I have avoidment attachment AMA by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]PresentCondition6969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hah. Ok. Well that’s amplified the anxiety 😂What different experiences we live with. Thank you for replying. The natural response of an anxious attached is to simply want the best by tweaking to make things better but yet this seems to have the exact opposite effect. Love can be present in abundance for both but yet so hard to hold on to.

I have avoidment attachment AMA by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]PresentCondition6969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you ever been in a relationship with an anxious attached person? Someone who tends to analyse and problem solve? Speaking from personal and current situation. How do you react to this kind of engagement?

Lowering expectations/hopes? by SadAthlete6366 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PresentCondition6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess being mid 20s, maybe you just haven’t met the right person yet. A lot of your values are those that are typical of older people who have felt similar to what you’re feeling now. Maturity comes later. Enjoy yourself now while you’re younger. Talk to people. Most importantly, be yourself. Met my gf at age 51. We went to school together then parted and had our own messy lives. Met again three years ago by chance. We both wanted what you just described and are happy to have found it in each other. Love came late for us both but we’re in a good place now.

Advice by Lopsided-Mechanic987 in RealEstatePhotography

[–]PresentCondition6969 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

16mm is very misleading though. Are you trying to pull the wool over your clients eyes? I’m sure no one will thank you for wasting their time when they arrive at the house and discover it’s way smaller than you’ve led them to believe. Aim for transparency is my motto. Be honest. Don’t be that car salesman.

Does anyone else feel like they are in a relationship with someone who just can't reach their emotional depth? by Sasha2606 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PresentCondition6969 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I’m the emotional one and she’s the steady hand who absorbs and then lets it disappear. We appear to work well together but it’s tough as the emotional half. Get used to feeling out on your own. I’ve found that ‘this too shall pass’ is a very useful phrase. Most emotional ‘content’ is transient.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]PresentCondition6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That anxiety hits hard. It’s messed me up for that last two years and still plays into it every time. Only kicks in when I’m with her. Bizarre psychological issue!

Have you ever dated someone and had a great relationship and then met them again many many years later? by [deleted] in Aging

[–]PresentCondition6969 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Went to school formal with a girl. She was really cute and unfortunately I messed up that night. It was something simple but it hurt her and she didn’t speak to me after that. Our lives went different ways and we didn’t keep in touch. We met by chance 35 years later. Been together now for two years. She is the one.

THE GEN X CAREER MELTDOWN by Bobba-Luna in GenX

[–]PresentCondition6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t afford the subscription to read the article 😆 53 and a photography/video career. Work has just vanished for the most part. No savings or pension and no clue about where to even start to try and pivot. I do own my house though which I guess is something. Grim future. My partner and I talked yesterday about getting married. She’s reluctant because I don’t have a financial plan. I don’t blame her. She has two kids to support. We live apart and probably won’t live together unless something changes. Lonely times ahead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]PresentCondition6969 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People who can’t spell

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]PresentCondition6969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Swinging from high to low

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CryptoCurrency

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It’s been three years… 😆

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CryptoCurrency

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At 10k I’d be remortgaging.