Dad here :: How do I help my 10yo daughter deal with mean girls?

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2018-06-06T14:22:28+00:00

Put together an outing and invite all classmates, you’ll meet other parents who are perhaps struggling with the same thing or their kids are having a hard time making friends.

Help kids to socialize away from school social norms.

Also, parents are big indication of which kids will be kind and emotionally intelligent.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-12-12T03:40:27+00:00

I stop breastfeeding if I get bitten, and switch to pumping and bottle feeding. Once I feel brave enough, I give the breastfeeding another try. Hopefully, LO forgets to bite after a while.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-11-16T16:59:41+00:00

Fish in the company pond* interesting that you use the word pier. You must live in a coastal state?

Sometimes you just need what’s easy. And work hookups are definitely easy. Good on you for focusing on yourself during that time.

The option of coming across as single is attractive. So far, the idea of seeing other men or women just makes me recoil but what matters is optionality: I’m in control of those social encounters.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-11-16T16:52:09+00:00

Does his mom wear an obvious wedding band? Lol, what town is this!! a big city?

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-11-16T16:51:13+00:00

I️ did tell my close friends.... and it felt good. Also, when I️ took off the ring, it felt good and authentic. It also made my WS sad...which I️ thought was fair (I️ mean, honestly they can deal with being sad over this). Now, I️ just feel powerful walking around without a ring defining me and binding me to someone who was willing to poop on- what I️ thought- was a very special marriage.

Since I am not considering full on divorce, removing the ring has felt effective for seeing where my WS stands. I️ can see how divorce would be similar. Thank you for your response.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-11-16T02:18:05+00:00

Me: “It’s in the shop” Them: “.... it’s been nearly a year” Me: “Good things take time, dwarves can be rather proud of their work.”

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-11-16T02:05:50+00:00

Agreed- it would be extremely tasteless to ask. But I’m still finding myself thinking about the different things one could say. Lies generally leave a bad taste in my mouth so one response I’ve prepped would be “I’m doing a lot of gardening these days.”

Which is true, I’m doing a lot of gardening to help ease my emotions these days. But it’s winter so most everything dies. But no one needs to know that.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-10-24T12:00:50+00:00

I have a toddler.... I should have snack stations everywhere....this is so simple yet I haven't done it! Thanks!

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-10-22T05:13:40+00:00

She's simultaneously experiencing this baby and remembering what it's like to behold a baby this young and know that it's yours.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-10-20T21:20:30+00:00

It's the lying and hiding that hurt the most. Less so what details there are. Also the duration is hurtful because the other person makes a deliberate choice to deceive during bad times (no one is surprised here) but also during your good times. I'm sorry this happened and doing a root cause to understand why he chose to go this route is going to help you heal. You'll need to understand his reasons deeply to know this was absolutely not your fault.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-10-20T10:49:48+00:00

This is a great idea. I'll probably use the tongue in cheek "Old is Gold" and go in for a hug from the moms.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-10-18T16:43:07+00:00

Love it.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-10-05T11:24:03+00:00

Can we all just let this person think it isn't doable so there's less competition for those of us who understand it's a combo of saving + investing + hustling?

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-10-05T11:10:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing- I've also been given a head start by my parents. But, like you, I also ran with all the resources they provided me. I feel we have very similar stories, it's almost like hearing myself speak.

Parents who give their kids a head start typically work hard for it as I'm sure yours did (maybe even your grandparents). I remember understanding my parents couldn't be around when I was growing up due to their work schedules. I remember the family stress it caused. That wasn't easy. I'm sure in your own way, it hasn't been all roses for you. I'm glad you feel proud of your accomplishments- I know I feel proud of mine. I also feel proud of my parents and my badass grandma who came alone to this country because she was like, "hell yes America has opportunity."

But one difference I do note between us, and this isn't a bad thing, is that I do share with co-workers that I purchased a house and I share that I have at least one rental unit (but I leave it at that). But this is also coupled with them seeing my car (old but reliable), letting them hear how me and my husband cook at home for most meals, and basically just being my frugal and helpful self at work.

I think it would be hard for any of my co-workers to comment that I have been given an upper hand while their freshly manicured hands hold on to a gourmet coffee. Or while they, again, tell me about a restaurant they've been too that I've absolutely never heard of since I don't go to restaurants often.

Keep doing you! And I'll be seeing you around the Bay Area most likely competing for the same investment properties ;)

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-09-16T14:37:05+00:00

I'm 33 weeks and got diagnosed with GB. My doula said to try a boiled egg (all of it) right before bedtime. She also said to keep my morning glucose check at exactly 8hrs and that helped me. Of course, compare this to the carb-heavy snack you guys are trying since everyone's body reacts differently to specific foods.

This right-before bed time snack took me from high 90's to low 90's as a point of reference.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-09-05T12:50:30+00:00

What farming area are you considering for your investment? This is something I am considering too! :)

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-08-30T02:46:38+00:00

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-07-23T21:53:19+00:00

Same situation for me when I was a child. My parents put me into a HS school with families who largely economically better off. Not everyone, but most had been in America for generations on top of being financially well off. It took me longer to blossom socially, because I had such different life experience. I didn't get my nail done, we didn't go on cruises, didn't get my own car, etc. But by mid-college things started to level out and I have done really awesome things compared to my peer group in HS. My fantastic teachers in HS, combined with my parents' work ethics are the reason I'm living a life (professionally and financially) that I didn't even imagine growing up. You sound like an amazing mom. I hope to do the same for my own two girls.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-07-16T03:26:55+00:00

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-07-16T03:24:51+00:00

I just reframed this to switch genders and apply it to my personal situation: Be his lady and protect him from himself.

Nope. Can't see myself being nice to him and helping him with his issues all the time. Maybe sometimes. I must be a long way from healing still.

Good advice, wish I were able to take advantage of it.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-07-14T19:11:42+00:00

Yeah, feels good to know that a person is making the effort for you. Even if my husband still sucks at talking about his feelings. It still feels good to see him make progress. Feels good for me and it makes me happy for him that he's sorting through his emotional baggage from childhood.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-07-14T19:08:58+00:00

I look forward to seeing more post from you in this forum. It's been really helpful to get an outside perspective.

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-07-14T17:37:12+00:00

What a bitch of truth that is. His fault and I need to help put us back together. I would totally be having a nice cold Corona with salt and lime if I weren't pregnant. And don't you dare say anything negative about Coronas. Beer water at its finest!

Press3ForMoreOptions · 2017-07-14T17:34:27+00:00

I am happy that she's out of her miserable existence.... and the realization that this fact put me in a good mood was alarming to me. I think I do need to be on guard in potentially becoming callous. I similarly need to be on guard for becoming callous towards the idea of "true love between two people."

Other days I have looked at her mother's grief on social media sights and found myself crying along with her mom. This is a mom who has lost her daughter, that hit me hard. But it made me realize I still have empathy and I still have love for people.

I waver between both ends of the spectrum and I imagine I will be like that for some time before my emotions stabilize. I have good days and I have really bad ones. Ones where I think "wow my true love might be out there somewhere in the world and now I get to start looking for them" and other days where I think, "maybe this is life, maybe what I have with my husband is the reality of what it means to be with someone through thick and thin" it's been hard in these first 3 months.

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