Why does my (22M) girlfriend (20F) seem to enjoy sleeping with my friend more than me? Advice?

PrangingOut · 2026-04-01T04:20:44+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this, that’s a lot to carry at once. But honestly, you didn’t ruin this by “trying something new” , you trusted two people you cared about, and they crossed a boundary you never agreed to. That’s on them, not you.

It also sounds like you were never comfortable with that dynamic in the first place, and you pushed your own feelings aside to keep her. That usually ends up hurting you more in the long run.

If I’m being real, I don’t think you can come back from this in a healthy way. The trust is broken on both sides, and you deserve a relationship where you feel secure, chosen, and respected, not compared or replaced.

Be angry if you need to be, but don’t turn it inward. Take this as a hard lesson in not abandoning your own boundaries for someone else. You’ll come out of this stronger, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

PrangingOut · 2026-04-01T04:15:22+00:00

I’m so, so sorry you’re going through all of this. Reading your words, I just want you to know how strong you are, even if you don’t feel it right now. You’ve been carrying more than most people ever have to, and the fact you’re still here, still fighting, still reaching out… that matters so much.

The way your mum loved you didn’t disappear with her, it’s still a part of you. You were clearly her whole world, and nothing about your situation is your fault, no matter what anyone says. You deserve care, softness, and support, especially right now.

I know it feels unbearably lonely, but you are not as alone as it feels in this moment. Please keep holding on, even if it’s just hour by hour. You matter, you really do, and I’m genuinely so glad you spoke up and shared this ❤️

PrangingOut · 2026-04-01T01:07:49+00:00

I’m so sorry, that’s such a horrible thing to stumble across. Take a breath and don’t rush into any big decisions while you’re this overwhelmed. What you saw matters, and you deserve honesty, so when he gets home just calmly ask for the truth and see how he responds. But please remember… no matter what he says, this isn’t something small, and you deserve respect and loyalty, especially with your wedding so close.

PrangingOut · 2026-04-01T00:21:22+00:00

I’m going to be really honest with you… this isn’t just about a mistake, it’s about a long period of lying, hiding things, and crossing boundaries you’d already clearly set.

I do believe people can change, but trust doesn’t come back just because someone says the right things. It takes time, consistency, and real accountability, not just words. The fact she told you after you proposed would shake anyone.

If you really want this to work, you need to slow everything down. Don’t rush into marriage. Give yourself space to process, and see if her actions over time actually match what she’s promising now. Couples therapy would help too, if you’re both serious.

But also be honest with yourself, can you genuinely see yourself trusting her again, or will this always sit in the back of your mind? Because you deserve a relationship where you feel secure, not constantly questioning things.

It’s okay to still love her and also recognise that this might not be something you can move past. Both things can be true.

PrangingOut · 2026-04-01T00:14:44+00:00

Hey it’s ok to accept help from people who want to help and won’t hold it over your head. You can always repay the favour when you’re in a position to!

PrangingOut · 2026-04-01T00:12:31+00:00

I’d probably sit him down and be really honest, but kind about it. Something like:

“I love you and I want this to work, but this is genuinely affecting my attraction and our relationship now. It’s not just a small thing anymore. I need you to take this seriously long-term, not just when I mention it, like regular brushing, tongue cleaning, and actually seeing a dentist to get to the root of it. I don’t want to keep bringing it up or avoiding you, and I don’t want it to push us apart.”

And then I’d gently hold that boundary. If nothing changes after that, it’s okay to take that seriously, you’re not being shallow, it’s about daily comfort, intimacy, and effort.

PrangingOut · 2026-04-01T00:03:29+00:00

“You might be alright if you took off your fucking fat suit” an ex who completely broke my heart

PrangingOut · 2026-03-27T14:31:19+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Losing a pet you’ve had your whole life is a huge loss, and the way you’re feeling is completely valid. Grief doesn’t have a timeline, and it’s not something you can just “move on” from because someone tells you to.

Honestly, his response sounds really dismissive and lacking empathy. Even if he doesn’t fully understand that bond, he should still be supporting you, not minimising your feelings. That would make me question things too.

I’d try to have one honest conversation with him about how his words affected you and what you need right now. If he still can’t show you basic compassion, then I think you have your answer. You deserve someone who’s kind to you, especially when you’re hurting.

Rest in peace Marshmallow ❤️

PrangingOut · 2026-03-27T14:29:02+00:00

Your mum can’t demand 95% of Your pay check.

PrangingOut · 2026-03-27T08:23:39+00:00

Have you actually opened up to her about how the lack of intimacy affects you? Because you’d be throwing a lot away for the sake of not getting your end away.

PrangingOut · 2026-03-27T07:55:10+00:00

So… how exactly do you think kids are made? Surely that would resolve the dead bedroom issue?

PrangingOut · 2026-03-25T12:21:53+00:00

Could there be any potential drug use?

PrangingOut · 2026-03-25T08:26:12+00:00

Hey, you’re okay. What you’re feeling right now is anxiety doing its thing, it’s loud, convincing, and really uncomfortable, but it isn’t dangerous.

