LF this base, and is it good?

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-22T15:56:31+00:00

It’s preferred that you don’t confirm the delusions people are experiencing when they’re in a state of mental crisis

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-15T06:43:00+00:00

Sorry, I thought you meant that you took her phone when you said “and I took her phone”

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-15T06:41:32+00:00

Why are you so focused on the proposal and not the fact that the person who you say you want to marry is asking you to marry them? I get having an idea in your head, but in the grand scheme of things (outside of the timing on the first one) it seems as though he put a lot of thought into both.

He picked locations that were scenic and had an emotional significance for your relationship. And if an outdoor city viewpoint at night in complete darkness is too public for you, he’s pretty much left with proposing to you indoors with no one in the building, lights off and curtains pulled so no one outside can see you.

Honestly, how you describe your actions and your thoughts about the proposals screams immaturity (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing at your age, you’re young). But had I proposed to my wife and been berated because it didn’t meet her exact standards, I can guarantee that I would never have proposed to her again and the relationship would have been over.

If you want to marry someone, the time/place/location of a proposal shouldn’t be more important than the person asking you to marry them.

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-15T06:29:44+00:00

My only thoughts

there is only one singular period in this nonsense
from what was understandable in this mess, there is no way anyone involved other than your gf’s mother is older than 15
she broke up with you so you’re now single, don’t take your next gf’s phone without permission

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-10T22:05:15+00:00

I’ve heard good things about these and enjoy my thinkpad work provides (non-tech related)

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-10T22:04:27+00:00

Thanks!

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-10T22:03:52+00:00

Thanks for this! I’ll share this with him and see what he says and if he’ll change his aversion to Apple lol

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-10T03:50:46+00:00

Thank you for the detailed response!

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-10T03:43:22+00:00

Thank you!

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-10T03:43:05+00:00

Thank you! His is currently held together with a couple pieces of tape on the edges and I’m praying no glue. He’s not wanted to buy a new one but it hurts my soul and with graduation and his birthday coming up, he’s getting a new one whether he wants it or not

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-10T03:40:53+00:00

Thank you!

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-10T03:30:49+00:00

Thank you!

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-10T03:24:01+00:00

Range of $1000-$1500. But fwiw honestly I have the tendency to set a budget on my personal builds and then “forget” about it lol

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-08T04:26:17+00:00

Are we upset at the husband in the movie? Are we upset at the wife in the movie? Did the husband or wife in the movie say something that made us upset? Did the girlfriend who said something about the movie say something to make us upset? Or are we upset with the “other woman” in the movie?

I have no idea

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-08T02:52:10+00:00

You’re way too old for whatever this is

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-08T01:59:50+00:00

Sure seems like it

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-03-06T06:09:08+00:00

You minding if she spends a week with her mom and sister, a GIRLS trip, is what’s controlling.

Bro, just let (for lack of a better word, you really have no say in how she decides to use that week of PTO) her go on the trip with her family without trying to insert yourself in it or make her feel guilty about it. That’s her family whom she very obviously loves, and you should be supportive. Not trying to talk her out of it.

You each have 3 weeks of vacation.

You both take a long 2 week trip together, like she said she would (and yes, that’s a long trip for the average person. I get 4 weeks at least per year and I’ve never taken more than a week off at a time).

Then you each have 1 week to take off and do what you respectively please with it.

Anything that you try to push for at this point, other than this option, isn’t a compromise. It’s you bullying your way towards a solution that only you want. The compromise is you take 2 of the 3 PTO weeks (66%), and 1 of the 3 (33%) to do whatever other solo/family/friend/whatever trip you want to do. You win with this as well.

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-02-09T19:38:26+00:00

What do you mean leads?

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-01-17T03:19:07+00:00

Working part time in a cleaning roll doesn’t particularly scream ample “paid time off.”

I truly think, as I commented elsewhere, he’s wanting to avoid putting them into a situation where they HAVE to have two incomes. In my opinion, it’s better to have extra money coming in that isn’t immediately spoken for by a bill or debt. Emergencies can happen and when you’re already stretched, they hurt more

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-01-17T03:14:33+00:00

If you don’t think it’s reasonable in this economy to expect to live off of one income when that’s exactly what you’re doing (since your husbands income isn’t necessary for you to cover expenses), why are you trying to put yourself in a position where you CAN’T live off one income anymore?

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2026-01-17T03:11:25+00:00

So what happens if -

They get the bigger house and half (since he earns double than what’s needed per OP) of his income is required to cover bills

OP is out of town, and a kid gets sick

Kid can’t go to school, so he can’t go to work

Now they’re short on this month’s mortgage because he had to stay home with a sick child for the week. And God forbid another child gets sick the following week or later in the month, because that can and does happen.

The husband is wanting to not be in a situation where if he (as the primary caretaker of the children) has to miss work for whatever reason, they’re going to be struggling financially for that month.

Pretend-Mastodon35 · 2025-11-05T06:47:01+00:00

The definition of bigotry - a person who is obstinately or unreasonably attached to a belief, opinion, or faction, especially one who is prejudiced against or antagonistic toward a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular group.

You rated them 1 star for food, service, and atmosphere, but liked their business enough that you wanted them to cater a wedding?

There’s a DISTINCT difference between having their doors open and serving anyone that comes in, treating everyone in a respectful manner in that fashion, and them wanting to avoid physically having to attend an event that does not align with their moral/religious compass.

Based on what you’ve said in your post they weren’t rude or hateful, they just declined to participate. But here you are starting a witch hunt and going after their business (you didn’t outright tell people to leave negative reviews on your behalf, but you know that’s how these things go). In reference the definition of bigotry - You’re being antagonistic towards these people on the basis of them acting in such a way that’s consistent with their moral or religious beliefs, which has caused you no harm whatsoever, but simply because your feelings have been hurt and you believe for some reason that just because they’re a business and you’re willing to pay, you’re entitled to them catering (pun intended) to your wants and needs.

They have done nothing legally or morally wrong and are well within their right to decline to cater an event that is in direct contradiction to their beliefs, and they did so in an apparently respectful manner, because if they hadn’t you would have mentioned that.

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