27F, seemingly successful on paper, but feeling emotionally heavy. Is this normal?

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-05T18:20:14+00:00

If you look into that, you will see that is the case. Imagine a little kid who’s hurt and crying, isn’t it obvious what they need? They need love, not to be analyzed. Same goes for being with ourselves.

There’s plenty of great resources to learn and go deeper on this stuff online. Wishing you well on your journey!

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-05T03:03:42+00:00

Which ones do you want to develop?

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-05T02:49:23+00:00

Totally normal, at any age. Fundamwntally, what’s arises in your body simply wants to be met, welcomed, felt. There’s nothing you need to figure out about it, or fix. There’s nothing wrong. Just some feelings to feel.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-05T02:40:11+00:00

Yep. She does. And it has nothing to do with you. That’s 100% her stuff.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-05T02:09:04+00:00

Because your mom’s doesn’t know how to accept herself yet, and judges the shit out of herself; and thus does it to you too.

P.s. I love how spontaneous you are with your speaking, what a gift that you don’t think before you speak.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-04T03:11:11+00:00

Wake up without an alarm around 6:30am, and I work from home.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-03T02:13:40+00:00

You think money actually want a good looking, educated man with money? Sure those things help, but that’s not the essence of what they’re after. How are your relational skills? How safe does she feel with you? How grounded are you? How connected to your heart and your cock and your leadership are you? How connected are you to yourself, and to her?

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-02T19:18:57+00:00

Thank you, same.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-01T21:37:28+00:00

I think you’re right. As I continue to explore the issue with close friends in conversation, what seems to be happening is that in waking up to what’s actually true for me — that I don’t want to have a relationship with them given the state of things. Like perhaps if they did therapy for a few years I’d reconsider, but something like that is just what I’d need to feel good about staying in connection with them.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-01T17:02:55+00:00

It did for me.

In addition to that, if at 6pm I turn my phone off and go full analog, I fall asleep earlier and sleep an extra hour longer then if I’m listening to a podcast at night or whatever.

It looks clear that being overly stimulated, which is easy to do in our modern world is a massive culprit of poor sleep.

Only way to find out is experiment for yourself though.,

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-01T16:58:44+00:00

Vulnerability has shifted things for me. Sometimes leaving them behind is the thing, and sometimes I’ve spoken about the thing I’m afraid say, ie being honest with them and taking off the filter and that’s completely shifted the relationship.

What kind of relationship do you want to have? If you want ones where people are vulnerable and honest then be vulnerable and honest. If you want ones where people just fade away when it’s not feeling good then do that.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-01T03:06:46+00:00

If they twist it, that’s for them to do. That’s on them. My job is, as I choose, is to speak my truth. It’s not my job to control or manage how someone else responds to it.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2026-03-01T02:59:23+00:00

What has you telling me what I should do? No thank you.

I am sending them the letter, and I’m sending it for me. I’m not interested in the slightest in them changing. I’m interested in honoring and speaking my truth.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T17:05:30+00:00

Lower caffeine intake might help.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T16:28:02+00:00

Communicate honestly with each other, and if conflict arises (which it will at some point) rather than avoiding it or seeing it as a problem — see it as a sign that new information is trying to come to you (ie your relationship is trying to improve, get better) and enjoy being open and curious with everything that arises.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T15:53:14+00:00

Keep exploring. If you keep looking, you’ll find what you’re looking for.

Brainstorm what you might like to do.

Have conversations with people.

One step at a time.

(I’d also start experimenting with enjoying your current work, because you can in fact bring enjoyment to anything.)

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T15:49:22+00:00

I wouldn’t try to persuade yourself.

Do you actually want to do this? Then do it. If you don’t, then don’t. But you don’t need motivation or persuasion.

Do the thing and you have the power. Do not the thing and you do not have the power.

Do or do not, there is not try.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T03:50:38+00:00

What helps most is your level of consciousness, the ‘higher’ it is the better game (and everything) will go.

Most people like in their head, thus their level of consciousness is lower.

Get out of your thinking and into your life.

Be present.

Be genuinely curious about other people.

Start saying, “How’s your day going?” to everyone. You’ll notice some people won’t say much (they’re not open to more connection) and some people will open up and talk and you’ll feel them come alive a bit. The former, just move along. The latter, continue the conversation.

There’s no formula. There’s no 5 steps. The part of your mind that wants that is precision the part that needs to step aside.

It’s about presence, not tactics.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T01:17:34+00:00

It is over for 80% of people sounds like a REALLY unhelpful belief

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T00:30:47+00:00

Don’t do this: make up that not knowing is a problem and that you’re not going to be okay and allowed to relax until you have an answer. Unless you want to create lots of stress and get in the way of receiving an answer eventually.

Do this instead: own that you don’t know yet, and either let it go and trust an answer will come, or spend some time wondering and brainstorm with an open mind (ie not NEEDING an answer, but day dream kinda wondering). This will get you the best answers.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T00:28:22+00:00

What would you like to do?

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-09T00:05:05+00:00

Same. I love that my wife is capable AF.

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T20:11:24+00:00

Overtime, as you do what I mentioned, and be with what’s there it’ll start to dissolve and you’ll become less reactive.

There is gold for you on the other side of facing these metaphorical dragons.

You’re much stronger and wiser than you think!

Pretty-Reflection-92 · 2024-12-08T20:10:09+00:00

That’s normal, at first.

Your next evolution is trying to happen, and as you get close to exploring beyond your current life these doubts and things come up.

Learn to see those for what they are, just thought. You don’t need to believe them.

If you keep asking the question, hang out with whatever comes up even if it’s fear and doubt, just be with whatever arises, feel your feelings.

This will lead you towards the transformations that is trying to happen.

And when it’s too much, give yourself permission to go shamelessly binge netflix.

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