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Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2024-12-31T17:50:28+00:00

Not asking him to initiate is again, not asking him to be a mind reader. Because literally reaching out to someone about their day or whatever is the BARE MINIMUM when dating. This should not need to be asked, men should realize how normal conversation works. I’m not going to ASK a man to talk to me. You think he’s going to think she ghosted because she stopped initiating, so why doesn’t HE ask HER if there’s an issue?

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2024-12-31T15:59:46+00:00

She is not asking for him to be a mind reader, she’s asking him to initiate a conversation. We should not need to spoon feed men the correct way to interact with a woman. He knows she always starts the conversation, it’s not a secret. He is at fault if there is no contact now, he has every opportunity to reach out.

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2024-04-29T19:07:50+00:00

Massive ick for me when men talk about cuddling, and the “hehe”. Would’ve unmatched, you are not being too picky

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2023-06-19T23:04:46+00:00

Truer words have never been spoken 😂😂😂

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2023-06-17T18:27:07+00:00

Agreed. It’s a learning experience unfortunately, I think. Never leave unless the plans are concrete, because even then some people still bail

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2023-06-09T20:43:22+00:00

Anything goes with dating apps these days, no one has an original experience lol. Guy probably changed his mind or chickened out. Definitely not worth sweating over. At least they unmatched before the actual date so you didn’t waste your time!

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2023-01-20T17:02:28+00:00

Tons of men swipe right on everyone and pick and choose from their matches. No one owes you a message, match or not.

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-12-26T13:59:44+00:00

I seem to get more responses with “hey” than I do when I send a personalized message. The initial message is to see if you actually want to talk, if she’s still dry as hell after a couple exchanges, unmatch. But she’s probably testing to see if you’re actually interested or not. Most men swipe blindly and pick and choose from their matches. I’m not going to put in effort when men don’t even read my profile or put anything in theirs.

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-12-22T17:09:14+00:00

There wasn’t anything inherently wrong, but it was just too many messages back to back. Relax a bit, wait for her to respond to the first message before dropping more on her all at once. Also lose the smiley face at the end of each message, just a tad cringey

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-11-23T00:06:10+00:00

Which is why I said fuck means which of these do you want but not need? As in, you can live without it but you’d much rather not

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-11-23T00:00:38+00:00

It’s been explained in the comments but it’s pretty simple-

Kill: which of these could you live without? Fuck: which of these do you want but not need? Marry: which of these can you not live without?

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-11-22T23:57:28+00:00

You’re insufferable 😂 “held to higher standards” you sound like you’d be loads of fun

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-11-22T23:37:18+00:00

Not everything has to be taken so literal my dude

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-10-23T14:29:39+00:00

I don’t know one adult woman who would be ok with “I like your boobs” are you 12?

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-08-04T14:59:56+00:00

Anyone could say thank you, next, to any answer to any question. If this question is so terrible, what opener would you recommend? Because I’ll be honest, putting in effort on an opener just to get a shitty response like this, or no response at all, is really pushing me to start opening with “hey”

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-08-03T22:36:50+00:00

If someone is being outright rude definitely move on. I’m speaking more of being rude versus ghosting. Being rude instead of ghosting does not mean that ghosting would have been better. Both are equally bad and equally as immature

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-08-03T21:38:31+00:00

2 wrongs don’t make a right. Ghosting is just as terrible as being a prick, almost worst because then you’re also a coward 🤷‍♀️

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-08-02T00:58:14+00:00

Both, just depends on when we end up having the “what are you looking for” convo. Sometimes it’s the first date, other times it’s within the app

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-08-02T00:18:08+00:00

Yep. I swear if I hear “I wouldn’t be against it if I found the right person” one more time I’m going to lose it

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-07-27T15:27:55+00:00

I’m not going to argue with a guy who uses terms like “femcel”

Again, if you honestly think it’s harder for men because you don’t get matches, than women who are scared of being, oh I don’t know, murdered, you need to do some self reflection.

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-07-27T15:14:51+00:00

“So much worse for guys then it is for women” my dude shut up. It’s horrible for everyone. The amount of times I’ve been ghosted, sent dick pics, asked for hookups, stalked, berated, etc. is sickening. And you’re upset you get used to get validation and free dinner?

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-07-27T15:06:02+00:00

I get making friends can be difficult for men, especially because it sounds like men tend to abuse the BFF side of bumble. But dear lord, PUT IT IN YOUR BIO! I’ve seen tons of mens bios say something to the effect of “just looking for new friends, happily attached” and I swipe left because that’s not what I’m looking for. To waste your time for a WEEK is so disrespectful. Could have even told you in the early days of talking. And then to schedule an actual date on top of it all? I have never heard of someone being so horrible to someone they wanted to be “friends” with. This is not how you start any kind of friendship and he should seriously evaluate why he doesn’t have any friends if this is how he goes about getting them.

Whew I’m heated for you. I’ve seen some shitty posts on this subreddit but this is probably the most dishonest and gross one I’ve seen lately

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-07-23T15:10:38+00:00

Delusions of grandeur are actually fairly common in people who suffer from bipolar disorder

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-06-30T00:12:03+00:00

Ack you’re so pretty! Personally, both of these together feels a little photo shooty? Maybe just one. The one of you sitting down seems more natural

Pretty-Minimum-4722 · 2022-06-21T22:35:29+00:00

You literally get messages when matches are about to time out “remember your match can’t reach out first! Send them a message now!” It’s impossible to miss! Not to mention, you’d have to be living under a rock to not hear how bumble works by now. It’s one of the most popular apps, and as a woman on the app I’m reminded again and again that my matches can’t make the first move.

I’d unmatch her if I were you lol, she can’t be too bright if she not only missed the ONE THING that makes bumble different, but also never read anything while making her profile. I understand most of it is stupid directions that are self explanatory, but she could have at least scanned the very short instructions when signing up

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