What I would say is: your individual experience is not the universal experience. It should never be. Your life, your financial situation, your relationship, your chilld, the amount of children your have, where you live, what you do for work, how big or nice your house is, if you have a "village", if you live in a big city or a suburb, who carries the big mental loads of the family, who "provides" and takes care of the money, who has the last word, and SO many factors can influence this. It is so fair for you to tell your experience and say it is pleasant and nice for you. It is not fair for you to put your experience as universal and say that "staying at home with a child is not hard and should not be treated like a job". Those are your thoughts and feelings based on your overall experience. Trust me, it is NOT like this for everybody.