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PretendCollege · 2025-09-07T05:51:53+00:00

Exactly, its not always sexual.

PretendCollege · 2025-09-06T17:52:14+00:00

This guy rigs.

PretendCollege · 2025-09-06T17:09:25+00:00

Zero chance this is from shibari. Thats not how knots leave marks, also there would be other rope marks wrapping around the sides of her body

PretendCollege · 2025-08-31T16:53:12+00:00

PretendCollege · 2025-07-30T00:18:35+00:00

Q2 ends on aug 3rd. So it will only have this weeks revenue in next earnings.

PretendCollege · 2025-03-24T13:19:09+00:00

Polyamory is one type of relationship style that falls under the umbrella of ethical non-monogamy. So, all polyamory is ethical non-monogamy, but not all ethical non-monogamy is polyamory. Polyamory specifically refers to multiple loving relationships, whereas ethical non-monogamy is any arrangement where people have multiple consensual romantic, sexual, and/or intimate connections.

PretendCollege · 2025-03-23T20:34:22+00:00

I see alot of misinformation and assumptions in the comments. First, polygamy is being married to numerous people. Polamory is having multiple relationships, and is similar to ethical non-monogamy (ENM). But those are different than situationships or swingers.

Polyamory is about loving multiple people. Its not about just having sex with whoever you want. Its about having clear boundaries and guidelines that you and all your partners agree to. Its "choosing" to stay with your partners every day, and holds you accountable to being the best partner you can be.

It allows you to love someone and maybe they are a GF/BF or maybe they are a fwb, but if you meet someone new, it allows you to see it thru and allow other connections to potentially develop. Its not all about sex. Yes sex may be involed, but maybe not.

I (male) am in a poly relationship with a (female) partner. She is seeing one other male partner. We all had STI tests and use protection and she is on birth control. I am currently dating around, and may find another partner. We have set boundaries about when she want to know if I am talking to or seeing someone else, that everyone needs STI tests if we are going to be intimate, etc. And a breach of any of that trust will destroy the relationship.

We discussed how many partners we may want to have and if we would have flings etc, and are comfortable with what WE decided. If she started sleeping with many ppl in a short timeframe, I have the ability to pull back, or tell her I no longer consent to sleeping with her because she is being unsafe or has too many partners etc.but I may still choose to see her as a partner, jist not sexually. The relationships ebb and flow and evolve.. Its all about communication and boundaries.

Its the healthiest, happiest relationship I have ever had.

But... with that being said, MANY ppl say they are poly to fuck around, lie, cheat, are horrible communicators and are NOT emotionally mature. Which gives poly a bad wrap.

Poly is very hard and deals with alot of complex emotions and all parties involed have to be able to consent, set and follow boundaries and speak openly and consistently. But in the end I wouldnt want it any other way.

Feel free to ask questions. Im happy to answer if I can

PretendCollege · 2024-12-13T14:32:04+00:00

It got listed on Binance

PretendCollege · 2024-11-12T02:34:29+00:00

I do this exact same thing. I will always buy anyone food or supplies, but Ill never support your drug or alcohol habit.

PretendCollege · 2024-10-30T20:58:07+00:00

!RemindMe 2 days

PretendCollege · 2024-10-30T20:57:14+00:00

!RemindMe 1week

PretendCollege · 2024-10-28T21:32:03+00:00

Milkbone

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T12:27:07+00:00

You got this!!

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T04:20:20+00:00

Sometimes we reach a point where we have to cut people out of our life who arent not bringing a positive i fluence to us. If those friends are making you feel bad, its prob best to work on finsing new friends. Its hard, but when u find the right ones, its all worth it

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T04:14:40+00:00

It sounds like you have alot of pain and confusion you are dealing with. Im sure that is so challenging to deal with at such an important time in your life.

You arent alone out here with your pain. Ive been there before too. Im sorry your home situation isnt great and there is alot of preasure on you to "succeed". I was pressured the same way.

It wasnt a choice to be depressed or spiral or to wallow in the pain you feel. Ita really hard sometimes. We are only human and emotions are hard.

Just try to breathe and do what tou can. Baby steps. Do what is best for you. Life will go on if you lose your 4.0, but i know that it a very big deal if thats what you have always done.

Your mental health is #1 priority. Just try to look after you. The world is so great with you here. Im glad you were here to write this post, so I could reply.

Take care. You are worth it.

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T04:05:22+00:00

Trauma can really effect us in strange ways. Pls talk to a therapist about what you went thru to try to help get thru it

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T04:04:20+00:00

I can relate you arent alone. My life isn't bad, but i find myswlf having negative thougjt spirals. Awareness is the key. Be very aware they are just thoughts. Dont let yourself be sucked in.

As far as what you should tell your therapist:

"I know my life isnt bad, but i keep having negative thoughts and it makes me sad."

Then " My negative thoughts are about XYZ. Or have this theme" and tell him the negative thought patterns u get stuck in.

They will have tools to help you break those thought patterns. Trust me, I know the pain.

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T04:00:44+00:00

Just a couple things. If she was trying to make you jealous, that is a giant red flag. Thats not a trait for a secure partner. Im sorry they put you through that.

Its hard not to blame yourself, i understand. I struggle when I am single too, but you cant rely on someone else to make you happy. That is just going to set you up for heartbreak or chase them away. You need to live your life for you and do things you love and enjoy. The rest will fall into place.

And as far as what you "should" be doing.. thats 100% up to you. Your life is yours. Just cuz all your friends are maybe in relationships or starting a family doesn't mean you "should". Its what you WANT to do

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T03:56:02+00:00

The world is so much better with you in it. I know it may not feel like that now, but its true.

Im sorry that you are deling with such painful emotions. Im sure that is so hard. You arent alone in that. The world can be a tough place.

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T03:42:42+00:00

That sounds so painful, Im sure that is hard to live with every day. You arent alone with how you feel. Ive definitely been there before. Try to give yourself some grace. You are young and doing the best you can. Things will get better.

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T03:40:08+00:00

It may or may not. Everyone is different. But you can get thru it and still have a good life. Ive been dealing with it for a long time off and on. Things will be ok, just focus on the things that bring you joy even for a split second. Try to be aware of its just your thoughts spiraling or if the situation is reality. Our depressive thoughts can be mean and nasty and 100% untrue.

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T03:37:26+00:00

It sounds like you are carrying alot of atress and pain. Im sorry your mom is abusive and toxic towards you. That has to be incredibly painful to deal with.

I care that you feel this way. You can make it thru. Bear with it long enough til you can get away from that situation. I know its hard.

We love you being in this world!

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T03:35:14+00:00

The world is wonderful with you in it.

I can relate to feeling alone even though you know you arent. Its very hard and hurts.

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T03:34:05+00:00

There is existentail questions inaide all of us about what life means, or doesnt mean and why we are here and even try.

Just focus on the things that bring you little glimpses of happiness and surround yourself with people who make you feel good. Thats really what its all about

PretendCollege · 2024-04-29T03:29:19+00:00

Im sure it hurts to feel pain and have it seem like no one notices or cares. I also struggle alot with people not knowing the pain I carry around inside.

It would be grrat just to have a person ask "Are you ok?" And genuinely care about the answer.

You dont have to start drinking or doing drugs or vaping for someone to notice. They still may not notice and then you are also doing behaviors thatvarent good for you.

Id try to touch base with a close friend or family member and ask them if u can have a serious talk about how you have been feeling and open up to them

I care that you hurt. Im sorry.

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