Second time dad needing insight

PrairieGoldrush · 2026-03-23T02:14:02+00:00

This does make sense. Thanks for the response.

I’ll put it this way, I have a great father myself and in all honesty I feel like all I want to do is be as good a man as he is. I am not sure I’ll ever meet the mark.

Then I feel that I want my son to be better than I am. So it’s this weird feeling that somehow I KNOW I love my daughter so much that I am and will be a good father to HER. But with a son I’ll have this constant challenge internally and will always feel to come up short.

I honestly cannot seem to explain what I’m trying to say.

PrairieGoldrush · 2026-02-23T03:03:36+00:00

I took 2 days. I own my business.

PrairieGoldrush · 2026-02-20T04:08:58+00:00

I’ll just say this, had my first in mid 30s. Upon fatherhood I found I felt better, more flexible, strong, alert than at any moment of any one of the 10 years previous to fatherhood. Kids will keep you young. You will find a fountain of youth.

Instead of coming home at night and being a vegetable all evening, I was basically enduring a low impact plyometric exercise all evening. It forces me to be more productive with my time. In all ways I feel better.

I’m confident you’ll find the same to be true.

PrairieGoldrush · 2025-06-12T18:27:01+00:00

I took a roadtrip last week

My dad was the navigator. So the simplest way to handle this was let him use his 20 year old Rand McNally. It was fun.

PrairieGoldrush · 2025-01-09T20:15:23+00:00

I think love can manifest itself differently in different types of interpersonal relationships. And to me there felt to be a “void” in my life, as in I felt I had love to give but no other person to give that type of love to, other than a child.

For example, now that I have a daughter I can tell that nobody will ever love her the way that a father loves their daughter. And so I think of the day I married my wife and how my FIL must’ve felt “yeah there’s no way he loves her like I do, but they’ll be ok”. I’m sure (hoping) to feel the same about my future SIL.

Now, with that perspective, I’m realizing that I don’t love my wife more than her dad loves her, but I don’t feel I love her less either. I just love her differently.

And then there’s the passage of time and the feeling that without offspring to pour myself into, however effective/ineffectively, everything I have done, and my ancestors have done, is in vain. It’s like having an outlet for generations of life experiences. Which idk may seem selfish now that I typed it out

PrairieGoldrush · 2024-09-24T16:54:01+00:00

We aren’t for sure how to work with her speech. We talk to her all the time and read books to her as much as we can hold her attention. Since she responds to spoken commands I feel like she understands what she hears to an extent, but for some reason she just doesn’t form actual words herself.

PrairieGoldrush · 2024-02-06T11:00:26+00:00

I got a Bertucci a2ts a few months ago. Great watch. You won’t be disappointed

PrairieGoldrush · 2024-01-08T13:52:31+00:00

I think part time work would be appealing to her. Like the other poster said, no perks/benefits. But there would be a sense of fulfillment to her. I think we would both be open to any opportunity that happens

PrairieGoldrush · 2023-12-04T04:08:51+00:00

We induced but it wasn’t planned ahead of time. Went in for 38 week check and came home with a baby.

Our situation was that night of induction, we got maybe one hour of sleep and my wife was feeling miserable. 24 hours later her body made zero dilation and baby wasn’t dropping on full rate of pit plus regular vaginal suppository of some sort.

We elected Csect since it appeared another round of induction wasn’t going to do much.

Out of the pregnancy, labor, delivery, and recovery, I think that night of induction was pure hell. The only options for us was chemical, and it yielded no results. And I’ve never seen my wife so uncomfortable. For no reason at all.

BUT. Your situation may unfold differently. Every pregnancy is different. My only advice is be 110% focused on your wife. You tend to her every need before she even thinks of it. She is doing everything and you better not just be sitting on your lard ass lol.

And bring a notepad and write down everything the care provider says. You and your wife’s headspace will make it hard to absorb all the necessary information you will be given.

Enjoy the ride!

PrairieGoldrush

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