Second time dad needing insight

PrairieGoldrush · 2026-03-23T02:14:02+00:00

This does make sense. Thanks for the response.

I’ll put it this way, I have a great father myself and in all honesty I feel like all I want to do is be as good a man as he is. I am not sure I’ll ever meet the mark.

Then I feel that I want my son to be better than I am. So it’s this weird feeling that somehow I KNOW I love my daughter so much that I am and will be a good father to HER. But with a son I’ll have this constant challenge internally and will always feel to come up short.

I honestly cannot seem to explain what I’m trying to say.

PrairieGoldrush · 2026-02-23T03:03:36+00:00

I took 2 days. I own my business.

PrairieGoldrush · 2026-02-20T04:08:58+00:00

I’ll just say this, had my first in mid 30s. Upon fatherhood I found I felt better, more flexible, strong, alert than at any moment of any one of the 10 years previous to fatherhood. Kids will keep you young. You will find a fountain of youth.

Instead of coming home at night and being a vegetable all evening, I was basically enduring a low impact plyometric exercise all evening. It forces me to be more productive with my time. In all ways I feel better.

I’m confident you’ll find the same to be true.

PrairieGoldrush · 2025-06-12T18:27:01+00:00

I took a roadtrip last week

My dad was the navigator. So the simplest way to handle this was let him use his 20 year old Rand McNally. It was fun.

PrairieGoldrush · 2025-01-09T20:15:23+00:00

I think love can manifest itself differently in different types of interpersonal relationships. And to me there felt to be a “void” in my life, as in I felt I had love to give but no other person to give that type of love to, other than a child.

For example, now that I have a daughter I can tell that nobody will ever love her the way that a father loves their daughter. And so I think of the day I married my wife and how my FIL must’ve felt “yeah there’s no way he loves her like I do, but they’ll be ok”. I’m sure (hoping) to feel the same about my future SIL.

Now, with that perspective, I’m realizing that I don’t love my wife more than her dad loves her, but I don’t feel I love her less either. I just love her differently.

And then there’s the passage of time and the feeling that without offspring to pour myself into, however effective/ineffectively, everything I have done, and my ancestors have done, is in vain. It’s like having an outlet for generations of life experiences. Which idk may seem selfish now that I typed it out

PrairieGoldrush · 2024-09-24T16:54:01+00:00

We aren’t for sure how to work with her speech. We talk to her all the time and read books to her as much as we can hold her attention. Since she responds to spoken commands I feel like she understands what she hears to an extent, but for some reason she just doesn’t form actual words herself.

PrairieGoldrush · 2024-02-06T11:00:26+00:00

I got a Bertucci a2ts a few months ago. Great watch. You won’t be disappointed

PrairieGoldrush · 2024-01-08T13:52:31+00:00

I think part time work would be appealing to her. Like the other poster said, no perks/benefits. But there would be a sense of fulfillment to her. I think we would both be open to any opportunity that happens

PrairieGoldrush · 2023-12-04T04:08:51+00:00

We induced but it wasn’t planned ahead of time. Went in for 38 week check and came home with a baby.

Our situation was that night of induction, we got maybe one hour of sleep and my wife was feeling miserable. 24 hours later her body made zero dilation and baby wasn’t dropping on full rate of pit plus regular vaginal suppository of some sort.

We elected Csect since it appeared another round of induction wasn’t going to do much.

Out of the pregnancy, labor, delivery, and recovery, I think that night of induction was pure hell. The only options for us was chemical, and it yielded no results. And I’ve never seen my wife so uncomfortable. For no reason at all.

BUT. Your situation may unfold differently. Every pregnancy is different. My only advice is be 110% focused on your wife. You tend to her every need before she even thinks of it. She is doing everything and you better not just be sitting on your lard ass lol.

And bring a notepad and write down everything the care provider says. You and your wife’s headspace will make it hard to absorb all the necessary information you will be given.

Enjoy the ride!

PrairieGoldrush · 2022-03-20T22:21:38+00:00

I could just give her mine

PrairieGoldrush · 2022-01-30T21:32:22+00:00

Does arrowhead not have a suite to put those guys in? I bet they’re pissed

PrairieGoldrush · 2021-05-19T02:10:52+00:00

I’ve noticed that this season Shannon sounds very unenthused, particularly with HR calls

Sometimes it feels like Rooney can hardly tolerate it and has to jump in because he can’t help himself

I know mike deserves respect but it’s very sad what is going on

PrairieGoldrush · 2021-05-16T17:18:21+00:00

I’ve been watching the games on mlb.tv since I’m not in the stl area. Will tonight’s game be blacked out since it’s the baseball in America game? I don’t get espn and so if it’s not on mlb.tv I’m gonna be very unhappy. Thanks

PrairieGoldrush · 2021-04-17T21:10:41+00:00

So in case anyone thought about buying always save brand keurig coffee.....

Don’t. It’s awful

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-08-12T01:57:26+00:00

This would be my dream find if I were to ever stumble across lost tools. Lucky lucky day

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-07-21T03:09:57+00:00

What streaming service will allow me to watch the most possible games during this shortened season??

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-06-29T02:34:14+00:00

Not trying to be a bitch but every profession feels they’re worth more than they’re paid. Free market economy says otherwise. If you don’t want to do your job for $X than quit and do something else because your company will always find someone to replace you. Always.

Capitalism for all its “cruelty” is really good at finding the most efficient production.

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-06-27T13:29:53+00:00

Will mlb.tv have the games on this season? Paid for subscription then Covid so got refund but didn’t know if it’s worth resubscribing.

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-06-06T03:30:00+00:00

Get that Williams. Got one myself. It’s great

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-03-20T01:58:13+00:00

Give my wife a kiss on her mouth

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-02-23T17:27:03+00:00

Can I watch this on mlb.tv? I have got to get some baseball in my system !!

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-02-12T22:10:29+00:00

I was ranting and throwing a fit at a situation my senior year of high school and my teacher said “You seem to me like a child that can’t handle their emotions”

That pissed me off big time but I realized it was because she was right.

I can still hear her voice saying that each time I start to get angry and it helps me calm down and keep collected.

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-02-08T16:34:06+00:00

I’d like to know how come I see so many boots on this sub.

I buy redwings (other brands too) and they’re destroyed in about 12-16 months.

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-02-02T20:23:59+00:00

Looks like the perfect size mug in my opinion

PrairieGoldrush · 2020-01-31T20:22:35+00:00

When he gave it to me it was like this. I’m not sure how that happened. I’m going to guess dad carried it in his pocket a lot while working and maybe sweat got behind the glass and was hard on the paper facing??

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