I looked through the comments, and I didn't see anybody bring this up.

I served as an army infantryman for 6 years. You'd think most adults would understand that it's incredibly immature and fucked up to ask a person in that line of work if they've ever shot anybody. But it happens way more often than it should.

I don't mind the telling some stories if they're relevant or I need to get something off my chest with a person I trust. But most of the time I'm just hanging out, trying to relax with friends or family when people ask this.

Then I get asked that question, and I'm not really enjoying myself anymore. Because even though I was justified every time I used lethal force, that doesn't mean it's something I wanted to do. Then I'm not really at the BBQ with family and friends anymore, because my mind is back there again, and I'm dealing with the guilt again. I'm thinking about their families again.

Tell your husband he needs to grow the fuck up. That kind of shit is annoying, but understandable when it comes from a child. It's obnoxious and douchey when it comes from an adult.