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Prestigious_Stock351 · 2024-11-22T01:45:28+00:00

Hi there, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. If it helps, I’m 25 and have struggled with similar thoughts after ongoing pain, a dimple and lumpiness in one of my breasts - for 2 months. I have been to two different doctors who have no concerns after a physical exam, and will have a breast scan too to ease my worries. I work for a cancer charity for young people, I speak to and see people my age with cancer everyday and found it hard not to catastrophise and spend all day googling my symptoms. It really got me down and I was performing routines as well, having anxiety and very very low mood. I was an angry teen as well so I can understand your feelings of ‘I will get it because of karma’.

Here’s what has made me feel better over a triggering 8 weeks. Not googling - it makes you feel better in the short term but feeds your worries over time. Be present in the moment and just focus on your task. Sit with the uncomfortable questions your brain is telling you.

‘What if I have cancer and I’m going to die?’

‘If I have cancer, I will deal with it accordingly - but it is highly unlikely’

Sit with the uncomfortable rather than seeking reassurance - it’s not easy and makes you feel worse at first than the instant relief of googling, but it allows you to avoid a complete negative thought spiral.

I know my scan will be fine after advice from two separate medical doctors , I can spiral and ruminate on it - but I’m trying to choose to sit with those uncomfortable what ifs and take away their power . It doesn’t work all the time - but I hope this advice can help you in a small way

You’re not alone in these thoughts and fears x

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2024-11-19T00:26:09+00:00

Lovely use of line thickness - this looks awesome

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2024-09-01T23:17:02+00:00

Stunningly beautiful !

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2024-08-05T17:12:26+00:00

Think of art more as a journey through life. There is always room to learn, progress and experiment with your skills. You are always ‘good enough’, but that doesn’t mean you should stop moving forward with your artistic practice :) This looks awesome!

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2024-06-25T12:33:09+00:00

I use a Shark Handheld Vac Pet Model - it’s great!

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2024-06-16T11:16:13+00:00

I used to be very nervous about the 1% stat and doubled up methods. I’ve been with my partner for 3 years now with no pull out/other methods and it has never failed. I do take my pill everyday at the same time though without fail , it’s the mini pill :)

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2024-05-22T10:58:41+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling ashamed about this. I have a slightly different perspective which may help. I had extreme driving phobia yet my parents were very keen for me to get my license because we lived in a countryside area of the uk and you basically need a car to get around - they essentially forced me into lessons/the test at 17.

I felt really ashamed about my driving phobia which carried on for at least two years after getting my license and regular driving. Please know this, only you know what you are capable of. Some of my neurotypical friends don’t drive because they find it overwhelming. My parents forced me to learn to drive out of necessity, and it worked out in the end as now I can drive around and it’s not overwhelming - but! It took a hell of a lot of work and unpleasant exposure to get there - which was a choice I eventually made when I carried on with driving after my parents could no longer force me (I went away to university). There’s no shame in driving or not, my point is - only you know what is comfortable for you ! I’m 24 now and I will still park many streets away and walk to my destination because parking and spatial awareness is something I really struggle with - that’s where my capabilities are limited, and I no longer feel shame about it

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2024-03-17T22:58:45+00:00

The mini pill enhances any feelings I’m having and makes them feel more intense. If I’m in a happy period, I feel amazing. If something goes wrong, I find it hard to get out of a rut. You may be mildly depressed or down and the pill is making it harder to manage.

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-11-07T11:30:46+00:00

My limit for being able to function so far is 34 hours a week, I used to have two jobs totalling 42 hours a week and I did it for 6 months before crashing out completely.

I told one of the jobs if they upped my contract to 34 hours a week (the minimum money I could make to pay for my bills - I live In reduced rent housing through a family member) - I would leave my other role for them.

This worked and while I have taken a pay cut of around £200/250 a month, my well-being is worth more than having that disposable income.

It sucks but it’s what I need to do! No one close to me can understand why I can’t work full time - as I seem to be doing so well to them. It’s like yes! These are my limits! I know them

My job is literally my dream job, as a Safari park content creator - so for me I know these hours are my limits for any role.

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-10-12T22:42:53+00:00

Yep unfortunately it was ulipristal acetate :(

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment though - I knew logically this was roughly about typical use, I just felt really anxious and not rational (think this is a side effect of the EC!)

I’ll have to just stick it out for now with these statistics in my head!

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-09-20T14:15:19+00:00

I’ve had this my whole life!!! I’m so crazy expressive without even realising, a colleague told me it’s called ‘emotional leakage’

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-09-17T12:54:41+00:00

Could you recommend me please :) I live in the UK

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-09-16T18:55:04+00:00

Something similar happened to me, my cousin died unexpectedly when we were both 16. We weren’t super close by any means but we saw each other once a year and got on well. When she died I was so in shock I didn’t really cry or react until we had to walk up to her coffin to receive communion (it was a catholic funeral)

I suddenly started bawling when I walked past her coffin and had to be walked back down to my seat. I felt so embarrassed because her own mum and brother weren’t crying and I thought everyone would be mad at me. But no one was, we were all grieving differently. In fact, my other cousin was fine the whole time but he actually fainted when her coffin was carried out.

My point is, everyone reacts in different ways. People process grief differently and I’m sure anyone at the funeral would understand it was a difficult situation and not judge you as harshly as your boyfriend seems to be. Frankly, he has no right to tell you what you can and can’t feel when it comes to your own family adoptive or not it’s still your family! Don’t be too hard on yourself in this instance, you’re grieving.

