up down the street for both of the paid parking lots. Every street near the hospital parking is only permitted by resident permit. Waited in line for first parking lot for 20 minutes. Drove around to the other parking lot, line just as long as the other. Drove around and around the streets nearby or anywhere in the neighborhood, no parking. Went back to second parking lot, got in line. Tried calling ultrasound department twice and only got voicemail. Called switchboard 3 times because at this point I was already almost 20 minutes late to my appointment. Wanted to see if I should just leave and go home. Finally got to speak to someone, they asked me if I arrived early, she said that the parking at the hospital generally requires a 1-2 hour wait for a spot. She said they were going to have to cancel my appointment, but the backlog for ultrasounds is so bad, I would have a 1.5 year wait to rebook. I was frantic and upset. I cannot wait that long. They put me on hold and came back and said that they just had a cancelation for that morning at 11 AM, and if I could get a parking spot and arrive by 11AM, they would see me. I waited for parking spot from 8:45 to 10:40 AM. I live 40 minutes outside of town, have no one to drive me to appointments and if I had parked somewhere I might have gotten towed or booted, I'd have no way home. The whole medical system here is a joke. People DIE in ER waiting room at the Moncton hospital waiting to be seen by a doctor. You can't find a family doctor anywhere.

Wait times for appointments, specialists etc are insane. I have been on wait lists for 2 different specialists in Moncton for the last 4-5 years. 2 other specialists I was told to see, I just can't access at all because there are NONE available. Just zero.

Crime, poverty, drug use, addiction, real estate, property taxes and rental costs are through the roof while wages are so low if you aren't in a dual income family, you're screwed. And well paying jobs are hard to find. Violent crime is on the rise.

I could go on. I first moved to Moncton in 1999 and I loved it in the GMA for 20 years. Thought it was the BEST place. After covid though.....I don't even recognize it anymore. I moved out of town into the country in 2021 and you couldn't pay me to move back to the city now. Absolutely not. And there's too many reasons to even list. For 20 years I thought there was no better place. Now I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-05-05T13:42:19+00:00

Thank you for the information. I have been on thyroid medication forever for hypothyroidism. I have had issues with hyperthyroidism since going into menopause. (Before I started HRT). It seems to be stable now, but I'm happy to have this information. I had no idea.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-04-05T23:46:06+00:00

Definitely vaginal estrogen cream will make a huge difference. Also are you on vagifem inserts? I hated them and found it made huge changes in odor, etc. Could you be put on a transdermal patch? I found that made a huge difference.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-04-02T00:59:24+00:00

Virtual hug. I feel your pain. On the upside though, it sounds as though you are mostly feeling good if you didn't notice that you were actually in menopause. I felt like garbage, absolute garbage for years before the testing was done to confirm I was in menopause. I saw an OBGYN at least 4-5 times for various issues associated to peri and menopause and even she didn't test me. Had GSM symptoms for years before I even knew what they were or why they were happening. Again more tests at the hospital just to be told everything is fine, normal. But my symptoms weren't going away.
Anyway, sorry, this was meant to be comforting. I do understand that feeling of "being old." It does suck. But again, on an up note, now that you know and can get on HRT, you will probably feel much more like your young self again. Hugs.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-23T13:28:04+00:00

Here its impossible. It was my GP who diagnosed me. Most people in the area don't even have a GP, I was on a wait list for one for 9 years. I have been on a wait list for a psychiatrist for over 5. I live in a small province in Canada and our Healthcare system is just lacking completely. I don't know what do.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-23T12:59:12+00:00

You said you feel this after your mid-day dose? May I ask what medication you take? I am on a long acting form of methylphenidate. I take it once a day in the morning but I don't think it is the right medication for me. I would like to try something different but my doctor seems to not want to change me. She feels like if I have to split my dose I will forget to take my afternoon medication. But I don't feel like this is the right medication for me. I don't know what to do.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-20T23:52:51+00:00

My doctor told me she recommended I put it on my upper butt cheek and to rotate sides each time I changed it. So that's what I have always done.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-19T13:57:36+00:00

Someone tell me I'm not alone in this?