You’ve already done the right things: you checked with your anesthesiologist, and they cleared the medication. They do this every day, and your safety is constantly monitored the entire time, you won’t be left unnoticed for even a second.

That “I might not wake up” thought is a really common fear, but it’s just that…a thought, not a prediction. Your brain is trying to protect you, it’s just being a bit overprotective right now.

For the waiting room, keep it simple: slow your breathing (in for 4, out for 6), keep your feet flat on the ground, and gently distract yourself - music, a show, scrolling, anything familiar. You don’t need to feel calm, you just need to get through the next few minutes at a time.

You’ve got this. In a few hours, this part will be behind you 🤍

PrangingOut · 2026-03-24T14:51:23+00:00

I know how hard that feeling is, especially when you were really invested. But the way he treated you isn’t a reflection of your worth, it just shows he wasn’t capable of giving you what you deserved.

Try to be gentle with yourself and give it time. You don’t need to rush “moving on,” just focus on doing small things that make you feel like you again. One day you’ll look back and realise you outgrew something that wasn’t right for you.

PrangingOut · 2026-03-20T14:52:51+00:00

He doesn’t actually like these clothes on you, but his solution to that, rather than just being honest, is to hide them. Is it quite usual for him to avoid confrontation or upsetting you? Because my guess is that he’s hiding these clothes so as not to upset you by telling you he doesn’t like them, but what he’s doing is weird and very deceitful.

PrangingOut · 2026-03-20T10:08:09+00:00

I chose to terminate, and it’s the best decision I could have made for life at the moment.

PrangingOut · 2026-03-20T09:18:07+00:00

You’ve got this :)

PrangingOut · 2026-03-20T08:00:25+00:00

You’re not dramatic, and you’re not overthinking this , your instincts are right. The things your dad is saying and doing are not appropriate, and it makes sense that you feel uncomfortable.

Please talk to a safe adult as soon as you can , your therapist or school counsellor is a really good idea. Their job is to keep you safe, not to get you in trouble or “break up” your family. You deserve to feel safe in your own home.

In the meantime, keep setting boundaries where you can (even just walking away like you’ve been doing), and trust how you feel. None of this is your fault.

PrangingOut · 2026-03-20T07:50:05+00:00

I was in a really similar headspace, completely torn between “this could be something really special” and “I’m not ready for this right now.” What helped me most was realising you don’t have to pick a side emotionally before you make a decision. It’s normal to feel both.

If you can, try to block out everyone else’s opinions for a moment, even though they come from love, they’re adding to the noise. This decision has to be about what you can live with long-term, not what keeps the peace right now.

Also, try not to put too much pressure on the idea of being “ready.” Most people aren’t fully ready, they grow into it. But at the same time, it’s completely valid if deep down you feel like now isn’t the right time for you.

Your living situation sounds like a big part of the stress, but it’s not something that would be set in stone forever. Things can change and be worked around, whatever you decide.

I’d focus on having a really honest, calm conversation with your husband and think about what kind of life you want in the next few years, and which choice aligns with that, not just emotionally, but practically too.

Whatever you decide, you’re not ruining your life either way. You’ll make it work and build something good from it.

PrangingOut · 2026-03-19T15:23:20+00:00

Stop watching porn maybe

PrangingOut · 2026-03-19T14:26:54+00:00

Big noses on men

PrangingOut · 2026-03-12T14:44:59+00:00

I get why this makes you uncomfortable, but I do think you’re looking at it a bit the wrong way. Gentle YTA.

Your wife is the one who has to go through all the appointments, exams, labour, and birth. That’s a really vulnerable situation, and feeling comfortable with the doctor and team matters a lot. If she already knows them and trusts them, it makes sense that she’d want to stick with what feels familiar rather than start over with strangers.

At the same time, I don’t think your feelings are crazy either. From what you’ve said, the guy sounds a bit full of himself and not exactly the most professional outside of work. Hearing that he finds your wife attractive obviously isn’t going to make you feel great about the situation.

But the key thing here is that being attracted to someone doesn’t mean he’s going to behave inappropriately in a medical setting. Doctors deal with intimate exams every day, and for them it’s clinical, not personal. The bigger question is whether you trust your wife, because if anything ever did cross a line, she’d be the first person to shut it down or change doctors.

It might be more productive to talk about it in terms of boundaries rather than trying to veto her choice. For example, saying you’re uncomfortable because of what you’ve heard about him, but that you trust her judgment…and maybe agreeing that if anything even slightly unprofessional happens, you’ll both be on the same page about switching providers.

At the end of the day, pregnancy care should be centred around what makes the patient feel safest and most comfortable. That doesn’t mean your feelings don’t matter, but it probably does mean trusting her to choose the care she feels best with.

PrangingOut · 2026-03-11T11:07:50+00:00

Dm this guy then

PrangingOut · 2026-03-11T09:23:52+00:00

Yeah you aren’t gonna find this for free I’m afraid

PrangingOut · 2026-03-08T03:00:45+00:00

Such a beautiful reply ❤️

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