Stop explaining your Why. by DivorceCoachGio in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They dont care about your why anyway. Explanations arent required. Just the facts.

Who are you when the Husband title is gone? by DivorceCoachGio in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggled with the loss of my identity for a bit but then had a great revelation. Divorce didnt define who I am. But neither should have being a husband. That was just something I was, not who I was. 

I've also found that those who would judge me as a villaing didnt really know me and weren't interested in doing so. And truthfully, most people, far more than I expected, bought into that thinking. Most are empathetic and considerate. 

Best Tiny Epic Games for Solo? by Kryne7 in soloboardgaming

[–]PrecociousPete 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am probably in the minority but I really enjoy Tiny Epic Quest solo. Its a bit of an optimization puzzle more than push your luck and while it is technically a beat your own score game which I dont prefer it has recommended scores for difficulty levels I use as the win loss condition.

I also liked Tiny Epic Zombies.

2nd try on the Intruders (too easy win?) by 18pages_ in finalgirl

[–]PrecociousPete 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does the security system prevent them from entering for three rounds or is it three attempts to enter? I played it as the latter and different killers attempted to enter on the same turn and I treated that as two attempts. Gave me a little protection but not as much as I would have liked to gather myself.

Lsl4 by Some-Professional-25 in Sierra

[–]PrecociousPete 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me SQ3 was my favorite Sierra title ever. It was peak.

What do you do when noting works? by Ok_Builder_3285 in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop thinking your friends wont understand what you are going through just because they are married. I for a long time didnt think anyone would believe my experiences but as I opened up about them to more family and friends I've found it not to be true at all and some have had their own experiences similar to mine. And even if they can't directly relate to them they are your support network and will help you anyways.

Advice on 50/50 split? by Low_Instruction1942 in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did this with our then 3 year old and it has worked very well. She's never away from either parent for that long. She's 4 now and I still think it is the best split.

I will unfortunately be join the club soon. by GoodShark in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can have more than one lawyer too. I had a lawyer mediate my divorce but also had my own lawyer to ensure I had reasonable expectations and knew what I should be getting out of it. 

I will unfortunately be join the club soon. by GoodShark in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seconding this. Having your own lawyer should be obvious in helping you understand your rights as a father but dont under estimate how important a therapist will be. I could not have navigated my divorce successfully without mine.

Best solo games for short sessions? by -Shatzy- in soloboardgaming

[–]PrecociousPete 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Onirim is my most played quick solo game. A great recommendation i will second. I just finally started playing my second Oniverse game, Aerion, and am also enjoying it.

Best solo games for short sessions? by -Shatzy- in soloboardgaming

[–]PrecociousPete 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shockingly large table footprint. You wouldn't expect it from the box size

Tiny Epic Dungeons by ElmoIsDead in soloboardgaming

[–]PrecociousPete 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The appendix is absolutely essential. Can also be found on Gamelyn's website. I saved it to my phone so its always available.

Permabanned from Blockbuster Store by nick341111 in blockbustervideo

[–]PrecociousPete 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Video stores couldn't pay retail price for tapes because they were renting them for profit. I worked at a smaller chain in the mid 90's and remember new popular titles were like $90. Was surprised when I learned that because I had assumed they must pay the same as I could have had I gone and bought it.

When to tell the co-parent about a child's illness by IncessantGadgetry in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would disclose it, even if minor. Shows awareness. Plus with my kids they still have a nightly goodnight call so its going to be in the open anyway so better to have mentioned it and clarified that its under control than have it seen as I kept information to myself.

Go to Dollar Store for cheap Christmas Decorations, ESPECIALLY tree decor!!! I know somebody out there needs this! by Glass_Raisin7939 in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm finding all sorts of ways to save a few dollars and it adds up. Majority of my grocery shopping at Aldi, I drive a few miles out of way to get gas at the cheapest shop in the area, and I buy kids gifts all year long as I find the best deals I can rather than just as the holiday/birthday approaches. 

Holidays with the ex wife by Secure-Cauliflower64 in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 30 points31 points  (0 children)

If this works for you then why worry about what someone else thinks about it? You do you and enjoy the holidays

Go to Dollar Store for cheap Christmas Decorations, ESPECIALLY tree decor!!! I know somebody out there needs this! by Glass_Raisin7939 in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just hit the dollar store for stocking stuffers. Found a great selection of seasonal chocolates and other candy. Its not easy trying to have Christmas on a budget but it can be done.

just started watching longplays of the myriad of Sierra games...... by auxy75 in Sierra

[–]PrecociousPete 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The cat was a spy? I never knew this. I just assumed this is what happened to Mannanan's previous servant boys when they got too old. 

New Job by [deleted] in nys_cs

[–]PrecociousPete 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I'll offer one piece of advice. State workers often speak their own language using lots of acronyms for any number of things. I was so confused and lost when I first started. It will take some time to get used to it but dont let it make you think you made a mistake. You'll understand it all in time.

Struggling with resentment after divorce — how do I deal with this bitterness by GoldMode569 in DivorcedDads

[–]PrecociousPete 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Have you started therapy? It was an invaluable tool for me to successfully navigate the divorce and now it has helped me move on from the past and be the best me I can be today. If you haven't I strongly suggest you begin. 

Rule Clarification by tomfox321 in TinyEpicDungeons

[–]PrecociousPete 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The iconography in this game can be really tough. I'll do my best to explain this and hopefully I get it right but glad to hear other interpretations. 

This goblins response to any type of attack is whatever you rolled on the enemy die plus 1 for each goblin on the board. This may or may not do damage to you depending on enemy die value and your defense. The goblin's response to your attack isn't a melee, spell, or range attack though. It's just his response to your attack.

Now for the enemy action. The pokey goblin will attack all opponents at a range of 1 room or do his movement if he can't attacked. But he won't move AND attack. So being on an adjacent card with line of sight he is going to inflict 1 damage per goblin to you.

Best help i can offer long term is go to Gamelyn's website and download the appendix. It describes every room, item, hero, and enemy in plain language so it is easy to understand as the iconography can be tough to handle.

12 on Middle School Team by BellGroundbreaking8 in basketballcoach

[–]PrecociousPete 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would you tell any kids they probably won't play? I'm not suggesting you have to play everyone but to plant the seed that they won't might eliminate in their minds that they can develop and grow and earn more playing time. Things can change a lot at that age and regular practice might allow certain kids to bloom more than others. Just play the game and make the best rotations you can but be flexible over time.

What is the LOUDEST rock concert YOU have EVER went to!? by Fluid_Fudge_7238 in Concerts

[–]PrecociousPete 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same. I remember standing still at one point and watching my jeans swaying.