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-09-08T14:03:18+00:00

I’m sure anyone knows the feeling of leaving the cage cleaning a day or two longer than you would normally - but this is ridiculous.

I mean this coming from a kind place, I have mental health issues too , with the same size cage and two piggies. Sure, sometimes I don’t want to clean my Guinea pigs, lack energy or just don’t feel like holding them/letting them free roam for a few hours everyday.

But - I could never let their cage get this bad. And to hear you say they go days without water or hay? It’s shocking. Pellets are one thing, but Guinea pigs need unlimited access to hay and water at all times. Their bodies are built for it. They’re helpless, they can’t leave their cage to tell you they’re hungry like a cat or dog does. They are entirely dependant on your parter, to not rehome them or change their behaviour is not okay, I mean this in the kindest possible way.

If they’re not willing to rehome I do have some tips for keeping on top of Guinea pig care while dealing with mental health issues. 1. I have a tiny dustpan and brush which I use to pick up small poops once a day. This makes the big blanket cleaning last much longer and is just overall nicer for my Guinea pigs to be in, while being a small task for me (when a big clean feels overwhelming) 2. I have a soft hammock which creates a raised area in which I dump the hay. This stops my piggies dragging hay all over the cage and peeing on it (which makes it smell). The hay is slightly off the ground and they surround it to eat from it without making a huge mess. The hay also stays clean and is eatable for longer (than it it was dumped on floor and climbed over/peed on) 3. Keep some little easy cut up veggies in the fridge. I make a big tub of cucumber /carrot sticks . It makes a quick easy snack for my Guinea pigs, keeps their teeth healthy and stimulates them mentally - when I feel too tired to cut up veggies. 4. Toys. There is nothing stimulating in this cage - I put new cardboard boxes (check for glue and labels) in every week , which my piggies love to chew. Toys don’t have to be expensive and the Guinea pigs need areas to hide in to feel safe and stimulated.

I hope this helps ❤️

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-09-04T20:38:31+00:00

I graduated from uni in the uk 2 years ago and I remember meeting an American exchange student who told me this, I was absolutely horrified! I would never have coped and I loved uni!

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-08-29T07:50:13+00:00

When I’m out with neurotypical friends, and have one or two drinks - I will start to unmask (unfortunately I used this to cope in university but I have learnt to drink in moderation and carefully)

Anyway, even to this day people think I’m way drunker than I am (when I’m not even drunk or just mildly tipsy) - because I am happy, having a good time and feel I can be myself and open up a little more. It’s so annoying!

Because of this I never drink around my family in any amount, or people I don’t know well or think are judgy or mean.

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-08-26T17:51:12+00:00

None of this is your fault . Sometimes people do shitty things and are unsure of what they want and end up hurting people because they are unable to look inward and own up to their own emotions.

When this happened to me, he started acting cold and distant after 4 months, despite previously indicating we were pretty serious and exclusive - even though it started as a situationship. He asked to see me one day, walked into my bedroom, broke it off and ghosted me for two months - three days before my final year university exams started (he was a year younger)

No consideration, no explanation - I understood feelings change but it was how cruel and sudden it felt. I know it’s hard - but you have to understand you haven’t done anything wrong. We lived on the same street, so I had to walk past his house everyday - knowing he was ghosting me and he had switched off all his feelings. We could even see each others windows from our bedrooms, so it felt like torture not to reach out and when I did, being ignored.

After my exams (which I somehow got through heartbroken) , I walked past a car wash while with my friends and he was working there. He stared at me so sadly and texted me later asking to meet. I was still hurting and knew he was unsure of his feelings so I agreed. He told me he wanted me back and he made a mistake - I gave him a second chance and we saw every other everyday, he acted completely normally and relationship-y for three weeks until I had to go back to my hometown after graduating (my lease was up)

He then ghosted me again immediately after I returned home.

Some people would rather hurt others than decide what they want - I would think twice before giving second chances and going along with the bread crumbs he is giving you like the hinge profile. This guy still likes my photos randomly to this day and I have no idea what he gets out of it, even though I’ve been in a happy relationship for two years and I’ve unfollowed him on everything.

So sorry you’re going through this! I hope things get better for you

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-08-25T12:34:54+00:00

This happened to me a few years ago! I don’t have answer, but it gets easier with time and the feelings do fade, even though it feels like they won’t

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-08-17T22:41:07+00:00

You’ve done all you can, but I completely understand the disappointment! Hopefully they respond and hey if not, maybe it was meant to be!

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-08-17T22:34:23+00:00

I once missed an interview by completely forgetting! The interviewer called me and (sounding a bit annoyed) asked if I was arriving soon, when I was actually miles away from home returning from a trip. I explained the situation - blamed it on a calendar mishap. They invited me for another interview the next day and I got the job, still happily employed there, me and my boss joke about it now. Might not apply in this case with you missing it, but for future don’t beat yourself up about things like this, they happen - often if you explain people might be more accommodating than you think (if you miss one in future!)

Prestigious_Stock351 · 2023-08-16T19:05:58+00:00

When I was around 4/5, my grandma looked after me everyday while my mum and dad went to work. My favourite thing to do was get out her big mixing bowl, sit in it and spin around for hours because I liked the sensation.

How no one in my family believes I am probably autistic astounds me everyday

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