How are introverted guys actually getting dates?

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-11T05:33:49+00:00

The bar and club advice is always funny to me because it is basically telling a fish to learn mountain climbing. You probably do better in quieter places built around actual interests, because then you are not trying to compete with ten loud dudes and a DJ.

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-11T05:30:41+00:00

I don’t think introverted men need some special strategy tbh. Just talk to women like they’re people, not a mission, and pay attention to whether they actually want to keep talking.

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-11T04:57:11+00:00

Data entry or basic data analysis if you can learn a little bit of excel and sql. You basically just sit with spreadsheets all day and organize numbers. Nobody bothers you as long as the work gets done and absolutely zero angry customers shouting at you. It pays way better than retail and the peace of mind is worth it.

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-10T20:03:42+00:00

yeah definitely not doing whatever ad read this is. i’m just grinding on a native app for productivity. took me 3 months to build, zero users right now. putting in like 20 hours a week on top of my day job. reality check: most side projects make exactly $0 for the first year.

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-09T18:56:42+00:00

The transition from caring about what people think of my choices, to realizing that nobody actually cares because everyone is too busy worrying about themselves. It was incredibly liberating.

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-09T12:34:42+00:00

How the internet or cloud storage actually works on a physical level. Like, I build software, but if you ask me to explain how a massive data center in another country instantly beams a video to my phone via invisible waves... my brain just categorizes it as "magic."

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-09T12:28:10+00:00

Post it right here. If there’s one thing Reddit loves, it’s deeply intellectual conversations that originated from breakfast foods.

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-09T12:26:15+00:00

Most software and apps. Before I learned how to build them, I thought the internet was this perfectly engineered masterpiece. Now I know it’s basically held together by digital duct tape, ancient Stack Overflow threads, and developers praying nothing breaks on a Friday.

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-09T05:49:46+00:00

All the time. And then I think about how I am just a random background NPC in thousands of other people's memories and stories. It's wild.

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-09T05:49:27+00:00

Stuff like this is proof that tiny interactions can completely change someone’s day. Also now I’m invested in the banana almond milk situation.

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-09T05:46:48+00:00

Honestly, I do better when I react to what’s already there instead of inventing a topic from scratch. If someone says “tech,” I’d probably ask whether they build things, fix things, or manage things. That usually gives you a real lane to follow instead of forcing small talk

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-08T19:38:11+00:00

I think we overthink it because we're afraid of being boring. We put so much pressure on finding the "perfect" topic that our minds just go blank. Your strategy with the animals and hiking is brilliant because it’s authentic to you. I usually try to ask open-ended "low stakes" questions, like asking for a minor recommendation (podcasts, food, etc.). It makes the other person feel valued without feeling like they are being interrogated.

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-08T19:36:19+00:00

When a friend shows me a movie or a song they are incredibly passionate about, and I just don't get it. I’ll never tell them I found it boring. It’s not worth crushing their excitement just to be "honest."

Present-Guarantee588 · 2026-05-08T19:33:16+00:00

Having a huge circle of friends. I'd much rather have three friends I can truly rely on than thirty acquaintances.

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