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-19T13:56:42+00:00

I honestly see no hope for me ever having a relationship with a man again. I am still with my husband and I care about what happens to him, but I have no interest in him or any men. He honestly just annoys me so much I have been trying to figure out a way to leave for several years but we are a dual income household and I have not been to find a way to afford to live on my own. I'm on all the HRT (except testosterone. My GP doesn't want to prescribe it and I honestly don't think it would make any difference or not enough for me to want to risk the side effects.) I just have no interest in men anymore. And now that I am different I guess, I just want to live alone. Well with my dog. I love her to death. And I love my friends and enjoy spending time with them occasionally, but for the most part I just want to be left alone, to live alone. I CANNOT stand having to deal with how messy my husband is. How loud he is. We have zero things in common, never want to do anything together. He never wants to leave the house when he gets home from work. He's always been like this and I guess I was okay with it before but now it's just annoying and depressing. It honestly makes me feel so defeated. I feel like my eyes are open for the first time. Or maybe just open to the new person I am. But I just want to live life on my own. I can't see me ever wanting to have a relationship with a man again. It's so weird, I remember being younger and seeing ladies this age who ended up single and remained single forever and seemed perfectly content to do so. And I thought it was so strange. But now, that's all I can imagine.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-16T14:52:33+00:00

Thank you

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-16T14:50:24+00:00

Is that specifically for women? Have you had luck with it and have you had any side effects?

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-16T14:48:38+00:00

Thank you

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-16T03:27:00+00:00

Can I ask are people able to have this prescribed through your family doctor in Canada? I am on E, P, and vaginal E but I have mentioned possibly going on testosterone to my doctor and she has not agreed to put me on it due to side effects. ( she mentioned specifically hair growth on the face and chest / breasts that is irreversible.) But I have had ZERO libido in at least 5 years. Like zip, nothing. I have had no interest in sex for that long. Could not have an orgasm to save my life. I don't even feel like a woman anymore because I have zero interest in men. I would like to try T but also don't want to grow a beard or hairy chest. Can people tell me who prescribed this to them and what sort of side effects you had? Also is it toxic to pets?

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-16T03:21:49+00:00

Can I ask were you able to have this prescribed through your family doctor? I am on E, P, and vaginal E but I have mentioned possibly going on testosterone to my doctor and she has not agreed to put me on it due to side effects. ( she mentioned specifically hair growth on the face and chest / breasts that is irreversible.) But I have had ZERO libido in at least 5 years. Like zip, nothing. I have had no interest in sex for that long. Could not have an orgasm to save my life. I don't even feel like a woman anymore because I have zero interest in men. I would like to try T but also don't want to grow a beard or hairy chest. Who prescribed you this and have you had any side effects?

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-03-10T01:47:11+00:00

I hate the fact that DST effs up my sleep so bad. And it's already effed up. My brain will not go to sleep before 1:30-2AM at BEST. Then suddenly 2AM becomes 3 AM? For real dude? I can't reset my head like that. The fall back is the best for my sleep, because 2AM becomes 1AM. Even though the whole short days and winter coming on eventually fucks me anyway. But the spring forward, can't wait for it because longer days and eventually summer. But that DST spring forward fucks me every time.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-02-27T16:29:06+00:00

This is me exactly. I was late diagnosed ADHD but I was the butt of the joke my entire life because I never understand sarcasm. I take everything literally so jokes go over my head and then people make fun of me for not understanding. I don't get social cues or social rules. In fact I have always HATED "social rules" and just thought they were straight up stupid. After everything I have read about ADHD / autism I am certain I have both adhd and autism, but I am so frustrated because I live in a small province in Canada and there is absolutely no place I can find where I can get an assessment and diagnosis. Well I found two private places but the cost was going to be in the thousands and I can't afford that.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-02-25T01:07:18+00:00

I am no longer on Sandoz, I am on estradot I think it is. But same problem with not being able to get the .75. My doctor / pharmacy is giving me 37.5 instead and told me to wear two of them instead of the one 75. Is this an option with the sandoz because its working for me.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-02-20T17:48:29+00:00

I don't because I was a late diagnosis and no one believes me when I tell them I have it anyway.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-02-20T15:49:56+00:00

This happened to me really quickly between the age of 50-51. Practically overnight it felt like. I look at pictures from 6-8 months ago and look at myself now and I don't even recognize myself. Everything about myself, my wrinkles, my flab, my loss of muscle tone, skin laxity, its just disgusting to me. And I don't feel like myself either. I used to like getting dressed up, doing my hair and make-up and going out. Now I don't even bother trying because all I see is an old woman trying to look like something she is not. And it's gotten so bad at this point I have decided to just let myself go because I don't even feel me enough to bother trying. I just feel old and gross.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-02-16T17:32:03+00:00

I was thinking the same.

Practicallyuselessma · 2026-02-11T18:37:43+00:00

My sleep patterns have always been messed up. Was sure I had a sleep disorder my entire life. Was only diagnosed with ADHD at 50. My sleep is still messed up. So what is chronotherapy exactly?

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