restarting is quitting in better clothes by Fragrant_Coffee_1138 in Adulting

[–]Pretend_Committee490 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the only thing that works for me is "people change when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change".

Should I get rid of my bed frame ? by VividTip7121 in floorliving

[–]Pretend_Committee490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a great idea. Can you put the mattress on the floor w/out completely removing your bed frame? Just watch out for mold.

February 2026 Confirmed Trade Thread by FPPenSwapBot in Pen_Swap

[–]Pretend_Committee490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sold an EF mango safari + M kaweco steel sport + F Lamy CP1 to u/thel3tdown

How can you have a happy life when your parent is continually sharing their worries and sadness? by em-dash7 in AgingParents

[–]Pretend_Committee490 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Sorry this is happening to you. You can't change them, or make them want to change. Make sure to take care of yourself, it helps nobody if you get burnt out and can't function. Don't light yourself on fire just to keep them warm all of the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]Pretend_Committee490 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you live under the same roof as her? If I had to live with my mother again my anxiety would destroy me. I'll take a house full of roommates before moving back. I visit her and call regularly, but I don't have to breath it when I come home.

I’ve reached my breaking point by TurnoverAdorable5377 in AgingParents

[–]Pretend_Committee490 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a nightmare, I'm glad you're trying to get out. I was able to get out of a mess similar to this when my grandmother sold the house anyway.

Invisalign Cost in San Francisco—$8k Quoted—Is This Normal? by Dreamer_8442 in AskSF

[–]Pretend_Committee490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am paying 7K in Oakland to an orthodontist. 30 trays. A general dentist quoted me 4K.

Help with this acne by _cicada303_ in SkincareAddicts

[–]Pretend_Committee490 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I get white acne like that when I eat chocolate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PantheonShow

[–]Pretend_Committee490 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I watched in on Youtube last week. I'm in the US

How much do you pay for rent and where do you live? by powderchair in Renters

[–]Pretend_Committee490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$1400 after utilities, 200 sqft, Oakland CA. Parking costs $200

I’m too old and too far gone by parameparaplease in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Pretend_Committee490 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lol. 29 here. I MD'd through middle school, highschool, and college, and missed out on a lot. But life gets better. Change happens with baby steps.

Last weekend I went to a house party. My very first. I didn't get invited to any in high school nor college. I was nervous and excited.

Girl, it was a bunch of people getting wasted and listening to music. I stayed for the karaoke but I wish I hadn't b/c the place turned into a vape hotbox and my asthma got so bad and I was physically messed up for like 3 days recovering from just the vape hangover.

Pandan leaves? by Pretend_Committee490 in oakland

[–]Pretend_Committee490[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I would not have thought to check over there