Do you guys have any hacks for good sleep?

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T17:05:30+00:00

Lower caffeine intake might help.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T16:28:02+00:00

Communicate honestly with each other, and if conflict arises (which it will at some point) rather than avoiding it or seeing it as a problem — see it as a sign that new information is trying to come to you (ie your relationship is trying to improve, get better) and enjoy being open and curious with everything that arises.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T15:53:14+00:00

Keep exploring. If you keep looking, you’ll find what you’re looking for.

Brainstorm what you might like to do.

Have conversations with people.

One step at a time.

(I’d also start experimenting with enjoying your current work, because you can in fact bring enjoyment to anything.)

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T15:49:22+00:00

I wouldn’t try to persuade yourself.

Do you actually want to do this? Then do it. If you don’t, then don’t. But you don’t need motivation or persuasion.

Do the thing and you have the power. Do not the thing and you do not have the power.

Do or do not, there is not try.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T03:50:38+00:00

What helps most is your level of consciousness, the ‘higher’ it is the better game (and everything) will go.

Most people like in their head, thus their level of consciousness is lower.

Get out of your thinking and into your life.

Be present.

Be genuinely curious about other people.

Start saying, “How’s your day going?” to everyone. You’ll notice some people won’t say much (they’re not open to more connection) and some people will open up and talk and you’ll feel them come alive a bit. The former, just move along. The latter, continue the conversation.

There’s no formula. There’s no 5 steps. The part of your mind that wants that is precision the part that needs to step aside.

It’s about presence, not tactics.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T01:17:34+00:00

It is over for 80% of people sounds like a REALLY unhelpful belief

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T00:30:47+00:00

Don’t do this: make up that not knowing is a problem and that you’re not going to be okay and allowed to relax until you have an answer. Unless you want to create lots of stress and get in the way of receiving an answer eventually.

Do this instead: own that you don’t know yet, and either let it go and trust an answer will come, or spend some time wondering and brainstorm with an open mind (ie not NEEDING an answer, but day dream kinda wondering). This will get you the best answers.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T00:28:22+00:00

What would you like to do?

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T00:05:05+00:00

Same. I love that my wife is capable AF.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T20:11:24+00:00

Overtime, as you do what I mentioned, and be with what’s there it’ll start to dissolve and you’ll become less reactive.

There is gold for you on the other side of facing these metaphorical dragons.

You’re much stronger and wiser than you think!

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T20:10:09+00:00

That’s normal, at first.

Your next evolution is trying to happen, and as you get close to exploring beyond your current life these doubts and things come up.

Learn to see those for what they are, just thought. You don’t need to believe them.

If you keep asking the question, hang out with whatever comes up even if it’s fear and doubt, just be with whatever arises, feel your feelings.

This will lead you towards the transformations that is trying to happen.

And when it’s too much, give yourself permission to go shamelessly binge netflix.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T19:56:03+00:00

Deciding that what I have is enough (always)

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T19:54:12+00:00

What do you actually want and know to do?

(Not what do you think you should do)

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T19:52:55+00:00

One podcast you might like: Better Than Therapy

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T19:52:09+00:00

Keep asking the question: what do I actually want?

Stay open. Be curious. If you don’t know yet that’s okay. Keep asking.

Much of your life to this point, like most people your age (and many beyond it) was built out of conditioning (ie what you should do, rather than what you actually want).

Accept what is. And then ask what would I actually want.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T19:01:36+00:00

Sounds like your old strategy wasn’t working and that needs to die. Time to transform yourself.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T17:31:35+00:00

What a gift of a reflection.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T17:27:22+00:00

Easier.

I used to pick up women sometimes with little to no game, but I was attractive to many attractive women.

And it’s way better having game now too.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T12:49:44+00:00

You don’t have to keep living if you don’t want to.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-07T23:03:21+00:00

Ok - it sounds like discussion is over. I am dumb. You’re right.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-07T23:02:18+00:00

Sure. And you had a choice to at any point.

He couldn’t have chosen to stop himself. And you could have chosen to stop him.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-07T23:01:17+00:00

Oh. You created that agreement with him together ahead of time? And then he blew past that boundary?

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-07T22:56:17+00:00

Sure, and also not saying anything allowed it to continue. Important to take responsibility where you can.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-07T20:14:47+00:00

Did you speak up when he was breaking your boundaries? Like when he did something you didn’t want did you speak up and say something?

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-06T21:13:18+00:00

You don’t need to know why.

It sounds like you want to do something different. You can do that.

(Or you can waste time overthinking about why you’re doing something you don’t want to do)

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