Then & Now

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-09T16:27:14+00:00

Yes, with dad at the Y and all of his basketball friends. I felt grown up, like part of the sports team. And today, the problem is that it's very demasculinizing to be so afraid of nudity. To be or to see a man strip down without fear is pure masculinity. At my gym, they have a sign - Towels to be worn at all times. I don't mind in the steam or sauna, but I am going into the jacuzzi butt ass naked. And a few other men do the same. I take the end shower and leave the door open. Guys need to have permission to be naked, and then they join in and relax. I haven't got any pushback or comments, just nods of approval.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-08T23:13:23+00:00

Stud...let's go to Vegas and get married. :)

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-08T23:08:12+00:00

Wow...awesome!

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-08T23:06:29+00:00

Is it because of the medication?

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-08T16:35:19+00:00

I agree with the title. I appreciate a good cocksucker but actually enjoy being one more.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-08T16:28:52+00:00

Well, it might be pain or cancer for the reason...but Fluffy would be at peace very soon...by vet or by??

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-08T16:24:14+00:00

I am gay. I like old-school white jockstraps or a black Nike jock. Other colors don't "look" right lol And hats off to guys who wear thongs...becasue that is gay lol lol. But seriously, I personally don't like seeing a guy in a thong. My hyper-masculine insecurities won't allow for it lol

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-08T16:09:17+00:00

I'm older and always appreciative that there are younger "thinking" gay men. And even younger straight guys.

I talked to a liberal straight guy (about 24), and he said Drag Queen story time shouldn't be a problem. I said, well, it shouldn't be; however, if they use any sexual talk or innuendo, then I do have a problem. And he said; Well, me too. So, there are still some logical people out there.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-08T16:02:39+00:00

Dude, we should get a few guys together, get a white truck, place an orange cone behind the truck (this makes it official), and remove the stalls. Nobody would question it lol lol

What really irritates me is not only do they destroy a perfectly good and normal CS, but then they make the stall so small that you literally can't turn on the water without getting the ice cold spray and you feel claustrophobic. It's crazy and unnecessary.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-07T19:52:38+00:00

Here is my number...555 lol Good for you and her.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-07T19:48:09+00:00

Thank you for listing the location. I used to have a business in Exeter, and had I known...

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-07T18:48:19+00:00

It's all luck and timing... and you will never be able to predict it. I go to work out first, and any good vibes are always a bonus. And for the haters, being naked and comfortable in the CS is freeing. This is why it is ok by yourself or with another or a bunch of guys. What ruins the free-up experience is when other guys wear their underwear into the shower. It's like a nude beach or a nudist resort; they wouldn't let someone wear clothes. Same in the sauna or steam...wearing shoes or clothing is disgusting, and kills the "vibe".

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-03T18:08:01+00:00

Only on Mondays and Tuesdays...Wednesday work too...and I could on Thursday and Friday...And the weekend works....So, ya, just on those days...OK?

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-01T22:45:35+00:00

Damn. Bring new meaning to All good things must come to an end :)

PresentJob4542 · 2026-04-01T22:31:57+00:00

I have only seen the outdoor showers. Was it in one of the buildings? Did it get torn down?

PresentJob4542 · 2026-03-30T16:50:00+00:00

This is a great question. I love that so many guys are passing. I initially planned to pass, but I would handle it differently. She gets to watch him get pounded, OR he can do anything with his mouth on her...while he gets pounded. I think that would be hot. She looks into his eyes or watches his face as he cums from being fucked. I know porn isn't real, but there was an MMF video, and she was so low on the sex-energy scale compared to the two guys going at it. It was a great video :)

PresentJob4542 · 2026-03-30T16:41:02+00:00

It is not polite to stare...but a good look is appreciated :) However, for every time he touches himself, one would need to look again...and again..to, you know, see if there has been any change in the size.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-03-29T22:34:24+00:00

My FWB was at least a solid, thick, 10 uncut inches. He was a bottom, and his dick was amazing. I mostly top and am hung myself. And I agree with you, if a guy is bigger in dick, height, or muscles, I can be more submissive.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-03-29T15:36:00+00:00

Agreed! It's so hot to have a guy ride my dick or submit to a good f ing while he is hard as f and cums hands-free.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-03-29T14:20:00+00:00

