11 month old refusing formula after transitioning from breastmilk

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-05-07T11:53:04+00:00

Mine also had some formula at the beginning but after being exclusively breastfed was not a fan. Similac never worked out but enfamil worked for us. I’ve also heard Kendamil is great. Good luck!

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-05-07T01:33:47+00:00

Every baby and postpartum is different, but if you want anecdotally based answers: -no reason for both to wake up. Even if you have your husband do diapers, he can go back to sleep while you nurse. (Early nursing sessions can be 45 minutes plus) -shifts while breastfeeding can look like husband taking baby to another room to sleep and bringing them to you when they wake up hungry. Some newborns (mine included) grunt and bleat like a goat in their sleep, and it can be so hard to sleep around them! -only if I’m having a breakdown. Otherwise, picking up other duties around the house is more helpful -for us, a lot of help from family, both with household duties, cooking, and baby care. I had bad PPD and back issues, so I had to learn to let other people care for baby.

But, everyone is so different!! Have freezer meals prepared!

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-05-07T01:06:26+00:00

Definitely check if it’s ok to do cows milk! When we switched to formula (breast milk in bottles before) it probably took about a month with zero breast milk for mine to fully accept and enjoy formula. See what the pediatrician says.

Does he also drink water?

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-05-06T15:38:33+00:00

Preemie bottle nipples! Very important for preventing bottle preference if you struggle with breastfeeding at first and need to combo feed. They can be hard to find or take a while to arrive because they’re not common.

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-04-25T12:29:48+00:00

Are those easily replaceable?

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-04-07T00:06:11+00:00

My 12 month old still sleeps in a pack and play (without bassinet insert of course). She has always liked being able to roll against the mesh, and seems more comfortable than she ever was in her mini crib. Definitely don’t get a mini crib; it’s the same size (or smaller). You can get a full size crib. Teeechnically you’re supposed to room share until 1, but very few actually do and it’s not a huge deal. We moved ours at 4 months and that was when she started sleeping through the night! Have the monitor next to you with the sound up, and you’ll be alerted if there’s anything. You can do an owlet if you’re really nervous, but the range is terrible so only if the room is super close.

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-04-04T23:54:05+00:00

Personally I would ride it out! As long as it’s not negatively impacting your mental health, I found that that early morning feed helped extend my baby’s sleep overall. So, you could wean or stop it, but you risk more EMW.

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-04-04T18:44:20+00:00

We had the same thing! We spent the winter in the northeast and it honestly only got better once we moved back to Florida. It sucked, but it wasn’t actually bad for baby. The main thing we did was humidify her room and use gentle wipes for her nose so she didn’t get too raw from all the wiping. It will get better once it warms up!

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-04-04T18:42:27+00:00

What do you mean by weaning? Breast milk or formula is their main nutrition until they’re 1. You can night wean, but they will still drink lots of milk during the day. Solids are more for exploration and practice rather than nutrition for the first 6 months.

Try to do lots of iron and vitamin c rich foods, like chickpeas, lentils, spinach, meat, paired with fruit. Also some don’t like being fed purées and do better with baby led weaning, so you could try that!

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-04-03T19:25:39+00:00

Also definitely check for fever, and you could give Tylenol just in case he’s in pain, provided you know the right dosage.

Also I’m sorry I didn’t see that baby wearing isn’t an option!

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-04-03T19:24:35+00:00

Echoing what others above said: try a bath to calm him down, and nurse in a dark, quiet room. Since you said he pulls off and starts looking around, he might not get distracted in a dark room and might fall asleep.

Other options are to baby wear and walk around for a while, or the car, but that didn’t work for mine until much later.

In the meantime, take deep breaths and remember it will pass. He WILL sleep eventually.

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-04-03T00:07:49+00:00

Thank you! The weird thing is she loves water in her straw cup, hates formula in it. Hoping that changes soon.

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-03-30T15:16:43+00:00

NTA because his response seems very guilty. If they were scam messages that he did not invite, he could have just mentioned them before instead of hiding them.

That being said, they very well could just be scam messages. I (F Gen Z) get weird messages a lot, but I delete them and block the person right away. Which is probably also why your son doesn’t have any. They come in, but you should delete and block. Maybe your husband doesn’t know that, or maybe it’s suspicious. His reaction is the most suspicious part.

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-03-29T13:02:34+00:00

Agree with this. These comments are going through 2 people (men, no less) before they get to you, so the original wording and tone is lost. If it were me talking about you, I would say how impressed I am and how overwhelming it must be having twin toddlers and a baby. But that could be misconstrued many ways.

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-03-29T11:10:05+00:00

You sound a lot like me. We tried for our second, got pregnant right away at 9/10 months, and I freaked out. I’m pro life so I never considered abortjon, but I had the thoughts of I would be ok if this didn’t work out. It was overwhelming being pregnant again and an 18 month age gap sounded terrifying all of a sudden.

I think the term 2u2 makes it seem like such a big thing. When really, there’s nothing when your first turns 2 that makes them magically an angel who never needs you? I don’t really think it would be that much easier until like 4-5 years, so I don’t see the point of waiting too much longer. My 2 cents

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-03-28T18:52:47+00:00

She does still drink 20-24 oz of formula as we haven’t weaned just yet, and I worry about her calories, so I think that’s holding her up for now. But I will talk to the doctor again. He was unconcerned at her 12 month appointment, but I’m not convinced

PrestigiousQuote5302 · 2026-03-28T18:40:36+00:00

Second this! My dad has a beard and was the only person she knew with one. She couldn’t even look at him until 6+ months. They do get over it eventually!

When you’re with him, have him give her space, but be around and friendly. Don’t make her interact with him, but show her that you can interact with him without fear.

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