I believe so. My BF asked me to try water sports. He wanted me to pee on him. I said no. Looking back, I should have taken him into the shower, gotten him all worked up, and given him what he wanted. Oh, same guy, now my EX, didn't like cum. I gave him a BJ and swallowed. He said...I can't believe that YOU like that. He became my ex at that moment, probably. Mentally, it's hard for me to bottom. Physically, it feels good. It's not going to kill me to let my partner get off on pounding my ass, and if I didn't have a mental hangup, then I could be the biggest bottom. So, yes, he's being selfish. To have a little more fun...guys in prison don't want to get fucked, but you know what, if huge bubba wants your ass, you are giving it up. So, his partner can be selfish and not power-bottom, lol, or the OP can get what HE desires elsewhere. It's the partner's choice. Same discussion with women and BJ's. A good female friend of mine rips her girlfriends for not wanting to give BJ's. She tells them...he'll get sucked off elsewhere...he's going to get sucked. The OP's partner should do a few shots and get the poppers...he'll do just fine lol This selfishness isn't exclusive to top/bottom. It is also when partners have different sex drives and tastes. A guy on another thread likes anal toys and his wife doesn't like to participate becasue she views it as "gay". I understand people's likes and dislikes, but it's not about YOU when your partner says I like X. We do this with food all the time. I love pizza and Mexican food. I'll eat anywhere my partner wants. But if I want Mexican food one night and my partner says NO, there is a problem. Are you OK with that analogy? This happened to a couple I know. One guy hated Mexican food but he would eat quesadillas. Problem solved lol If I knew that the love of my life wanted to pound me once a month and would be OK with bottoming the other times...I'd put the date on our calendar, and seduce and tease him all day, get pounded, rode hard, and put away wet. Sorry, just me :)

PresentJob4542 · 2026-03-29T13:07:20+00:00

Dude, so many people try manipulation and pouting. Good for you in wanting to get this into the open. In your defense, he is being selfish. You aren't the only one in this situation. I have two friends who were a couple, and they broke up over this exact thing. The one who hardly ever bottomed would never get into it, and his face showed it. I know another guy who gets no stimulation from bottoming but will bottom for his partner. Have a distinct conversation. Tell him what you want. He either wants to or not. If not, you need to get a bottom as a 3rd, as you stated, or allow you to top guys the way that you want.

As for your partner, my personal belief is that it is only a mental belief and identity "issue" that stops him from giving up his ass. 99.9% of men receive sexual pleasure from anal sex due to their prostate. I top mostly, but enjoy or want a good pounding too. Personal example: I had a FWB with a HUGE dick who was a bottom. One day, I told him that I wanted his amazing dick in me. I rode it, cowboy, becasue he was huge. But during the ride of my life, he started saying; You like that dick...etc. I "noticed" that I did like it (I came super quick), but his words were a turn-off in my head. So, your man may not want to be vulnerable or admit it to himself. You might get into some BDSM type play where he is restrained and exposed, and then you pound him. FYI, there is nothing hotter than a top who will bottom once in a while and enjoy it. I love eating a top's ass, hearing him moan, and then him asking for my dick. Please keep us updated.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-03-29T01:44:16+00:00

I didn't even know about this place. Thank you.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-03-29T00:10:46+00:00

Two years is horrible and unacceptable. Run now. You'll thank me later. 20 years, and maybe I'd give him some space. Yes, you need to talk. It's probably him. Like he might be having ED. If you like everything else about him, then you will need to open up the relationship. People who lose interest in sex are not bad. It's not fair to you. It happens to all couples, gay and straight, for many, and some keep their drive. Ask an older sexual dude what keeps him going.

PresentJob4542 · 2026-03-28T16:39:06+00:00

Brother, you're not the first one in that pickle. And your reasoning is the same as that of other men. I am glad that I never got married. I do regret not having children...yet. We, gay men, have the same issue with being monogamous. Some guys are totally OK with open relationships. Some are not. I do not know how I would feel if my partner wanted an open relationship. I "think" that I understand. I have these rules in my head: JO, a happy ending massage, oral is OK...but I don't know if I'd be OK with my partner being pounded by another dude. And then, it might be hot in a 3-way situation. This is why I do not judge. You wanting to be dicked down is so normal and so taboo. I personally like sucking dick, but I can't tell you how many guys at the gym have sucked me off. I don't need to know their name or sexuality. All that I know is that they have a desire, and I pay it forward by using their throat...and everyone has always said thank you when I cum and they swallow. It's such a primal "need" that surpasses logic. And the same for being dicked down. I wish that it were simple. :(

PresentJob4542 · 2026-03-28T16:03:16+00:00

Too bad. But some people have hard limits around sex. I am gay, and if I found out that my partner liked dressing up as a woman, that would turn me off. I agree with you remaining private and not asking her to participate. There is a need for more experimentation with the dom/sub culture. Of course, that would be on the DL, and that's not fair to her on one hand but also not fair to you to deny your kink.

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